I was born this way

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi all,

I've read thousands of posts and seen all the advice and it's all good BUT I was born this way.

Nothing happened to me and my parents did not do anything to me. I was just born this way.

No one touched me as a child, I was NOT abused or felt up. I was just born this way.

I hated people from day one and thought they were all suspicious. I have never liked anyone.

I would rather hate people than get to know them because no doubt they would turn on me.

I just wanted a thread for people who thought they were born like this rather than all the threads that state something happened to make them like this.

Nothing happened to me....I was born like this.

SM

[blondguy]

Hi SM

No worries and thankyou 🙂

My older brother had schizophrenia which kicked in between 16 to 25 years of age....the same as anxiety disorder does. I am no expert by any means but I have seen anxiety disorder reduced by counseling. Just my opinion...I am certain that my brother's illness is hereditary without a doubt

Just speaking from my own experience. Just a note if I can SM. I wasted 13 years of my life thinking I could self heal....just for me I was wrong

All I know is that 7 months of weekly counseling (even though I didnt want it) gave me my career and personal life back. There is still residual anxiety but I have my life back

I am 58 and very proud to still see my GP for a 'fine tune' every 4 weeks for support/help..He has a strong mental health focus.

Can I ask why you are so 'over' therapy? (I am still not a big fan but its like the dentist....we need fixing)

Always a bonus to have you on the forums SM

My kindest always

Paul

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi Paul,

I guess being 'over therapy' comes from being born this way and not getting help sooner. In the 1970's this was all hidden and secret. My actions were deemed to be caused by not having a mother or being 'touched' by my father or another adult.

No such thing happened. It was just me!

Most of my therapy sessions were conducted by people who thought I had been hurt or touched by someone and most hinted on my father. The longer this went on the more people thought this was the issue.

The more I said no and protected my father the more they thought my father 'touched' me.

I got sick of trying to tell people that my father did NOT touch me and that noone touched me.

I went back to therapy a few weeks ago and it's the first time no one has mentioned my father touching me. What a relief!!!!

Most of all I am high functioning and have a high IQ.....I just dislike the way, in therapy, they make me feel like an idiot.

Well I have one son fell off a roof today and in surgery and another son hit while on his motorbike and waiting at hospital (bikie is ruined) I love them both but my care level is not happening. I understand what has happened and I know HOW I should feel but I feel nothing. IF I allow myself to feel then I will be in panics and freak out.

IF I freak out then everything else will come rushing back and I'll have to deal with years of shit. Control.

All will be OK and I will not have to go back.

SM

[insatiablemind]

Hi SM

It does make a lot of sense to be born or "wired" a certain way. There's evidence out there to suggest (sorry for lack of citation here) that genetics/biology plays a large role in the personalities we develop. Some people just have much shorter triggers or different levels of resilience (when faced with various situations in life) than others, and there doesn't necessarily have to be any environmental influences to make it so (although these can certainly moderate the effect).

I've had some averagely "bad things" happen in my life but nothing dramatic like some therapists seem to suggest. As such, I also have a tendency to steer clear from specifically seeking professional help (for the time being). Instead, I'm trying to read up more on developments in the field. It appeases me to know that there are more discoveries taking place about biological factors and mental health issues, and I hope this is incorporated more into future therapy frameworks used by health professionals.

Anyway, keep on learning and discovering about yourself! I hope you have more experiences like your most recent therapy.