Living with Anxciety

[Jay1]

Hi I am new to this and I am seeking some help and advise. I love with anxciety and some days and months are a breeze however on my bad days I feel like I'm a tornado. I snapped it the other day at my husband I feel all alone I feel like my adult kids hate me and have no time for me . My past relationship haunts me from evidence of medical records I came across, and now I'm having flash backs of the situation. Lacking motivation for my job due to a negative work colleague. Any help and advise would be appreciated on how to cope and deal with this. I am not on any medication as doctor previously prescribed medication which I took for two days and threw the bottle away. I couldn't function I have two small boys that need me to be strong be their happy mummy again . Just need to feel love from my husband and patience and understanding instead my family all think I'm crazy

[Croix]

Dear Jay1~

You sound very stressed. Feeling unmotivated, lost and angry is something that happens with anxiety, as does feeling others are judging you and that you are failing. All that plus pressure at work, of family and flashbacks too indicate a whole raft of stuff you have to deal with.

I've PTSD, anxiety and bouts of depression so I'm reasonably familiar with some of the things you describe.

So may I ask about your diagnosis? In some way's I'd not be surprised if you had trauma in your past, perhaps that is what you referred to when talking about medical records and a past relationship.

You did say you needed love, patience and understanding from your husband and family, and implied they thought you were crazy. Is it they simply do not understand what you are going though?

Throwing your meds away after two days does not sound good, even though very understandable -I've been tempted. From my experience it can sometimes take considerably longer than that -depending on the type- for the proper effects to kick in and the side effects stabilize. I don't think anyone likes to take medication, but I expect many are like me and find life simply does not work without it.

Perhaps if you saw your doctor and explained the situation the pair of you can come up with a regime you could tolerate.

Do you think that might be a viable option?

Is there any way to get your husband and family to understand the problems you face? If you have a formal diagnosis to work from then information on it is available - our own The Facts menu above gives detailed accounts of symptoms and treatments for PTSD, anxiety, depression and other illnesses. Could they read selected portions of that? Similarly taking your husband to your doctor with you so that things can be explained might be helpful too.

Is there anyone at the moment who does care and support you?

I think I've said enough for the moment and will leave the nuts and bolts of dealing with some of the things you mentioned for the moment. You might like to have a look around this Forum to see how others have managed.

I'd really like it if you came back and said more about what has happened to you and how you are coping.

Croix

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi Jay, all of the things you are feeling are very common amongst people with anxiety/depression, so you are not alone. Lacking motivation is really normal and so is feeling overwhelmed. It sounds like your husband isn't really understanding where you're coming from, could you sit him down and really explain what you're going through? I understand wanting to throw away medication (sometimes it's confronting to take etc), but if it's been prescribed to you by a trust doctor I would really encourage you to take the full dose and see what happens. Having a regular psychologist you could talk to would really help as well. As for the negative work colleague - I am not familiar with work place relationships, but could a mediation or something similar be effective? Looking forward to hearing from you.

[Karenh]

Hi Jay,

I don't have a great deal of advice for you, but I do want you to know you're not alone. From one mother living with anxiety to another I hope you find some relief.

As for the medication, they really take time for you to feel the positives. The first month can be very tricky. I know some people find it easier to tapper onto them at a low dose. I have done this myself under the instruction of my Dr, that may be something to talk with your Dr about.

I hope things get easier for you soon Jay.