Feeling burnt out

[Missberri]

Hi all,

I just wanted to post because I'm not feeling too great at the moment. I'm juggling part time work and uni and I'm starting to get very drained. I spend every weekend all day at work and come home to study and do assignments and still don't get enough done and I have shifts every day except for wednesday and thursday when I have full classes at uni and try to get my work done. I'm feeling really overwhelmed and I don't know what to do. I was in a similar situation last year but for some reason then I was coping well and this semester I just feel like my head is going to explode

Literally at the end of last year most of my close friends moved away for different reasons and I feel not having any of them around is also taking a toll and I'm starting to feel very alone. I feel like I don't have the time though to try making new friends right now because I just want to focus and get uni done but every day I just feel myself getting more and more down and I'm starting to feel like I can't cope. I've been waiting for so long for my work to hire someone new so I don't have to work as much as I am but they just keep screwing around with it.. even though they get heaps of applications they take forever to just pick one person to interview them then most of the time it doesn't end up working out. I've really been wanting to quit this job because I'm tired of it and my boss is really selfish, but i can't just have no income and i can't even get centrelink because I've been studying for longer than I should have been. I've tried applying for other jobs when i get the time but i don't really hear back from them..

Anyway I just really would love on how people cope with this kind of thing because I feel like im reaching my limit and i just feel lost about what i should do.. I feel like i should just suck it up and just get through this semester but at the same time I feel so awful every day and I'm only just feeling more and more awful as time goes on.. but yeah if anyone has any advice that would greatly appreciated!

[MusoWriter]

I HEAR YOU, I HEAR YOU! I said that twice because I strongly feel you need to feel heard. What you are saying concerns me. Are you getting some professional help? If not go to your GP and get some. It took me longer than it should of for me to finish my study. Does anybody know about that now? NO. Your health is PRIMARY number one. I say that as I am person who has had some real problems with my new meds and have given my family some bad frights. Speak to your study admin and find out what the options are. You are WORTH IT. We will battle on together and get there. Treat yourself gently. Look after yourself Miss Berri.

[Martii]

Hey Missberri,

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. Being drained all of the time and having no time to recharge really does alot to your mental health and state of mind. It sounds like you are very focused on uni - is there a tiny bit of time where you could spend it trying to connect with other people? How about trying to connect with friends through uni? When I was at uni some of the very first friends I made were through a study group (productive for study AND good for social stuff!). Have you got much family around for support? Your work shouldn't solely rely on you to carry the burden of the fact that they are understaffed - I have been there and my boss was a lunatic, I got out of there so fast there was a big hole in the shape of me in the door. Is there a chance you could talk to your work and tell them your concerns? Hopefully they can understand and maybe take some of that burden off you - in the mean time maybe keep applying for jobs. I know how sucky it is but sometimes it takes time 😞 I don't know what industry you work in but maybe make some calls, or show up face to face to hand in your resume and talk to the manager? Maybe you could go through a recruitment company? When I get really overwhelmed and stressed and drained I try to take a little time out to do something I enjoy - have a cup of tea with a good book, binge watch a tv show I like, go to a cafe and get something really yum and read a magazine. You need to treat yourself with kindness, and recharge your brain! I hope you are feeling a bit better, but you are not alone in this! I am struggling not to fall asleep right now and have a big week of work ahead of me and trying to find time to see my GP to deal with my own problems ahhhh! Sending lots of well wishes to you!

[Missberri]

Thank you guys! Things have really improved with this situation now I realised this wasn't an ideal place to work and moved on and am feeling a lot better. It was so great to get your support and understanding though so thanks so much for helping out!