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[pamela82]

My name is pamela and I need some help. I suffer with depression and no one around me understands what its like. I am married but my husband is not at all supportive he thinks its all a joke and that my Dr will just say its anything to get money. When I try yot tell him stuff he just rolls his eyes and go here we go again.

 I have 2 children and they are the only reason i get up each morning. They are the ones who hold me here on earth without them I don't think I would be here.

 I need people who knows how it feels to

suffer in silence 

Thanks pamela 

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[Neil_1]

Dear Pamela

Welcome to Beyond Blue and I really thank you for coming here and providing your post.

And you know what – you are NOT alone.  There’s many on this site who have posted with this kind of situation and though I’m not in that situation, it would be extremely difficult and frustrating for you, which is why I’m so pleased you’ve come here and posted.

But suffering in silence is definitely not a good thing;  as you’ve probably worked out.   But even IF you had support at home, there’s only so much that a supportive partner can offer, as for most situations, while they are supportive and caring, they still aren’t fully equipped with the know-how to give you the support, care and advice that is so important.

In order to get this kind of assistance, it is really needed for a trip to your Dr;   which it sounds that you’ve done and I really hope that your Dr is supportive of you in this situation – I hope that you may be able to share this;  ie:   has your dr provided you with a mental health plan?   Where at the end of this, you would then be eligible for 6 appointments to a suitable psychologist – and it would obviously be your dr who would provide you with this referral.  The costs of these appointments is usually met to a percentage by Medicare, so you hopefully don’t have to pay the full amount.

I’ll send this off now before I begin to type too many more questions for you.  I do hope to hear back from you also.

Kind regards

Neil

[Zeal]

Hi Pamela,

I'm sorry to hear about your struggle with depression. Do you have close family who you talk to, like siblings? Your husband clearly doesn't understand your depression, and that's really unfortunate. You don't deserve the poor treatment he is giving you about this. Is it possible for your husband to come to a doctor appointment with you, so that your doctor can explain your situation to your husband?

I'm glad your children are a comfort to you. Are old are they?

I am 22 and single at the moment, so I can't truly relate to your situation. I had depression in my teens, and my family were supportive. I hope your husband can learn to empathise with you, and that he stops treating your depression like it's not real.

Good luck with everything. Hopefully someone who is in a similar situation to you will reply as well. Feel free to post back - that's what this forum is for 🙂

SM

[Doolhof]

Hi Pamela,

Thanks for sharing your story here with us. I too suffer from depression and have a husband who really doesn't understand how debilitating depression can be.

As Neil and SM have mentioned, I hope you have a good relationship with your Dr and he/she is able to help you.

You mentioned you love your children and live for them, it is wonderful you have them in your life. Can you become more involved in some of their activities so you can meet different people?

Hope you don't mind all the questions, but do you work outside of the home or are you a very important stay at home Mum? Do you have hobbies and interests to keep your mind occupied and to help fulfil your day?

Have you tried using some of the telephone help lines like here at Beyond Blue or Lifeline? I use them now and then, the people on the other end of the line really understand how you are feeling and can help. I have also used the Webchat here at Beyond Blue.

I hope some of these ideas help you. Please get back to us if you feel happy to do so as we really do hope you are okay.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools