Hello Kirk
It's so sad to hear of a marriage break up , especially when one partner is so hurt by it all. I expect you have puzzled until your head is spinning about why she left and still have no answers. Sometimes there are no answers, or at least none that the other person can express.
I doubt very much that it was your fault (just in case this is what you are thinking). I'm not being very comforting about this Kirk but someones it just happens. Can you make yourself love someone or make them love you? Probably not.
There comes a time to try and accept your loss. Neil has suggested you speak to your doctor. A great suggestion. Good doctors are amazing people I have found and talking face to face with someone helps enormously.
You don't say if you are working or not. A job is great for giving you a different perspective. If not, what about volunteering? The pain of your loss will fade, that's a promise. It will take place more easily if you are able to have something else in your life such as work, an absorbing hobby or other activity, being away from your home, particularly if it is still your marital home, and being with other people.
There is no need to discuss your situation with others if you would rather not. Just be part of the crowd. Grief of this sort will take time to heal, but it will heal.
Hang in my friend. Just a thought. How do you feel now compared with a year ago? Better, worse, the same? Think back! I suspect you are not in such a bad place as you were originally and this should give you hope and a bit of sunshine.
Write in often, many people here want to help you.
White Rose
