Lonely and angry

[tulpa]

I've always been lonely but lately I've been getting more and more angry, I feel abandoned by everyone, like a total outcast. I can't make friends and i can barely take care of myself it feels like such an effort just to shower everyday. I know what I have to do but it's so hard just to do it, all I do is sit around daydreaming and listening to music. Can't even be bothered to make a doctors appointment even though I need to and I'm still crying almost everyday. I often feel like hitting people or throwing things I used to be so peaceful too.

[Kel77]

Hi there Tulpa.

 I'm sorry to see you're not coping so well. Sounds like you're quite anxious and feeling really hopeless. These are the feelings that force us to create a safe place such as you have described like sitting round etc. it's completely normal when you feel like this to be angry and trapped. It's ok to feel how you do, it's really hard living with anxiety sometimes and it can make you feel totally overwhelmed. Is there anyone in your life who you can lean on? And have you been struggling for very long with these issues?

[tulpa]

I really only have one friend in town but hes not always reliable, I've had problems with anxiety as long as I can remember  I never used to have friends but im glad I at least have one now

[ciantar]

Hi Tupla

I am sorry to hear how low you are feeling.I know it is hard as I have been there myself. I understand just sitting there and feeling so down that I don't want to do anything, but from experience if you keep doing that it won't help.

I know it is hard but please try to go see your doctor and tell him everything you are feeling. 

Do you think your friend would come with you for support.

With the right help you will start to feel better slowly but  surely, I know I did please try

[Kel77]

Are you feeling any better today?

 Do you live with family or anyone or are you always alone? It does help to have people around when you feel so low. Even just the sounds of people doing things around you is enough to keep you going....when I feel really anxious, I find it helps to try and ground myself by laying in front of the tv and watching something I have an interest in or something familiar, it's a good distraction to break the thoughts. Do you have any pets you can sit with? They're often good too. Is there anything at all you enjoy or that makes you feel safe and occupied? Even if it's just a short distraction, every little but helps. Every time you can take the focus away from the yuck is little moments of relief that the mind can then use to start making new pathways you can access. 

 What about self help books? Have you tried any? I guess it depends where your actual issue lies. Mine is more around health anxiety so reading about it gives me reassurance that what I'm experiencing is ok and helps me to accept so I can focus on some other stuff for a while. 

 Do you know what upsets you? Is it unknown and you just feel depressed or do you actually know what's making you feel so bad?

kel

[tulpa]

I live alone and the neighbours made me get rid of my dog. Not much has helped me feel occupied recently I'm bored of all the usual activities that used to keep me occupied. Everything seems to upset me recently.

[Kel77]

Tulpa, it seems you're really struggling with loneliness which is causing so much sadness and lack of interest in life. It really sucks hey? How on earth did the neighbours have your dog removed? Did it do something that warranted this?? That's really unfair and I can understand how it would've only fueled your anger and disinterest in people out there. One negative experience that impacts on your outlook only leads to many many more negative perceptions. Is it possible for you to perhaps get another dog? Maybe do your homework and select one that is fairly quiet and placid that's happy to lay about most of the day?? Are you working at all? I think it would be really important for you to get involved in some human interaction in a positive manner. Is there a community centre perhaps nearby you could volunteer at or join one of their groups? Just an idea. Having company impacts greatly from my experience and when we get so deeply low we tend to make routines that push out everything that actually helps pull us out of it. Are you ok with getting out and functioning with the basic things or does this create anxiety for you?

Kel

[ciantar]

Tupla

Kell is giving you great advice.

Was you dog barking all the time.

I have got 2 dogs and one is a barker

and  I had problems with the neighbors

 So I got a bark collar which are great so when he barks to much it just tickles his throat and makes him stop. They are great company, so do you think you can get another onone.Also I know it is so hard but you should try and get help, then maybe you can join something you enjoy doing.

I have been there and know how hard it can be, but please try and get the courage to do it. 

You will be in my thoughts and prayers

[HiddenLight]

I am completely on the same boat as you as we speak.

I know that something is wrong with me in terms of Depression/Anxiety, I have developed a high case since 5 months ago, my partner doesn't understand anything that is truly going on, (mostly because I can't describe the hurt of what goes in my head) which gets him angry and frustrated at me, causing me to feel so alone and building up so much emotional pressure throughout this ordeal. My immediate family all live in another country so all I have is phone calls to them, which isn't good enough when you need care, love and support really. I lost my job a few weeks before I developed depression 5 months ago, trapping myself in the same room everyday with my thoughts/stresses and struggles. I overthink that much on my own that when my bf comes home ill lash out with rage and anger over a single negative thought towards him. I hate doing things I once found really pleasurable and achievable to complete, now I just find it more of a chore, and only really do something if I have to. I feel like life isn't leading me anywhere, it's just the same thing day in and day out. It's like I've lost hope of all things good when 6 months before this, I was confident, happy, motivated, making big plans, smart and so in love and grateful for my partner. Only now do I push and just want to hurt him to take some sort of tension out of my system, like I have anger to release so when we fight and disagree, I use this time to be violent. I really don't get it but I also have not seeked help yet as I find it to difficult to make that first move. I hope we both get through this. I would love to talk more to you as we relate.

[janepowers]

Dog spray collars are better and do not hurt them at all! AND they work! they let out a spray which annoys the dog and disrupts them at the exact time of the bark. Just put it on only when you need to.

AND you have no risk of hurting the fluffy friend.