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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Saj Feel like I'm in a hole I can't get out of
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My wife is suffering from depression& anxiety due to a work place bullying incident, this has been going on for about 9 months now. As a result she has been sinking heavily & when she does she feels the world is against her especially me and I don't ... View more

My wife is suffering from depression& anxiety due to a work place bullying incident, this has been going on for about 9 months now. As a result she has been sinking heavily & when she does she feels the world is against her especially me and I don't understand why when I'm trying my hardest to support her through this. She wants to try and cut down her drinking so I try to help by trying to get her to do things with me and the kids like going for a bike ride or to the movies but this doesn't often work. Sometimes like tonight I can't take anymore and tell her she need to stop and thats when I become the worst person in the world, I am constantly mocked and belittled and told that it's because I think I am perfect, that's not the case I'm far from it, we just want my wife back. i can't handle the stress and being made to feel worthless when I am trying to be her strongest supporter, does anyone have some advice as I feel I am rapidly moving towards the same dark place she is in!! thank you

houseofwolves___ where do i go from here?
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ok here goes... I'm 25 and just come back from a overseas trip, my first since being on medication, i thought it would be okay, i good opportunity to overcome my fears but i really struggled. i was out of my comfort zone and unable to call home and u... View more

ok here goes... I'm 25 and just come back from a overseas trip, my first since being on medication, i thought it would be okay, i good opportunity to overcome my fears but i really struggled. i was out of my comfort zone and unable to call home and unfortunately as much as the country was beautiful the group of 20 somethings were really quite judgmental and bullies. since coming home, i do feel a little better but there is this niggling feeling at the back of my mind and lots of "what if" thoughts. some days i have really good days and others like today i just feel like i don't want to be here, i know i wouldn't act on these thoughts but it still scares me nonetheless. my doctor said i should up my medication but i don't want that to be the answer to my problems.. i just don't know what do to... i exercise, drink lots of water, eat healthy, have some amazing best friends yet i still feel alone.. and right now life kinda sucks.

Jo3 Everyone needs a hug
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You know, I've just been thinking while reading some of the messages on here this morning. EVERYONE NEEDS A HUG!!! It's such a hard time of year and there are lots of lonely people out there doing it tough. From depression, anxiety, loneliness, to be... View more

You know, I've just been thinking while reading some of the messages on here this morning. EVERYONE NEEDS A HUG!!! It's such a hard time of year and there are lots of lonely people out there doing it tough. From depression, anxiety, loneliness, to being so damn low you feel like ending it all. But there is hope and hope is what we all hold on to. Reading messages on here makes me realise that there are so many people who struggle, whether it be with life itself or families or their mental illness. And it's tough, bloody tough to fight back, to be strong, to stand tall. I just want wish that we could all meet so we could give each other a really BIG HUG. To show that we all care about each other whatever we are going through. We can all get through our dark demons, we can all get through our mental illness, with time, love and support from our beautiful friends here online. So right now I am sending HUGE HUGS, LOVE AND KISSES TO EVERYONE. Jo xxx

Mares73 Failing and Falling
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Hi all Things are pretty hard at the moment. I've been trying so hard to achieve at least one thing each day that needs doing. But I'm feeling very low about myself. I think I'm really stressed with Xmas so close.I've only been the shops once and was... View more

