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i need help please

Jackson1994
Community Member

is there anybody there

i need some help i cant cope with this anymore please help

- jackson

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Jackson1994
Community Member
I don't know, like I know i should stay with my family and being here putting on a brave face is so damn hard but there's a few reasons I want to stay here. It's so hard. I said I would email them it's so stupid that they don't tell you when you log in how long the wait will be and that after all that time you might not even speak to anyone

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Yeah frustrating for sure to wait and wait and get nowhere.

i would email them asap, book in to talk to someone so you are locked in and maybe give some feedback on your experience and how it could be improved?

as far as living arrangements, it's totally up to you. You need to do what works for you. You always have our support either way.

Jackson1994
Community Member
I'm over it all I want my brother back

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Jsckson i am out and about atm but will be back later, ptobably this evening.

We are with you here, wecwill work through this and support you.

If you need to post during the day please do, you are not alone.

Cmf

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Jackson,

I hope your day is going ok. Were you able to go to work? It is always hard to move forward when we lose a loved one, it is a process and only you can determine how long it will take. There is no set time frame or a hard and fast rule. I have some pointers below which i hope may help.

1. Let yourself feel your emotions - cry, wallow, and vent as much as you need to. It's way more healthy than holding it all in.

2. Tell people how you feel because you are allowed to grieve -the more honest you are about your sadness, the more people will respect your needs.

3. Turn to people who care about you most - allow loved ones and other close contacts to share in your sorrow or simply be there when you cry.

4. Take care of yourself no matter what - figure out what you need to do to feel healthy, and make sure you do it.

5. Heal yourself with positive things - seek out counseling, turn to exercising, as a healthier way of distracting yourself.

6. Recognise that time doesn't heal all and that's ok - accepting and embracing your new 'normal' might help you reconcile your losses.

7. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel -your grief is your own, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to 'move on' or 'get over it.' Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgment.

Hope you are ok.

cmf

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Jackson,

just wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing. Haven't heard from you for a couple of days and worried you may be struggling.

Did you email headspace to kanage to get onto someone there? There is another organsation www.griefline.org.au where you can also speak with someone over the phone or on line.

i hope you are ok, please let us know how your are going.

cmf

Jackson1994
Community Member
Sorry. Things have been super super tough. Basically got forced into a GP appointment - doctor wants me on medication im not taking it. I threw it in the bin. Don't ask what's going on through my head because I can't tell you

Jackson1994
Community Member
I'm sorry for not responding. I have not been good, things are really really tough. I was basically forced into seeing my gp who wants to put me on anxiety meds I threw them in the bin I'm not taking that don't ask what's going on in my head because i don't know

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Jackson,

Sorry to hear things have been so tough. Did your dr give you a referral to a psychologist? Sometimes we are hesitant to take medications but it may be worth it to see if hey help a little.

Did the dr say suggest anything else?

Jackson1994
Community Member
Generalised anxiety disorder - a given, I was waiting to be told that. Yeah got a referral. I'm done with this though to be honest I'm over it