Hello Helpadad, when we marry or in a relationship having an addiction is furthest from our mind, we don't expect it to happen, but if it does can and will create problems we never thought was possible and the questions asked by the children are not able to be answered truthfully, simply because we aren't justified as to the reason, in many cases.
I used it as self medication during my depression but don't drink now at all.
Moving the kids out can either go two ways, make them realise they need to stop/slow down or increase the alcohol intake which is not good, because their ability to think clearly has gone, but this depends on your situation.
I'm pleased she went into detox, but there are a couple of issues to watch out for, it's possible she could become a cupboard drinker, hiding it where ever she can and pretending she's not had a drop, and the other problem is when she feels pressure for whatever reason, the alcohol will return as a coping measure, not that I'm saying this will happen or she finds an excuse to visit a girlfriend.
The doctors can prescribe a type of medication that will stop the urge to drink and even if she does decide to drink, she won't get the buzz she normally would, but it's only useful if she wants to stop, otherwise, it's a waste of money.
I have tried it and it does work, but I do understand that there could be relapses, however, this doesn't mean the help she is receiving isn't working.
Can I suggest you copy and paste this in your search browser 'help for alcoholics Queensland Australia'.
Hi Scat I hope you are able to tell us some more as well as Helpadad.
Geoff.