Hi all Things are pretty hard at the moment. I've been trying so hard to achieve at least one thing each day that needs doing. But I'm feeling very low about myself. I think I'm really stressed with Xmas so close.I've only been the shops once and was so overwhelmed by the busy pushy people in crowded shopping malls. But I've got so much more shopping to do with the kids etc and I'm stressed its getting so close and I have so much to do.I still haven't tackled the pile of mail and am now getting messages on my phone from lawyers chasing outstanding bills. I wish I could just phone them and get it over with but what do I say about why I haven't called or paid earlier?Also I've always made a big effort at Xmas for the kids cause my childhood was so awful but this year I'm so stressed I'm not going to make Xmas as good as I want to for the kids.My husband just wants things "fixed" and is very frustrated with me as he doesn't see why things that I need to do are so difficult.Also I'm dealing with things from the past. My sister who is a year younger than me has told my mum she was abused as a child by my dad and my mum believes her. Yet she never believed me.We are not a close family at all. When I was ten yrs old I went to my favourite English teacher and told her about my dad abusing me. I kind of had to as she had read my essays and asked to see me and said she could tell I was the girl being abused in my stories. I begged her not to tell anyone.The next day my sister and I Re called to the Principals Office. We are shocked to see my mum and dad sitting there. The Principal said "Mares you have made some serious allegations and stories about your dad" and then she asked my sister is she agreed with me or if she was being abused in anyway. My sister just sat there unable to speak. The Principal then said "you are both very lucky to have such cari g and forgiving parents. Mares your dad has e planned that you make up stories for attention especially when you want to get out of chores or have late homework. I think you should go home and think about your actions and how lucky you are to have a forgiving father".I will never forget the smile on my dads face. He was an alcoholic yet could be incredibly charming when he wanted too. We were very poor. Oh and of course it was a catholic school.Shortly after this my mother took us both to a dodgy Dr to put us on antidepressants because we were both bedwetters and her reasoning was that the antidepressants "would sedate us at night so we wouldn't be afraid of the dark and cry for the light to be left on".Ill stop there-I could write a book of the dark childhood and trauma but its over-what I need now is to learn to live with my anxiety and depression and high expectations of myself which then turn into thoughts that I'm a complete and hopeless failure of a person.Just feeling dark and down today. Overwhelmed by all the things I need to do yet immobilised by them as well. I sit here going over and over what I need to do and by the end of the day I've achieved nothing.And with only few days to Xmas I'm so anxious and worried-I just want the strength and motivation to take a tion and Do things instead go thinking about them. I know so many people are finding this a difficult time so it's not just me and there's people in worse situations. I need and try to practice humility.Thanks for taking the time to read.Mares x

Jo3 Just heard sad news
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I just heard some sad news that my husbands close friend to his mum has passed away. She was sick in hospital for 5 weeks. My husband spent a lot of time with this lady and her family when he was growing up., But it brings a lot of emotion to me at t... View more

I just heard some sad news that my husbands close friend to his mum has passed away. She was sick in hospital for 5 weeks. My husband spent a lot of time with this lady and her family when he was growing up., But it brings a lot of emotion to me at the moment because I'm thinking about her poor husband and 2 adult children and grandchildren. So I'm thinking what about my parents - what if something was to happen to them or one of them? God why am I even thinking like this, I feel so sad, I;m crying. (this is so selfish of me, i should be thinking of that poor family and not me) I'm sorry if this post sounds so wrong Jo

samlamb99 anger and resentment
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I feel so resentful and jealous of people who have lots of friends and who seem to be out socialising and happy and bubbly, whilst at the moment I don't really have any friends or anyone who thinks I'm fun to be around... I spend so long on facebook ... View more

I feel so resentful and jealous of people who have lots of friends and who seem to be out socialising and happy and bubbly, whilst at the moment I don't really have any friends or anyone who thinks I'm fun to be around... I spend so long on facebook looking at everyone's happy photos and how popular and loved they are and i just compare that to me and feel worse and **** about myself but I don't know how to stop or how to make it better I've had depression my whole life and I am 22 years old and don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I've tried everything

Pete81 Pushed
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Hi Im a 33 year old fella recently split from my wife and 2 boys all who i cherish. I have suffered from depression as long as I can remember as a kid always had low thought of yself as not good enough. Was always put down and always made work under ... View more

