Not fitting in

[150lashes]

Has anyone ever felt that they just don't fit in anywhere?

Maybe you don't fit in with their old best school buddies anymore, because they are still out there living the dream and you have settled down with a family and kids?

Maybe ​you don't fit in with the business world anymore because you're no longer part of it? Because you quit. Because of circumstances.

Maybe you don't fit in with the ​mums in your kids class at school pick up because they are stay at home mums and you can't relate to the same things?

Maybe you feel jealous at people that have the life you could have had, the ones who got the good opportunities?

Maybe you hate the so called "mentor" that you trusted, because they promised you an opportunity that you really wanted and they gave it to someone else. And everytime you turn up to their business it's in your face that it isn't your opportunity. And you have to live with that and pretend you don't care.

Maybe you just don't fit in anywhere at all and you wonder if things will ever change.

[Starwolf]

Always good to see people who accept and appreciate their individuality enough not to compromise.

Life is too short and precious to be turned into a lie.

May it be artists, scientists , philosophers etc...many of those who have triggered huge steps forward for humanity at large are/have been social misfits (and thought of as crackpots).

[Clues_Of_Blue]

That's true of my experience too, Rob. Not that I was ever one to compromise myself, but I guess I have become more overt about showing who I am in more recent years, and people around me have responded to that. It draws people who agree with my unpopular opinions (or just the nature of my openness with them) and have been too timid to admit it to others, and I think I have had a positive influence on a few people-pleasers who really just want to get on with being themselves. Sure there are those who don't like it, but too bad. You're never going to please everyone, and if you're going to please anyone, it should be authentic types not the vapid, shallow fakes and users, anyway.

I've noticed your posts in other threads, but I don't think we've spoken directly before. Nice to meet you. (I'll try and remember to have a goosie at that song, when I have a minute.)

You're right, Starwolf, it's not the people who conform that change or better the world (in a big way, or even for just a few people). Misfits for the win!

[SquarePeggie]

I relate to this so much. I don't fit in anywhere because it doesn't come naturally to me to do the same things that my friends are doing in regards to having a relationship and kids. I feel like I am on the sidelines. My urge to run and move to another city is overwhelming at times however I have run enough times to know that the problem and is me and I that's the one thing I can't run from.

[150lashes]

I understand

I actually want to relocate and looking into doing that, as I feel a fresh start and nee surrounding may help.

I'm just not sure, and would hate to think that I make a big move that would affect everyone, only to find that I encounter all the same issues because maybe it's just me.

[SquarePeggie]

Hi 150lashes, I'm glad i'm not the only one who wants to run!

In my experience the same problems have crept up eventually, that's how I know I'm the problem. But that said, the times I've moved to a place that I really wanted to live (like London) and not just moved because I was running have been some of the best times of my life. I guess that can be the difference if you are moving because the new place offers you something and is exciting or if you just want to move anywhere to escape.

Some of the same issues may come up but maybe a new place with new friends and experiences offers enough good stuff too 🙂