I’m so horribly unattractive

[PsychedelicFur]

I’m so horribly unattractive.

my toxic ex told me I was a ‘6/10’ and ‘plus size’ and embarrassing looking. That is why he showed me photos of other women in bikinis.

I’m that unattractive that he lost interest in me and started treating me like garbage. I know deep and meaningful relationships are not based off looks but he made me believe that I wasn’t very good looking. Even though I have had people, strangers come up to me, hundreds of time and compliment my eccentric clothing or my long wavy ginger hair.

he said to me once ‘you’re looks don’t matter anyway because you are only a 6/10.’

I’m starting to believe what he said about me. ☹️😢😭 please give some suggestions or advice.

many thanks,

lots of love,

PF.

[Croix]

Dear PsF~

Fancy mentioning Zoot and omitting Janice!

Of the Muppet Mashups I guess my favorite is their version of God's away on business (Waits via Cookie Monster)

It's natural to have mixed feelings, to regret decisions and blame oneself, even miss aspects of a toxic relationship. A large part of your life though hopefully now a closed chapter. NOT sending birthday greetings is a healthy sign.

You cannot change the past, however it has given you another layer of wisdom and more capability for the future.

In the meantime I've found distraction does help.

May I ask what you can use to take your mind off things?

Croix

[PsychedelicFur]

Ohhh true Janice!!!!! My mistake. How could I forget Janice???

ANIMAL though!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🥁🥁🥁🥁

I’m a little bit better now. Been watching videos.

[geoff]

Hello PF, can I backtrack just for a moment, but pleased you didn't wish him a Happy Birthday, proud of you.

Take care.

Geoff.

[PsychedelicFur]

Hello there Geoff,

Croix and I were just speaking about favourite albums and songs that are our theme tunes.

tempted to wish my ex a ‘Happy Easter’ but I am not going to. Miss him. I shouldn’t speak to him though... he treated me horribly. So I won’t speak to him. The temptation is strong though, unfortunately.

[missep123]

Hi PsychedelicFur,

This is my first time jumping on this thread but from what I have read it sounds like you have such cool style and I am loving your vibes! I also love your profile picture. It's so sad that they said this to you, like others have said I really think that it says more about the person than you. You deserve the absolute best!!!

[PsychedelicFur]

Thank you so much missep123, how are you? I hope you are well. Happy Easter to you.

Much appreciated for the lovely comments.

I miss him but he is so toxic. I do deserve better but I am worried I won’t get that in my life, haha!!

Have a wonderful day, my profile picture matches my aesthetic and my name on here. I love your picture. It’s very cute.

all the best,

PsychedelicFur

[quirkywords]

Psychdelic fur,

I think we spoke on another thread but having an individual style.

many people have offered you supportive suggestions here.

I like to live in a world of colour and differnece, not a world where every one is the same.

I know men and women who exude so much confidence that they become attractive.

Most of us will never be airbrushed film stars . I am much older than you and instead of complaining of how I look now I want to embrace it.

You add so much to the forums with your own style.

[PsychedelicFur]

You are correct Quirkywords. Thank you!!

[Sean_S]

Hey PsychedelicFur!

What an extraordinarily immature and lame thing that he did. Showing you a picture of bikini models!? It could have been motivated by his own insecurity (like others have said below). We are all riddled with deep insecurities and some people act this out pathologically, through insults etc.

Other people's assessments should be treated as potentially true at best, taken with a mountain of salt. We tend to assume they are true and internalize it; it's so difficult not to. I always ask myself 'Is the criticism coming from someone I know to be wise, honest and moral'?

You know what's unattractive? Lack of character.

Physical attractiveness is pretty darn subjective, and in the eye of the beholder.

Totally get the lingering feelings though, and the urge to text. Well done for resisting.

I loooove psychedelic rock (from the 60's to now). If you have more suggestions please lord share them! 'She's a Mod' that guitar in the middle, sooo good. Totally new gem for me.

Here's my favs, from old to new :

The Doors (duh), Grace Slick (duh), Count Five (Psychotic Reaction, Pretty Big Mouth), Blue Cheer (Peace of Mind, Good Times are so Hard to Find), Shocking Blue (Send Me a Postcard)

New stuff: BJM (Anemone, Servo), The Sonic Dawn (Summer Voyage), Tash Sultana (Jungle), Tame Impala (Elephant: see Wiggles version! Hilarious)

Sean

[PsychedelicFur]

Hey Sean, thank you so much for the lovely comment.

I love sixties psychedelia like Cream, The Doors, Grace Slick, Vanilla Fudge, 13th Floor Elevators. And more recently of course Tame Impala... I love Elephant by The Wiggles. 🎶Fruit salad, yummy yummy....🎶 HILARIOUS!! Such a laugh. I also love The Babe Rainbow which is more modern. And early Pink Floyd, known formerly as The Tea Set with Syd.

Yes, he showed me photos of a girl on Instagram that he followed. And then once I was in the car with him and he said some girl was ‘hot’ because she had all of these tattoos.

he always told me that I overdressed and I tried to hard with my patterned bell bottoms and my other ‘extravagant’ vintage clothing.

Unfortunately, I miss him. Because he made me believe that I was so unlovable and nobody will ever want me due to me being so ‘childish’ and strange with my choices in clothing.

I’m very confused.
PSYCHEDELICFUR