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In hospital geoff

geoff
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Geoff in hospital trying to use my iPhone and login if and getting to BB is atrocious for me and even whatI type isn't correct so I am going to this phone away when I get out and CHirstopher hope I spelt it correct I a. Going to.be disappointed if I miss the bus in my area as I'm not even sure I will be of here. I. have tried the enlarger the screen but that's useless to me so all up I'm sore and frustrated and missing the site bugger it Geoff
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pipsy
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Hi Geoff.  You asked in a previous letter if L's mum is ill in some way.  I feel (and I'm not a Dr) she has a serious personality disorder.  I know L's sister said a few years ago, she thought she was in the early stages of Dementia.  I disagree, she knows who's who, she is outspoken about religion (Muslims, in particular).  The way she 'bags' people in public who may be over weight.  She says they're Diabetic.  With Dementia sufferers, they tend to forget mid-sentence what they're saying, she doesn't.  I don't think she has Bi-Polar, I just think it's a serious personality disorder.  I know L's father nor the rest of the family will ever get her assessed, they will just continue to make excuses for her behavior.   I feel very sorry for her and the rest of the family.  I feel some day she will say or do something that will really cause problems.  I just hope she gets some help before that happens.  L told her off the other day and she wouldn't talk to him for quite some time after.  That doesn't help the situation.  Nothing will be done, though, till, probably, it'll be too late.  I prefer to remember them as they were when we used to go on picnics.  Had a great day today, went and bought new pair of shoes (not dancing).

Take care, my friend.  Much love P xx

geoff
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dear Pipsy, from what I can gather is that I agree with you about having a serious personality disorder, and I'm not sure she will get any help until it's too late and taken out of her hands and put in a nursing home.

I bet she didn't like to be told off, but unfortunately she won't learn from this and continue on what she is doing.

I have to ask you how pairs of shoes do you have. lol L Geoff. xx

pipsy
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Dear Geoff.  I have quite a few pairs of shoes (tongue in cheek).  I haven't danced in years, are you asking me to a dance lol.  L doesn't dance at all, he has 2 left feet.  You're right about m not being happy at being told off.  Also about her not taking it well.  She apparently informed L that ' you won't have me much longer'.  She's been talking like this for years.  If d goes first, a nursing home won't necessarily take her if she can be left at home.  There is more help available now than there was, say, 20t  years ago.  The things she does forget doesn't mean she has Alzheimers/Dementia, she forgets to turn lights off, turn off the element on the stove, leaves taps running.  These are things you or I would possibly forget, due to other things on our mind.  That doesn't constitute an illness.  If that was the case, there'd be a lot of people in nursing homes.  How come you are so late at night on your computer?  What time do you go to bed?   Looking forward to walking with you and Moo-Moo.  Hear from you soon.  Pxxx    

geoff
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dear Pipsy, boy, I forget things, but I put that down to my head injury, but I still know we all can do it, it's getting older which none of us can ever stop.

I think that the title of this post 'in hospital' we should change, so do you have a preference, what about Pipsy and Geoff. L Geoff. xx

pipsy
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Dear Geoff.  Fine with me, as long as you're happy.  Had a super, duper night last night.  Tell you about it later.  When are we going dancing? lol.  L would not have enjoyed last night.  He would've wanted to come home five minutes after we arrived.  There was dancing, trivia.  Tell you more later.

You make me feel very worthwhile, thanks for that.

Love P.xx

geoff
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dear Pipsy, I have started a new thread called 'Pipsy and Geoff'. L Geoff. xx

pipsy
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Dear Geoff, how do I find the new thread?  I looked under 'new threads' but there was nothing there.  L Pip.xxx 

geoff
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dear Pipsy, the reason I replied to you on this old thread is because it didn't seem as though you found the new one.

Just type in 'Pipsy and Geoff' in the search bar and up we come, because that's what I have called it.

Send me a reply in the new thread. L Geoff. xx

pipsy
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Dear Geoff.  Found it, found it.  Forgive my thickness.  I finally figured out what you meant.  When I was living in N.Z, there was an advert on t.v about the yellow pages of the phone book.  People would find what they were looking for and the saying was: found it, I've found it, in the yellow pages.  That was me just now.  At the party on Saturday, there was a dance where there was an outside ring of people and an inside ring.  When the music played you danced with whoever was your partner, then moved on till the music stopped, when you were re-partnered.  At one point the music stopped and our minister was alone for a couple of seconds.  Without thinking, I started singing, are you lonesome tonight?  Luckily Matt (the minister) knows me, he just laughed.  We had trivia questions, logical, but difficult.  I didn't get home till after 10 p.m.  I thoroughly enjoyed myself.  As I said L wouldn't have enjoyed himself, as it turned out he worked overtime.  He finishes today where he's been for 25 years.  It won't make any difference to us, we'll still live as we are, me doing my thing, him doing his thing.  He mainly watches t.v and sleeps.  He's actually quite boring to me, I suppose I am to him.  Sometimes we have a bit of a laugh, over nothing in particular.  I am really enjoying my life now.

Take care, have a great day, my friend.

Much love P. xxxx

pipsy
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Hi Geoff.  I'm now calling myself curious.  I see I'm now classed as a Century Member.  What does that mean?  I was thinking today about how much my life has changed over the past month or so.  When I first started talking to you last October, (would you believe it's that long ago), I couldn't see the light for the darkness.  Today, I'm happy, I enjoy a good laugh, I have some wonderful, special friends, you are at the top of the list because you were the one who helped me when I was at my lowest.  I still have my 'moments' but they're few and far between.  L and his family don't really figure in my life.  I don't hate them, hate's too strong, but I feel as though they're part of a past I'd rather forget, like my own parents and brother.  Once L's free of his parents hold, maybe things might get better, but I'm not waiting for him.  He wants his own interests (whatever they are).  I would like him to come to church, but I'm quite content without him.  He wants me to build my own life.  Unfortunately, in the long run, he will be the loser.  His choice.  It's a pity we can never meet because I'd love to have a coffee with you (my shout), to say 'thanks' for always being there.

Love you heaps.  P.xxx