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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Cattiii Depression or the cycle of anti-depressants and not being able to feel
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I have had depression since 2010, granted it has been relieved at times and also reared its ugly head in two big episodes of depression. I've been on antidepressants now for the majority of the past 6 years and have changed them throughout the years.... View more

I have had depression since 2010, granted it has been relieved at times and also reared its ugly head in two big episodes of depression. I've been on antidepressants now for the majority of the past 6 years and have changed them throughout the years.... I have low times where I just want to avoid things of responsibility like driving, work, cooking, cleaning and well life. I have avoided driving to much that now I get very anxious about having to drive to new places even though deep down I know I can drive well and that nothing terrible can happen it's like a protective bubble I put myself in to avoid to much stress and becoming depressed but in the process I become Depressed I guess because of the avoidance behaviour. I also avoid work as well when I feel too anxious and that is when it causes problems at home and at work. I guess what I am trying to get at is perhaps being on antidepressants and this avoidance behaviour is actually preventing me to feel what I need to feel. Maybe I need to feel more so my body and brain and adapt to life... I am starting to think this bubble I have created is not me anymore and I just want to be me.... I guess I want to feel anger, stress, excited, happy, loved.... All of that and more but I can't feel any of that and haven't for years. I know that things in life I experience I should be feeling a certain way but I just feel nothing. I was got married years ago and did not enjoy the day, I didn't experience happiness. I just want to feel again and I want help with this so badly.

OhmeOhmy That Sinking Feeling
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I have been doing well for just over 12 months now but tonight I'm scared because I have that sinking feeling coming over me. I feel like I'm spiraling and that I'm going to mess everything up. It's like I'm collapsing under the weight of everything.... View more

I have been doing well for just over 12 months now but tonight I'm scared because I have that sinking feeling coming over me. I feel like I'm spiraling and that I'm going to mess everything up. It's like I'm collapsing under the weight of everything. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day.

abby754 Confused & lost in this roller coaster...
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Hi Everyone. I am new to this forum. thank you for having me here. I hope as well as receiving advice and support that I can also give helpful advice and support as well. I am currently feeling a bit "All over the place" at the moment. and my mind is... View more

Hi Everyone. I am new to this forum. thank you for having me here. I hope as well as receiving advice and support that I can also give helpful advice and support as well. I am currently feeling a bit "All over the place" at the moment. and my mind is constantly trying to break me down. telling me, i'm hopeless pathetic and worthless, then other times I feel okay, not on top of the world but just okay - I am just wondering does anyone else have this experience with depression or any other mental illness, okay one day, rock bottom the next.. ? It's as if I am caught in a whirl wind that is my mind. its exhausting and confusing. but most of all i feel like i should be able to be 'good' 'happy' all the time. and i'm not. any words would be greatly appreciated. is it normal to feel quite all over the place? Thanks everyone. Ab

Chicken_Wings It's back
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I haven't been on the site for a while. I've been working on myself and trying to be better, but the last couple of days I've gone backwards. there was about a week where I can say I was genuinely happy, I was blissfully unaware of depression or anxi... View more

I haven't been on the site for a while. I've been working on myself and trying to be better, but the last couple of days I've gone backwards. there was about a week where I can say I was genuinely happy, I was blissfully unaware of depression or anxiety. I was eating and sleeping well, I was interested in things and people. But all it took was one conversation for these feelings to begin to come back. Gradually my feelings towards myself have gotten worse again and now I'm starting to feel these anxious feelings returning too. It's been happening slowing and I've been trying to curb it. Lately I've been becoming more and more critical of my appearance. I'm also worrying more and more about my health. I tell myself I'm going to do things to make my lifestyle more healthy, but I can't force myself to actually do them. I feel like there is an answer somewhere to how to be happy with myself. Other people seem to be happy. Other people seem to be able to accept aging or the changes in life. i feel like I'm peddling the wheels but I'm not getting anywhere.

Fmlsad Stuck and alone in a small ball
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Hi everyone, I have suffered from depression and anxiety for 15+ years, starting as a teenager. I have always managed for the most part, though lately it is getting the better of me. I am a single mum, with a very lacking ex who does not make time fo... View more

Hi everyone, I have suffered from depression and anxiety for 15+ years, starting as a teenager. I have always managed for the most part, though lately it is getting the better of me. I am a single mum, with a very lacking ex who does not make time for the kids, nor helps me with them and does not help financially, so I don't get a break. I have no family - except a mother in law that is 1400kms away - and she has her own issues, so I really hate to burden her. I want to join some groups, but find it hard to find kid friendly, low cost options. so here I am, hoping to find some like minded people to rally with and talk to when I feel so low and just need human interaction - without the online chats who just seem to want to talk sex all the time - and maybe lead to some RL friendships. I have separated in the last few months - after 11 years - it was my decision and I was quite happy about it, but he is very good at manipulating me and with my depression I can be very easily led, hence his mind games have sent me into a downward spiral, I really was in a nice place, getting my life in order, reaching out to new social circles, however now I just want to roll into a ball and not move - I know it's just the depression, but I just can't function or get past it.

