Hi Juliet,
Well done for mustering the courage to leave this toxic relationship. Relationships should be based on mutual respect. It is what each and everyone of us deserves.
I am sorry to read you have been struggling with a medical condition. But it is not because someone cares for some of your needs that they're entitled to treat you poorly. Your medical issues may be limiting, debilitating at times but they don't define you.
It seems to me that your ex may have a narcissistic personality with a need to control in order to validate himself. Such people often attach themselves to someone who is vulnerable and dependent.They bait their victim with charm and TLC but gradually, the mask slips off to reveal their second nature. How do I know ? I walked out on a couple of those.
Sure, coping alone is not easy. Particularly when medical conditions are thrown in the equation. But your pride is intact and there's no price for that. There is enough on your plate as it is without being at the receiving end of someone else's unresolved issues.
I'd suggest you google narcissistic relationships. Reading through may sound a familiar bell. It may also help you realize you were wise to get away before abuse escalated further.
Picking up the pieces is not easy. Those relationships often leave deep scars behind. So please take good care of yourself and do not hesitate to seek counseling to help get back on track and move on. Struggling alone is too difficult. It is also unnecessary. Starting with a long GP appointment would be the way to go. You deserve all the support you can get.
Kindest thoughts.
