My daughter is angry at the world and me

[blondguy]

Hey Everybody. I ma really stuck and need advice with my daughter. I love her to bits but she is angry at the world and me. I have been on the forums since January and being an old guy I just thought I ask for some help. Here is some background...if you can help me

• She gone all gothic and weird...post natal depression...wont talk about it or accept any help...
• Dyed her long blond hair jet black and wears a lot of black and umm...self injured last year when she couldnt see her married BF..
• She sent me a MMS of her 'injuries'...that really hurt to see
• Has just had a baby to her boss...he is married with 3 kids..and he has warned her not to say anything
• she asked me to borrow my 2007 XR8 when she had her car impounded and I said no...Now I am evil for saying no
• i did mention that under 25's cant drive the XR8...she didnt care...she just wanted to use it..I still said no...
• Christmas day 2015 I turned up with presents at her place and she said.."I have had a late night...can you come back tomorrow"?

I use bullet points so it would be easier to read and respond to. (I cant stand mega paragraphs) Do I just give her space...or just a phase?

She lives 10 minutes away and has 2 great kids to 2 different dads. I daughter who is 3 and her new baby son who is about 3 months..She doesnt do drugs. She wants everything now ....Platinum Foxtel...Leather lounge....VE SV6 Commodore.....and the single mums pension of course.

I spend a lot of my time on the Depression/Anxiety threads....but I am lost here....should I just let her find her own way? Any thought/opinion would be gold to me right now.....also...whats an emo?....and yes Im serious..is it a dark and depressed person?

Thankyou for reading and please do respond if you can help...Have a great weekend too!

My kind thoughts and respect

Paul 🙂

[Emmy.]

Wednesday thank you for sharing your story of how you and your mother-in-law danced in the shopping centre!! Just beautiful. We'd do anything for the ones we love wouldn't we.

Paul I'm sending you strength, courage and hope. My little mantra is "take each day one hour at a time" - that might help you at the moment?? Thinking of you xx

[sydneyharbour17]

Hello Paul!

Been perusing through this thread and yes, oh my, you do have a lot of things going on in your life. Not sure what advice to give you (which I feel a little bad about since you have been giving me such great advice) but most of the things seem to be out of your control, unfortunately. I would suggest letting your daughter know that you are there for her (I'm sure she already knows but perhaps a gentle reminder wouldn't hurt) and then just keep looking after yourself. Hopefully she will come around eventually. I agree with everyone else in that you definitely need to treat yourself a little. 🙂

Sending my well wishes,

Sydney xxx

[blondguy]

Hi Pet, thankyou for being there, Im sorry to read about your hubby reliving a bad period in his life. I hope he is having some peace. Nice1 about 'the sandwich generation'. You take care too Pet. Paul x:-)

Hey Wednesday, you always make me feel good and sorry about the passing of your MIL last year. Interesting how some people go back to being a child when the altziemers came along. Thankyou for the hugs 🙂 Paul x

Hey Emma, I have read your threads about taking one day an hour at a time..Excellent. I appreciate your kind thoughts very much. You are really doing well on the forums too Emmy, my best...Paulx

Hey Sydney, I actually wrote the title to this thread incorrectly....Instead of asking for advice I really meant support as the situation is a tough one. You have given me heaps of support and even when you first posted I noticed you are a super kind and well articulated person. You are spot on that much of whats happening is out of my control...I am trying to take my own advice and be 'gentle' with myself' Sydney. You are a legend. Paul:-) xx

[james1]

Hey Paul,

Just thought I'd poke my head in here again. It's somewhat off-topic but I try to say something nice to someone every day, so here's a bit of support whereever you are and whatever you're doing today.

You're an amazing person and a real gem on these forums. You always know what to say and the time you spend helping others is so valuable to everyone around. We are all so lucky to have you on board.

Thanks for just being awesome, even when life starts throwing rocks.

James

[Apollo_Black]

Hi Paul

Just checking in. Perhaps we can have a virtual beer together later. Cheers 🙂

[Wednesday]

Hi Paul,

Altziemers is a sad disease. People do seem to turn into characters of themselves, their original self is still there just they are not always there.

Hugs, xx

[Lost_Girl]

Leaving a mega bear hug for you Captain Underline xx

[blondguy]

Hey James....what a kind post of support and thankyou big time 🙂 I have just read a post you have written to a guy that is having huge issues with his GF. Your help and kindness to so many new posters is a gift to the people that are in pain. You know me well James....there are several rocks being thrown by life right now. You just made my day! 🙂

My Best James

Paul

Paul

[blondguy]

Hey Apollo...thanks big time for checking in....I was rapt when I saw you posted. Your support is gold....and appreciated more than you know......I hope you are doing okay and I will hold you to having that beer too by the way

My Best for you Apollo

Paul

[Apollo_Black]

Likewise Paul.

Was going to update my thread but might do so when I actually know what's going on. Things are in a way moving forward so I guess that's good. Talk soon