Need help improving my appearance?

[CeceD293]

I hate being Black girl…it’s a curse. Black girls are deemed the least desirable and least attractive race. Mixed, White, Asian, Latina and Indian girls are usually prettier than Black girls since they have lighter colored skin, nicer facial features and better more manageable hair. I would have been happy if I was born any other race or was at least mixed so I could have had a better chance at looking decent. Black female features are considered unfeminine many people even say that they look men. I always hear people say that, “It’s hard to find a pretty Black girl…she usually has to be mixed to be pretty”. I am so jealous of those Mixed, White, Asian, Latina and Indian girls cause of their better looks and better hair. But since I have to live in this body I want to make myself look as less Black as possible. I have full lips (that are not huge), medium sized nose, brown skin, and coarse/kinky hair – overall I can only fix 2 out of the 4 problems. I plan to lighten my skin and get a weave. I want to lighten my skin simply because it is too dark…well it’s brown but I consider it dark. Dark skin is considered a masculine trait which is why both dark and light skin guys are desired. I know that White girls like to tan to get darker but their goal is to get nice light brown skin nobody wants dark brown skin. Also I want to get a weave because as you all know being Black my hair is coarse/kinky and a nightmare to look at and deal with. Full Black hair is a big turn off to people they always prefer mixed Black hair.

 In this world light skin is prettier than dark skin, delicate facial features are prettier than huge/broad facial features, and straight/curly hair is prettier than coarse/kinky hair – that’s just the way it is. Of course not everybody thinks this way but a vast majority of people do. This is why majority of guys even go for light skinned girls who are White, Asian, Latina, Indian or mixed. Many Black guys also choose these girls over Black girls simply because they are generally better looking. There are only few guys that actually like Black girls and those guys are hard to find. I really wish I was one of those pretty light skinned girls so damn bad. I am horrified and hurt that I was born this way. People have always told me to “love myself as I am” which drives me crazy especially when the person who says it is some other race. Maybe it’s easy for them to love themselves but they have no idea how it feels to live being Black. I was bullied all through elementary, middle and high school because of my hair and skin. Also any guy I liked made it perfectly clear that they only wanted the light skinned girls not me. Because of this I developed depression and anxiety issues. I know I got super unlucky being born just Black but I am going to do all that I can to improve my looks. Do you know any good safe skin lightening creams? Do you know any other ideas on how I can improve my appearance?

[vip]

Cece hello oh my goodness i have white skin and i would love to be dark skinned you girls are so beautiful have less chance of getting skin cancer and age beautifully please dont get depression anxiety over this honestly lightening creams white girls are on sunbeds in the sun putting tanning lotions on to get darker. Look at naomi campbell , beyonce , Tara they are sooo gorgeous you are lucky to be born with beautiful skin i hope others reply to your post quickly to agree with me dont change are thing you are who you are . If you still feel down then speak to a psych about it but honestly change your thoughts on this take care. x

[Jo3]

Hi Cece

I totally agree with Nes.  There are so many beautiful dark girls.  Be proud of who you are and what you have. You are special.

 Take care

Jo xx

[vip]

Cece i didnt answer your last question about improving your appearance. Listen i have put on 23 kilos because of my medication having had 22 yrs of depression. I joined the gym im losing weight i buy new clothes have a new hairstyle and wear makeup everyday just the things to make myself feel bit happy because my self esteem was so low also . Maybe try all these things get a facial get a massage ask somebody qualified in the makeup industry if its that important to show you how you can apply makeup to make you stand out more ect . I think women in general just have pretty days and ugly days dont feel alone here we are all in the same boat but honestly physical appearance is one thing but what counts most is your personality that is what makes people shine. Honestly i fall in love with people around me with that beautiful personality not what they look like. Hope this all helps to make you feel better,

[geoff]

dear Cece, I am a male so I believe, as the photo shows that I am and Nes and Jo have made good replies to you.

You seem to have a very low self esteem which means that you have depression, and to down grade your appearance as you have is not warranted.

Everybody always wishes that their body was like the famous celebrity or movie star, just like myself when I was young and fit and playing rugby, rowing, tennis and golf, but now look at me now, I can't even run and all the muscles I once had have gone.

In this world today there are so many different coloured people from many different nationalities in all shapes and sizes, and no one is better than the other, and remember there is always someone out there for everybody, and what you don't like about yourself there is always someone who loves what you have. L Geoff. x