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[Guest_128]

Is it good or bad to be on here?????

not sure if this is makes sense , to be alone with all this your alien conditions or to be filled with everyone's shit as well.

bit like you can't be a little bit pregnant. You are or your not!😳

On a funny note; how funny it would be if all the others left and it was just US

[MarkJT]

9 names later, if i am reading this right, i get what you mean. To me it is a double edged sword - yes it is great that you are on here to use as a safe place to chat to others and get advice as to what is going on but on the other side, generally speaking, if you are involved in the forums, that mean that there is something wrong with your mental health.

It's not so much being filled with other peoples shit, its more about learning from others and finding out what worked and what didn't work for them to enable your own self care to improve.

Mark

[Nikkir]

Hi 9 names later,

Thank you for your post:) I absolutely agree, life can be difficult to navigate and i think Mark said it well, a double edged sword as well as some other good advice. Life is about working out who we are , what works for us and then somehow integrating that with other people, not easy in my experience. Learning to be yourself while still being part of other peoples worlds. I must say I have not mastered this. My approach these days is I don't sweat the small stuff as much as I used to. Unless something/ someone is really toxic or something they said or did is really offensive I will be myself and accept things as they are. I spend more time alone these days for better or worse and try to invest in myself and what I like doing while sometimes finding time for others. I would be interested to hear your journey. Please feel free to keep in contact with us 🙂 Best Wishes Nikkir x

[Croix]

Dear 9 Names Later~

You reflected Is it good or bad to be on here????? Well I can tell you how I find things -YMMV

When first I came to the forum my overall impression was sad - very sad. I felt for all those people that had great difficulty, many feeling hopeless.

My next impression, a long time later when I read more, was differing advice. Not always one in conflict with another, most times one added something to another. Though I thought some were just plain wrong of course.

I suppose that is how it is on your other thread -forming judgments about the offered advice - though from my outsider's point of view it looks pretty sensible.

Eventually the lines of text turned into people. That's where I'm at now.

I have to pace myself, not get overwhelmed, try to pick out the sensible suggestions - all a learning process, but doable.

So I vote with my feet (or keyboard I guess) and am still here, getting and giving support.

While not saying it's for everyone - I benefit.

Croix

[Guest_128]

Thank you so much. I hope to reply soon

[Croix]

Dear Later~

I hope I've found a thread you look at as I want to thank you for your 2 posts in

Forums / Staying well / Store Your Happy Memories Here:

I did not reply the first time because it made me so sad. I've thought that, been completely desolated twice, so I understand the feelings, it's just that I've been unreasonably lucky and life has turned around for me. I truly wish it would for you.

Now, to happier things. I thought the memories of meeting your husband were really great - an unusual way to do things - spearing a fish (and is heart:)

Many thanks

Croix

[Guest_128]

Hey Croix,

Thank you so much.

I know things can get better,and there are soooo many people less fortunate than me.

And there is the problem I know it can be better.

so I will just keep swimming.xo

hope you have had a good day.

Later

[Guest_128]

Hi all,

WHY is it if I am absolutely full,not coping,or having a dummy spit,,,

That everyone thinks it's all about my mental health???

Then I get to the point where I don't know what's mental or the stuff above.

Any thoughts????

Later

[Croix]

Dear Later~

I don't know the circumstances though I can imagine some.

Spitting the dummy, not coping and all the rest is of course a normal part of life. I'd imaging having pots of money and being married to a Danish prince would not make one immune, trials happen.

Then again If I went crook at someone for doing something wrong it might be easier for them to put it down to a mental problem on my part than face the unpalatable fact that they were in error, even if it was something more minor like not helping when they should.

In a similar vein my offspring is well aware I have a selection of mental ills including anxiety, so if I express concern that he has done something a trifle hair-brained he is just as likely to dismiss it as just 'dad worrying as usual'.

For me constant heavy anxiety without true cause is a pointer to a MH problem. Occasional or reasonable worry is not (I fail that test big-time:). I guess to know what is MH and what is ordinary reaction to life one has to try and step outside and see what is reasonable - not something I can normally do at the time.

On another matter, did you decide about changing your name? At least your present one has the virtue of being unusual:)

Croix

[Guest_128]

Well in the darkness of hours,

Thankyou so much

I don't know why,but you just made me laugh out loud.

xo

Later