Lisa1989 Looking for advice for overcoming feelings of depression
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Hi, I am 26 years old. I have not been officially diagnosed with depression, but identify with a lot of its symptoms. I have problems with yo yo dieting and binge eating, to the point where it sometimes makes me ill. On the weekends I don't feel like... View more

Hi, I am 26 years old. I have not been officially diagnosed with depression, but identify with a lot of its symptoms. I have problems with yo yo dieting and binge eating, to the point where it sometimes makes me ill. On the weekends I don't feel like doing anything but going to bed or watching TV. I have a job that can sometimes be stressful and it gets to me so much that I become a blubbering mess! I am married, have a new, beautiful house, and a pretty good job. I shouldn't feel the way I do. My husband tries to make me feel better and tries to understand it but mostly it just makes him frustrated and helpless. In turn this makes me feel guilt for bringing him down with me. I have seen two different psychologists, each time helping me to deal with different issues. They both suggested that I take up a new hobby. But each time I think of doing it I have no motivation. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I would really appreciate some advice on how to not allow depression to take hold.

Resilence I don't see my smile anymore
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I use to always be a happy person and was called smiley before but now I don't see myself even looking at myself in the mirror anymore. I've been depressed since I've been 16 and now I'm 24 I suffer from anxiety and I've finally decided to take medic... View more

I use to always be a happy person and was called smiley before but now I don't see myself even looking at myself in the mirror anymore. I've been depressed since I've been 16 and now I'm 24 I suffer from anxiety and I've finally decided to take medication to help me and so far it has been helping me little by little each day. I see a psychologist every now and then but feel like I always need to vent ALOT because I'm such an emotional person and I feel so much better when it is out. This drives me crazy as a person. I feel like my personality as a person makes me crazy at times its like I can't be happy anymore. I'm a social person and I feel so depressed all the time when I don't get enough interaction in my day or when I'm left alone for a couple hours in my day... I hate it. I hate being alone. I hate living in this isolated area and being away from people. When I don't talk to someone in my day it drives me crazy I just want to drive somewhere and TALK. I've been very confused about which career to do for many years now and I struggle making decisions and anxious about making wrong choices. I've done a few different careers and I don't want to be a failure again. I either get bored from the job or feel like I need more talking in the job. Every job I've done I've legit hated and it has made me depressed all the time. I sit at tafe and I feel so costriphobic being in a classroom all day and sitting on my ass.. I hate it.. I hate studying and have never liked school.. I'm not enjoying tafe and I don't find it fun at all.. I hate it so much but I do it because I'd rather be depressed in class then be depressed sitting at home. I will be worse. I'm so outgoing, hands on and I value my freedom heaps. Is anyone out there feel like me? Can anyone relate to this? My personality drives me crazy! I feel like my heart is a ghost town.. Forever depressed and I never find anything I'm passionate about or LOVE. How long do I have to be miserable for seriously?

Vita16 Lost...what next??
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So, what next? I have been on medication for 4 months and feel better for it aside from the side-effects. I have seen my psychologist every fortnight as well which has been challenging, uncomfortable, rewarding, safe, and even a couple of funny momen... View more

So, what next? I have been on medication for 4 months and feel better for it aside from the side-effects. I have seen my psychologist every fortnight as well which has been challenging, uncomfortable, rewarding, safe, and even a couple of funny moments thrown as well. Thing is I don't feel as down or sad as I used to, but don't feel happy either - am not sure what that means. Therapy seems to be going well, but I'm left wondering what next? She has progressed me to mindfulness - ie being the moment be it work, family, friends or by myself > am trying, but it is hard when I'm used to going at life at a million miles an hour. Have been compliant with my self-care plan - exercise, rest, sleep, etc. Work has been ok, reduced hours to 45-50/week, but am finding motivation problematic. Have never been one to procrastinate, but seem quite good at it now. Breaking things down, lists etc are getting me through. I know that things will improve with time; I get it is ok not to be ok; I get that that if we're a magic solution to depression someone would have provided it by now. But when I was undiagnosed, miserable, and at risk at least I had that...now I just feel like a rudderless ship. Just re-reading this post I'm rambling a lot - sorry, not very readable, but maybe a reflection of where I am. Thanks for reading Vita

Pearse3 Not too sure what I'm going through. Need a bit of help
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Hi, for about a year now at least once a week I wake up and just feel like everything is a effort and I get really frustrated with everything even if it is just someone walking past me. Sometimes it gets so bad that I flip out on my partner and start... View more

Hi, for about a year now at least once a week I wake up and just feel like everything is a effort and I get really frustrated with everything even if it is just someone walking past me. Sometimes it gets so bad that I flip out on my partner and start getting physically aggressive and then after the fight I would go to our room and ball by eyes out for at least half an hour. Have no idea what is happening to me to make me do this, need to understand what it could be.

Nickname_9656A407-7ADC-46 chronic depression and feeling paralyzed
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I've had depression as far back as I can remember. It gets a bit better at times and then really bad. At the moment it's ok just paralyzing. I can't seem to do anything, stuck in the same position day after day. I try to better my life but the only t... View more

I've had depression as far back as I can remember. It gets a bit better at times and then really bad. At the moment it's ok just paralyzing. I can't seem to do anything, stuck in the same position day after day. I try to better my life but the only thing I seem to be able to do at the moment is walk which gives some relief but then I have to go home and can't go for another walk until the next day. I try to do productive stuff at home but it seems pointless. Too hard. I have four kids aged 10 to 5 months and my partner is unemployed and at home 24/7. I think he's depressed too but won't admit it. I need to learn to drive, need to bring in money but it all seems like such a heavy weight I end up just pottering around the house until I collapse into bed at night waiting for my walk the next day so I can feel a bit better again. It's too hard to see a psychologist at the moment and when I think about going back on antidepressants I consider the side effects like persistent tiredness I get when on them and little relief with the down mood. I've tried a number of them and only had one with any good effect but still has the negative side effects. What are my other options? Is there a way I can pull up out of this without medication and psychotherapy? I'm so tired of feeling like everything is too hard and too much.