I’m so horribly unattractive

[PsychedelicFur]

I’m so horribly unattractive.

my toxic ex told me I was a ‘6/10’ and ‘plus size’ and embarrassing looking. That is why he showed me photos of other women in bikinis.

I’m that unattractive that he lost interest in me and started treating me like garbage. I know deep and meaningful relationships are not based off looks but he made me believe that I wasn’t very good looking. Even though I have had people, strangers come up to me, hundreds of time and compliment my eccentric clothing or my long wavy ginger hair.

he said to me once ‘you’re looks don’t matter anyway because you are only a 6/10.’

I’m starting to believe what he said about me. ☹️😢😭 please give some suggestions or advice.

many thanks,

lots of love,

PF.

[PsychedelicFur]

Thank you so much Smallwolf for your lovely words. Much appreciated.

You speak wisdom. For sure!!

[jumpyjellyfish-]

Thank you - it means a lot that you care 🙂

Things are hard sometimes but I'll be okay. Hope you are alright too xx

[PsychedelicFur]

Things are difficult at the moment. It’s ok to have ‘off’ days. It means a lot that you respond to my threads too. I appreciate it, enormously.

Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way. I hope you have done something nice for yourself today.

thinking of you Jumpy Jellyfish :-]

PsychedelicFur xxx

[jumpyjellyfish-]

Yeah, we just gotta try our best to work through things I guess.

No problem, it's great to be able to communicate on these forums. There's no pressure or anything, and you know it's people being genuine and I thank you tremendously for talking to me too I appreciate it.

Wishing the same happiness upon you 🙂 Haven't been the kindest to myself today I'll admit, but tomorrow can be a fresh start. You've had a rough day too, so I suggest you do the same - tomorrow, today will just be history.

Take care xx

[PsychedelicFur]

I didn’t wish him a Happy Birthday.

I stuck to my guns!!!!

[smallwolf]

Hi JJ and PF,

Down days are inevitable. At least for me. Remember these days can also help to finding a new way to the top of the mountain. And that going down into a valley only lasts for so long cause at some point you are going upwards again.

At the same time there have been occasions when going down into the valley I gone down further into a cave. Or so it felt. But even that ends somewhere going out into sunlight.

[Croix]

Dear PsF~

As you asked a quick answer:-

From black feelings -> good, (no use playing 'pleasant' music in a black or hopeless mood, needs to match)

Paint it Black (Stones) -> Eleanor Rigby (Lennon–McCartney) -> Windmills of Your Mind (LeGrand/Bergman) -> Gods Away on Business (Waits) -> Via Con Me (Conte)

As for albums: the 5 LP New World Entertainment set of Tour of Duty and the 2 CD Gongo Music release of Blade Runner.

Between these I can normally find something to fit the mood though some of the more psychedelic Beatles pop in as well.

Croix (theme Tune: I am the Walrus Lennon–McCartney)

[PsychedelicFur]

Wonderful!!!! I love I am The Walrus... great superb song!!!!!

wonderful choices. Tasteful variety!!

PsychedelicFur’s theme tune - ‘She’s A Mod’ by Ray Columba & The Invaders or ‘Soul Bossa Nova’

[Croix]

Dear PsF~

I tend to look up the lyrics of music mentioned here, and mistyped in some way because I ended up with the Muppets' version of "Simon Smith and His Amazing Dancing Bear (Newman via Scooter and Fuzzy Bear:) on YouTube

Not what I intended but fun.

I rather like your Theme Tunes and well remember the Mods and Rockers on their Nehru jackets and scooters vs greasy hair, leather jackets and motor bikes. I've always stopped to listen to that Quincy Jones piece, it is alive and fun.

Do you find as both of your themes are cheerful that always suit your mood?

As for I am The Walrus, it's appropriate having both a walrus and a policeman in it together with other references, and would you believe was banned from the BBC at first (which sealed my choice as a result:)

Croix

[PsychedelicFur]

Great tunes. Thank you Croix for the lovely response!! I looooove The Muppets so much. Oh my!!! I love Swedish chef and Zoot the saxophonist. There is a great video on YouTube of The Muppets singing ‘Goodbye Yellow Brick Road’ with the fabulous Elton John.

Feeling a bit sad. Just lots of negative thoughts occurring about my toxic relationship. hope everyone is doing well today.