My daughter is angry at the world and me

[blondguy]

Hey Everybody. I ma really stuck and need advice with my daughter. I love her to bits but she is angry at the world and me. I have been on the forums since January and being an old guy I just thought I ask for some help. Here is some background...if you can help me

• She gone all gothic and weird...post natal depression...wont talk about it or accept any help...
• Dyed her long blond hair jet black and wears a lot of black and umm...self injured last year when she couldnt see her married BF..
• She sent me a MMS of her 'injuries'...that really hurt to see
• Has just had a baby to her boss...he is married with 3 kids..and he has warned her not to say anything
• she asked me to borrow my 2007 XR8 when she had her car impounded and I said no...Now I am evil for saying no
• i did mention that under 25's cant drive the XR8...she didnt care...she just wanted to use it..I still said no...
• Christmas day 2015 I turned up with presents at her place and she said.."I have had a late night...can you come back tomorrow"?

I use bullet points so it would be easier to read and respond to. (I cant stand mega paragraphs) Do I just give her space...or just a phase?

She lives 10 minutes away and has 2 great kids to 2 different dads. I daughter who is 3 and her new baby son who is about 3 months..She doesnt do drugs. She wants everything now ....Platinum Foxtel...Leather lounge....VE SV6 Commodore.....and the single mums pension of course.

I spend a lot of my time on the Depression/Anxiety threads....but I am lost here....should I just let her find her own way? Any thought/opinion would be gold to me right now.....also...whats an emo?....and yes Im serious..is it a dark and depressed person?

Thankyou for reading and please do respond if you can help...Have a great weekend too!

My kind thoughts and respect

Paul 🙂

[Petra]

Hi Paul

Thanks for your good wishes to hubby. It's a whole other chapter but not mine to write about! What's that? Something Pet's not going to give her take on?! Hee, hee.

Anyhow, I like James' analogy of 'rocks' and I'd like to think if you are to have rocks thrown at you at this time, find away to block them from hurting you. Perhaps with a bat. Not to lobby back to the person of origin, but just enough so that they fall to the ground, until you work out what to do with each one. If anything at all. Look at me talking in metaphors. Apparently that's part of my personality type!

Over and out!

xx

[Guest_5218]

Paul, I've missed seeing you around since the end of last week. I've been thinking of you and wanted to send some kind thoughts your way and to let you know that I support you every day in my thoughts and hopes. I trust you are okay.

Big hug to you and lots-a-love.

Sherie xx

[Clues_Of_Blue]

Hey Paul. Haven't seen you around the threads for a bit. Just want to say hello and let you know I'm thinking of you. Hope you're doing okay, and if you're not, you know where to find me for a friendly ear or a chuckle. 🙂 Off to do my washing, now. ("Marge, where do we keep the socks that don't smell like feet?")

Blue.

[james1]

Hey Paul, my friend. Also sending you a hug and my best wishes. We'll be here when you get back 🙂

James

[blondguy]

Hey Pet...Bluguru and James...ta big time for the hugs 🙂

I love you guys....

Paulx

[Lost_Girl]

Hey Captain,

How are things going with your Dad? Are you finding any external support to help deal with the rapid changes?

Hugs, Carol xx

[blondguy]

Hey Carol...dad cant remember what facebook is today. He is digressing big time. External help?....He would boot them out the door. He has the top of the line Apple computer....he says its 'malfunctioning'...which it isnt....He also cant heat up a Home Brand pie in his microwave I just bought him. He just sits there trying to absorb the silly instructions about the different foods that he can cook.

Anyhoo...thankyou Carol for caring for as long as you have...(crackerjack profile pic too by the way 🙂 ) Wow!

Mr Woof! xx

[Lost_Girl]

Oh Paul,

It must be hard to watch and harder to manage. Are you there everyday now? Is your sister helping with Dad at all or just your Mum?

Thanks for the compliment 🙂 I keep looking at it now thinking my arm looks odd in the foreground lol.

[blondguy]

Thanks Carol, my dad is 20 mins drive away...my sister does his food shopping...and I do the doctors/hospital driving as Frankston hospital took his license away which was a good move... but he is okay...now...today.

Your arm is close to the camera Carol...I never noticed it until you just did! You are beautiful Carol xx

[Lost_Girl]

You're very kind Captain,

I am glad you get out of food shopping. Though when I do it I normally have 3 kids arguing over who is in front 🙂 I tend to get out of it these days too.

What have you been doing to keep busy?