My girlfriend and best friend has said numerous times that she suffers from anxiety, low self esteem, depression etc. As a result, I have witnessed may times her losing confidence in not only herself, but her studies and our relationship.
She is without a doubt the best person that I could ever imagine being with, thats why it has been so hard having her push me away, because she cannot cope with the relationship and everything else going on in her life. I have suggested a few times that she seek out some assistance that her family and myself cannot provide properly. Maybe time apart from me, being in an environment where she needs to do more for herself and not have to rely on those around her will be good for us? I hope so!
She has dealt with a lot throughout her life and from what she has told me, she has never properly addressed these issues. They have been stewing inside her mind for all these years, until she met me. She has said that I am the only person that she has ever opened up to about a lot of her issues and that she doesn't feel as comfortable being herself around anyone but me. I hurts me knowing that while she's in need of some independence and space, because of our history and relationship, she can't turn to me to feel any comfort or reassurance.
I genuinely want her to seek out help because I hate seeing her like this, but part of me wants her to do it because it may mean she'll come back to me in a relationship sense. It comes across as selfish, but I know that if she can find the help she deserves, hopefully it will get her back on track.
How do I approach the subject with her without making her feel like I am pushing it? That is the last thing that I want her to feel.
Cheers
