Not too sure what I'm going through. Need a bit of help

[Pearse3]

Hi, for about a year now at least once a week I wake up and just feel like everything is a effort and I get really frustrated with everything even if it is just someone walking past me. Sometimes it gets so bad that I flip out on my partner and start getting physically aggressive and then after the fight I would go to our room and ball by eyes out for at least half an hour.

Have no idea what is happening to me to make me do this, need to understand what it could be.

[shyviolet79]

Hi Pearse3, 

 Firstly, well done for reaching out on here! I know that can be half the battle sometimes, so good on you for taking that step 🙂 

It sounds like you may have a lot going on in your life right now, and this could be raising your stress levels? How would you feel about the idea of going to see your GP for a chat? I know it can be tough to talk about mental health issues, but a good GP can be a wealth of great information to help you work out what has been happening for you lately... I still remember how nervous I was the very first time I spoke to a GP, but he was very reassuring and I felt better afterwards, having some understanding of why I was crying all the time and just generally not coping... 

The other thing is that I'm fairly certain that a GP could also  refer you to a psychologist, if that is something you feel might be helpful to you? Most people are generally eligible for six sessions under Medicare, so it shouldn't have too much impact on you financially... 

For now though, maybe just go easy on yourself when those tough days hit you? Think about the little things that you can do to try to make yourself feel a little better, and cut back on anything that doesn't absolutely have to be done on that day... I know myself that it's the little things like just being able to watch a good movie or a few episodes of my favourite tv show, going for a walk along the beach, or having a shower ~ those are my ways of destressing... 

I hope you are okay 🙂

Chantell x 

[Pearse3]

Hi Chantelle,

Thank you for replying, I have a doctors appointment Monday for something else but was thinking of bringing this situation up aswell.

I also think I have a lot of stress in my life but very hard to cut down on this.

Thanks

[geoff]

dear Pearce, it's great that you're come to the site.
What I would suggest is for you to do the K-10 test, so just google it and a set of questions will come up and at the end will indicate to you whether or not you have depression, but I would do the test at least a couple of times, not one after the other but different times during the day, then when you see your doctor on Monday you can tell him/her what your score was, and then appropriate treatment will begin if needed.
Your partner would also be keen to know why you do get aggressive and then go to the bedroom and cry, because the more they know then the more they can help you.
Please let us know how you get on and I hope that your other condition isn't serious. Geoff.

[shyviolet79]

Hello again 🙂 

Great to hear you have a dr appt today! (Although I do hope your medical issue isn't serious)... It would be the perfect opportunity for you to mention to the Dr how you are feeling, if time allows? Geoff's suggestion of taking in the K-10 questionnaire is a great one too! They generally ask you to fill this out anyway, so if you have already done it then that will save you some time 🙂 I'm not quite sure of the best site to refer you to for this test, but if it isn't here on beyondblue, then maybe black dog institute, or sane? You could even just google it as Geoff suggested 🙂 

Yes, stress and pressures can be really hard to cut back on, unfortunately.... But there are options that can help you to manage this a little better, such as counselling, if you feel up to talking...

Good luck for your appt 🙂

Chantell

[blondguy]

Hi Pearce

I am sorry that you are in this sad place right now. It can be very upsetting and especially when we feel 'lost' and are unsure in which direction to proceed. I just noted that you have an appointment with your GP today.GP's nowadays have a much better understanding of what you are going through.

Geoff & Chantell have some great advice, expecially re the K10 test. It can take away some of the uncertainty in your life by providing you with the information you need.

Severe stress can result in you having the symptoms you have right now. The crying and being aggressive are symptomatic of a 'tired' mind.

I do hope you will be able to vent to your doctor/therapist to help find your way through the dark clouds you have at the moment.

Kind Thoughts for You

Paul

[White_Rose]

Hello Pearse

Welcome to the forum. Beyond Blue have the K10 test. Go to the home page and click on the circle named Learn about depression. Then scroll down the page and find Anxiety and Depression K10 checklist. This is an indicator only but if your score is reasonably high it needs further investigation.

Bring this up with your GP because the sooner you get some help the better you will feel.

Mary