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Battling the booze

Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

When the black dog bites, many of us reach for a drink. It can ease the pain, help us relax, block out what's going on in our minds. If it's just the odd drink now and then, even one or two a night, there's no harm and maybe even welcome relief. But for some of us, many in fact, literally drowning our sorrows becomes a problem in itself. We drink more and more until the booze takes over, and drinking becomes all we want to do. 

That was me for a long time until I finally realised the combination of booze and depression would kill me. If I wanted to live, if I wanted to be able to manage my depression, I had to get sober. I did, nearly five years ago, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

If booze is controlling you and you're not controlling it, this thread is for you. If you want to regain control - get sober or moderate your drinking (which for many is harder than quitting) or if you're worried you are drinking too much, join us here.

On this thread I'll talk about my battle with the booze and offer advice and support to anyone who is struggling. I welcome anyone who's been there or is worried they are going there, to join in. And I hope others now living sober will come here to help our friends who are struggling.

One thing this thread is not is a place to discuss how much a drink or two helps you. It's not an anti-alcohol thread, but it's not a general discussion about alcohol either. It's for people who are genuinely worried about it or who want to control it, and it's a place of celebration (without judgment about drinkers) for those of us who are now living sober.

I hope anyone who's battling the booze will join us.

Cheers 😀

Kaz 

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Rhes
Community Member
And thanks for checking in today Kaz! It's really nice to be thought of. Yes I know what you mean about the challenge always being there. I think my determination is so strong because I know it'll just add to all my other problems, not help them. Finally, I've worked that out! 🙂

Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Rhes, it really is lovely to see you and to know you're going so well. Makes me very happy.

Hiya Moon and Freddo, and all other fellow travellers here. Sorry I've been neglecting this place a bit. Time I did a spring clean and brought out the barbie! 😄

Hope you're OK Freddo.

Cheers all.

Hey Everyone,

This is my first time on this site and I suffer from anxiety and depression. I've been drinking a lot since breaking up with my boyfriend. I've been on an alcoholism site but find that noone else seems to have mental health problems. I couldn't work out how to start a new thread but thought this one was relevant to me.

Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi sweetichick, welcome to the forum! It's good to have you here. You are amongst friends.

I'm sorry to hear of your breakup, that must have hurt you deeply. And using alcohol to ease pain is very common. Trouble is, when we have depression and anxiety, it's easy to lose control of our drinking, to the point that it starts to control us.

Well done for reaching out here hun, I know how hard that is and I admire your courage and self-awareness in acknowledging it's become a problem. If there is anything you'd like to ask or share please feel free. Are you wanting to stop drinking or cut down? And how are you getting on with your depression and anxiety - are you getting treatment?

Also, if you want to start your own thread, to introduce yourself to the broader BB community, just go onto a board (eg Welcome and orientation) and look at the top right hand corner for New Thread. Click on that and you're away!

Hope to talk with you again

Kaz

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
I'm sorry but my copy and paste didn't work so I lost my reply, but will try again. Geoff.

Hi Sweetiechick and welcome, hope you're doing ok. I'm pretty new here too and hope I can be of support for you. Great to meet you,

Rhes

Rhes
Community Member
No worries Geoff, hear from you soon 👍

Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hiya Rhes hun - what are you up to today? Hope all is well. Sweetichick - how are you going? Hope we hear from you soon.

I've just invited a new member called Jesse1 to look in here. I know my lovely fellow travellers will be welcoming. Jesse if you drop by I'll be around tonight, on the couch watching the footy. 😄

Cheers

Kaz

Hey Rhes,

I'm new to this, this is my first reply to someone! It takes courage to do what you're doing. It's dragon slaying stuff dude! I'm learning new ways of approaching the same issues that keep coming up in my life, and to be more at peace with myself. Being more compassionate and gentle towards myself helps me feel I matter and am worth looking after. Keep up with good fight! This forum is a very positive uplifting place.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
dear Rhes, what a mammoth effort for you to stop for 1 month, 1 day is great but to be able to extend this to 1 month whow, that's just terrific.

Sweetichick, I'm sure that many of us have had mental problems while we drank alcohol, I certainly did and would never the hide the fact,because if I do then I am only fooling myself.


Moonstruck whow 3 years fantastic, but whether it's for medical reasons is certainly a great way, as I had to now drink socially because of having a seizure and that's not what I would ever want to happen again, because to recover from a grand mal is where you don't know what day it is, where you are, your birth date or who is Prime Minister, plus you can't drive a car.

If you can walk past a bottle shop or go ito a supermarket and be able to ignore the where the alcohol is sold, then you are cured, especially when you are stressed out, because you know what the dangers lie ahead if you go in and start once again.

It is 'that determination' as Rhes has said, that willpower, that strength you need to be successful and that's what I am seeing here, so well done.

The question you maybe asking is why do I drink socially, well the answer is that I know when I need to stop, otherwise there is a chance that a seizure will happen.

Lookingforward from hearing from you Jessie as well as Gettingbetter. Geoff. x