Hi Im a 33 year old fella recently split from my wife and 2 boys all who i cherish. I have suffered from depression as long as I can remember as a kid always had low thought of yself as not good enough. Was always put down and always made work under stupid threats against me and my cattle ( mad over Santa Gertrudis cattle probably the only thng that has got me through many of tough times) . I then got together with a long time school friend and married. My father passed away suddenly at home shortly after our marriage. After that we planned to move home and run the family farm together and bring our two sons up on my family farm making them the 5th generation to grow up in the house we currently live in. Then it all started to fall to bits the farm went to **** and the banks have been putting us under a lot of pressure to move on. I have not coped well since the death of my father we had a bit of a love hate relationship but still i miss him dearly. We decided we needed to expand the farm and borrowed a heap to start a dairy went well for the first 2 months and just couldnt get a start. Also we live in a very petty area and no one like to see people have a go so they start to talk and spread gossip before it has even happened and spread nasty stories just to get off on what they spread and see how far it gets. My wife and I had major troubles dealing with such gossip and i found it increasingly difficult to talk to her or explain things and had to talk to strangers about things going on anything for a vent i even resorted to chat lines to someone to vent to and just to talk to someone non judgmental. During this time I fell ill a lot and relied on my wife to help out more and more and then she felt i was doijng nothing around the place and then started to resent me and our relationship went downhill from there and will never be the same again she has told me on a number of ocassions that she is a wife not a carer like she ahs had to care for me while i have been sick so offen. For the last 20 odd years I have thought I'm not worth the air I breath and wished something would happen that i no longer be a burden to anyone. I still have a plan in place that I will carry out I feel the time is right to end it all. While i was away my wife annouced she was leaving me and just shattered me I was so tempted to just walk off the bridge in brisbane and never be seen or heard from again but I just had to see my boys again and see there smiles and hear there laugh one more time I have come close so many times but just cant follow through . We are now at the stage of auctioning our farm tuesday and moving on. I have been offered a job at Rolleston 7 hours away i love the country and the work but cant be that far from my boys and now my ex tells me she wont be able to bring the kids up that far cause she cant afford such a big trip just for them to see me which just gutted me the longest i spent a way is 3 night and i cry everytime i think of them at night don't think I can manage only seeing them a couple times a year. Just cant do it and basicaly dont wont try and live anymore i just have no fight left in me and it kills me for my boys to see me so weak and not caring. My ex tells me that many of husband has been through the same and doesnt see there kids all the time and i will get over it, but they are the only thing I live for if they were not here i would have been in a pine box long ago. Just feel very lost and afraid im going to end it shortly. My family has never meant so much to me Most if not all my close friends are too busy to try and talk to and I just cant tell them about me spliting because I break down when i try to tell them. So when i move all i will have is a ute and me swag , blue dog and me clothes to start a again. Something I never dreamed of doing and just dont think Im strong enough to do either. Thanks for the vent I'm sure I should have added more but that is the basic story.

Chris D I need to hear encouragement
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Even though i have been told that i have given some inspirational msgs, i need them said to me please. As i cannot recognise them myself. I feel unappreciated, i feel i put out more than what comes back to me so it makes me feel very flat, very down ... View more

Even though i have been told that i have given some inspirational msgs, i need them said to me please. As i cannot recognise them myself. I feel unappreciated, i feel i put out more than what comes back to me so it makes me feel very flat, very down and lacking energy. I don't know why i bother trying to help people. If people want me to stay on here, be there for them and be there light for them, then i need alot of encouragement as i can't do it on my own. I fee llike i'm dragging a massive pile of boulders up a mountain and they are trying to pull me back down. I need to hear supporting msgs otherwise i can't be strong for people including myself, i can't give inspirational msgs to help others pick themselves up. I wonder sometimes who is going to pick me up when i'm down. I just feel so alone, lost in a dark cold forest. Kind Regards Chris

Suzbj My Beautiful Girls
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To my beautiful daughter that I raised and my two beautiful daughters I gave up for adoption at birth (twins). I have never ever stopped loving all three of you and you are my world and my wish for happiness and all the best life can offer. I am so s... View more

To my beautiful daughter that I raised and my two beautiful daughters I gave up for adoption at birth (twins). I have never ever stopped loving all three of you and you are my world and my wish for happiness and all the best life can offer. I am so sorry I was not capable of "the white picket fence". I did the best I could and that is all I have. To my twin girls, I am so grateful for the magic life you have had with your parents. To my daughter that I raised, I cannot understand your lies about life with me. But you have your own reasons. I remember how much we laughed and how I always had your back. True. There wasn't much in material goods, but I loved you then and I will love you forever. That is all. Lots of love Suzie xx

metAL TIME TO MAKE THAT FIRST STEP (AGAIN!!!)
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I have battled on and off with depression and anxiety for over 20 years.... I am currently in a beautiful relationship with a beautiful girl who also has a beautiful daughter (6yo).... but, still inside me something isnt right..... I am struggling to... View more

I have battled on and off with depression and anxiety for over 20 years.... I am currently in a beautiful relationship with a beautiful girl who also has a beautiful daughter (6yo).... but, still inside me something isnt right..... I am struggling to take that first step.... I am thinking of trying the Beyond Blue Web chat this afternoon after work..... is that a good place for me to start???