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Battling the booze

Kazzl
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When the black dog bites, many of us reach for a drink. It can ease the pain, help us relax, block out what's going on in our minds. If it's just the odd drink now and then, even one or two a night, there's no harm and maybe even welcome relief. But for some of us, many in fact, literally drowning our sorrows becomes a problem in itself. We drink more and more until the booze takes over, and drinking becomes all we want to do. 

That was me for a long time until I finally realised the combination of booze and depression would kill me. If I wanted to live, if I wanted to be able to manage my depression, I had to get sober. I did, nearly five years ago, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

If booze is controlling you and you're not controlling it, this thread is for you. If you want to regain control - get sober or moderate your drinking (which for many is harder than quitting) or if you're worried you are drinking too much, join us here.

On this thread I'll talk about my battle with the booze and offer advice and support to anyone who is struggling. I welcome anyone who's been there or is worried they are going there, to join in. And I hope others now living sober will come here to help our friends who are struggling.

One thing this thread is not is a place to discuss how much a drink or two helps you. It's not an anti-alcohol thread, but it's not a general discussion about alcohol either. It's for people who are genuinely worried about it or who want to control it, and it's a place of celebration (without judgment about drinkers) for those of us who are now living sober.

I hope anyone who's battling the booze will join us.

Cheers 😀

Kaz 

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Roberty_Bob
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Well done on your five year sobriety Bayleaf. I agree that having support is extremely useful. This group will be a good start Nick. You might also want to Google for some online and real life support groups. There are a wide variety, more than just the traditional well known one. I don't think I can mention them by name but I'm sure you can find something that will suit you.

Roberty_Bob
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Seven weeks overdue but I finally got my one year sobriety tattoo yesterday afternoon. The design is based on the Straight Edge (SE) movement. The cross represents the cross marked on the hands of underage members of a band that played at a licenced venue some time back inducating to bar staff that they weren't to be served alcohol.

Well done Bob. Did it hurt? I've never had a tattoo. Is it on your hand, and what colours?

Thanks! It's black and on my upper right arm. It hurt but it was nice hurt. Endorphins are awesome!

Well done you legends...you're an inspiration.

Tattoos are a good symbol of permanence...And for you guys, an allegiance to sobriety.

Kazzl
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Nice one Bob! Love the design and its significance. Mine's Picasso's dove of peace. I've been thinking about getting another one to mark my five years (yesterday!) but I can't decide what I want or where to put it.

Roberty_Bob
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Five years? Wow, well done!

Pepper_Charlie
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Hi Kaz

Thank you for starting this thread - I can relate to so many things. May the 19th 2016, was my 42nd birthday, the day before we buried my cousin, and also the day / night I got out of control. May the 20th was the day, I buried my cousin, and stopped drinking, and stopped hurting my family.

I've battled anxiety and depression for about 5 years now - everything is perfect in my life with medication, I'm happy, I've got a good job, supportive and loving family - the exception is if I have that one drink to many, I turn into a monster and verbally hurt everyone in my life, especially and foremost my sister. I'm not sure why, but I say and do something whilst in this state and I couldn't of even imagined it in my wildest dreams or nightmares.

Thursday night, my sister and I were having a few drinks with our family in preparation for the funeral the next day, the next drink is a blur - I spat hate and jealousy at my sister prior to getting in a car and driving it into a ditch, I woke up in the car and being pulled out by my family. I'm so disgusted in myself, I hate myself so much at this point. We had to get my car towed back to my place of residence over 200km away - the guilt is enormous.

Today I I'm trying to dig myself out of this deep dark hole and try to rebuild and repair my relationships with my family. Today is my second day without a drink, and I'm seriously happy about this. I don't know if I'm an alcoholic, but I know it takes me to dark places at times.

Thank you or listening.

Welcome Pepper&Charlie. Well done mate for making such a hard decision. Getting sober was probably the hardest thing I've ever done and I have never regretted one day of it. It gave me my life back, and it will you too mate.

Your story is very familiar. So many of us have had terrible times like that ... when we hit our rock bottom. You're not alone. And you have made the first and hardest step.

A few little tips - the first week is rough, especially if you usually drink every day. Days 3 and 4 will be very tough. By then you're over the hangover, there's nothing physical stopping you and you will crave like mad. Keep yourself distracted, go places where you can't drink, go straight to bed when you get home if necessary, just get past those first hard days.

I'm here, along with others who have been through it, ready to help you mate. Keep talking to us.

You won't regret this.

Kaz

geoff
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dear Kaz, 5 years is a remarkable effort and Bob even 1 year is also a remarkable job, so well done tro the both of you.
Pepper and Charlie, there are times when our emotions become over heated when we are inebriated, because there could be someting in particular that could annoy you, and it will come out when you are intoxicated.
It doesn't particularly worry you when are sober, or you don't feel that it's appropriate to say these things, but once you have had too many then the doors open.
Many different people have their own thoughts as to what 'being an alcoholic' means, all which describe so many interruptions it's hard to believe what the answer is, 2 drinks a day, a drink every day, or binge drinking, it's so confusing, one doctor says something then a health person says something else, so it depends on what you think yourself.
To stop for 2 days is probably one of the worse stages, so I also want to congratulate you for doing this.
Alcohol is legal addiction in that over 18 you can drink, but it does have it's restrictions, but it's always a great topic to talk about. Geoff.