Hi there xrosex
Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you for providing your post.
Things sound very tough for you right now – and perhaps have been this way for a fair while also. Also not so good that your partner is suffering from depression as well. That just makes things that much more difficult in one way; but having said that, it should allow for you both to empathise with each other and so you know where each other is coming from. So often in relationships, it’s only one side who is understanding of the mental illness due to them having it – whereas the partner is unable to fully support or help, because they simply ‘don’t get’ depression.
With regard to cleaning the house – I would rearrange your goal with this. I would break it down; so I’d make a goal that you’re going to target a certain thing/area in the house. Be it first of all, tidying things up – getting things tidy, can be the first goal. Break it down again; and do it room by room. Get one room done and take a break. Or if you feel a buzz about that, then go for another room. Then continually set little goals for what you’d like to achieve. Make them little goals so you can reach them and complete them. Setting things too big is fraught with danger and it has the very real opportunity of making your own depression worse.
What I’d also suggest is if you’re able to, is to read up on this site under different forums, past posts by different people – if you can find a heading that you might feel a link with – then read up on the original post, but also the subsequent replies that assist that person. This can be very beneficial also.
I hope I’ve touched on something above that may help you – and above all else, please stay with us and write back again.
Neil
