New and unsure

[Sophia22]

Hello guys,

I am totally new to any kind of forum and any sort ofor public communication about my feelings.

I just thought I would express how I'm feeling and see if anyone has any tips for me.

In life I have good family support, financial security, a loving husband and a roof over my head. So it seems so silly and selfish to complain about anything.

But at the same time I often wake feeling sad. I have days where I feel like I am different from everyone else. Days where washing up a plate seems like too much effort. I don't worry about the things most people my age do but I worry about other things like the planet and the way society is going and our unsustainable lives. I don't worry all the time though. I'd never say I was anxious at all. All I mean is I feel quite distant from everyone else a lot of the time and end up feeling empty. Sometimes I feel like the world we have created for ourselves isn't one I want to live in and just want to run off and live in the woods where I would have real problems like food and water not silly friendship stuff or money stuff.

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Thanks.

S.

[white knight]

Hi Sophia, welcome

I used to think similar up till 1987. I then had a work crisis and panic attack. I attended a therapist. He quickly realised my thoughts, many of them, were unrealistic. Eg worrying about issues beyond my control.

Worry is non productive. It can cause ulcers, strokes, heart issues.

You would be wise to see a GP. Among my issues of bipolar, depression and anxiety I have dysthymia, a low mood constant depression. We cant diagnose however I can mention my sadness came and went like yours.

You're not selfish complaining. Famous successful people worldwide have depressive illnesses.

Try reading these threads. Use google

Topic: worry worry worry- beyondblue

Topic: sad all the time? Dysthymia- beyondblue

Topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue

Feel free to repost.

Tony WK

[Ken1]

Hey Sophia,

Good on you for taking the plunge to seek online communication! I get the hesitancy and nervousness about it initially but you should feel accomplished in taking the plunge.

No matter what we have, there can always seem to be reason to complain, so no one would think you selfish or anything of the sort in doing so, believe me.

Totally totally get where you're coming from. On one hand I could understand if it's something psychological i.e. mild form of depression but on the other hand I would understand if it's simply not that at all. Many people get caught up over things that don't matter and you not wanting to get caught up in that sets you a part straight away! That's a good thing in my opinion!

Either way, I'd suggest seeing a counsellor if you feel up to it or even doing a quick depression/K10 test that you can easily find on this site or online in general. This can help you deal with any psychological unwanted feelings if they are there.

All the best!

Bonnie

[geoff]

hello Sophia, great that you have signed up for the site, but I'm sure at first you could have been very hesitant, worried about what sort of reaction you might get back, but all of us have been through our own traumas which we believe no one else has had to cope with, or no one will understand, that's not true, it's because we have been through it ourselves and only wished we had people to talk with, so it's great to have you join us.
Depression may have no reason why it starts to control you, it doesn't matter how well your life may seem to be, a 'happy' life, coping with all your finances and generally feeling that there shouldn't be any problems, but this illness by-passes what it wants to, it has no respect for you, and doesn't care one bit how it can destroy your life.
It will and it can dominant everything you would think it couldn't possibly do, and there will be times when it's stronger than other times, that is something you won't be able to predict, and can I say that you are unable to overcome it by yourself, until you have been taught and counselled by a psychologist.
They will discuss different types of ways so that you cope with it, and that's important, but you need to see your doctor first, and please don't be worried when you have an appointment, maybe you could write down what is really troubling yourself, and then hand it over to them, that sort of breaks the ice. Geoff.