How do you tell your parents

[Evie-mae]

How do I tell me parents about how I’ve been feeling nervous and all the signs for anxiety/depression. I feel like I need help but I don’t really know how to seek it. I’ve tried telling friends and teachers but no one really listens. Also I’ve been feeling like there’s no point of living and that no one would really care if I was dead. I haven’t done anything thing to hurt myself. I just feel like that when I am overwhelmed and when I’ve had a bad day (which is often). I’ve started hating going to school pretty much to a point where my body feels sick when I’m about to go to school. I should tell my parents but I don’t know how. Anyone suggestions

[Sophie_M]

Dear Evie-mae
 
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums and we are so glad that you have made you way here and had the bravery to post.  It seems that you are feeling pretty overwhelmed right now so we will be reaching out to you privately to offer you some additional support this evening, if you could check your inbox?
 
In the meantime, we would love for you to give one of our fully trained counsellors a call for some counselling support, we are here 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or via our WebChat.  In addition, our lovely friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are always there for you whenever things are feeling like too much to cope with.

Please keep safe  and remember you aren’t alone, we do care about you and you are important.  We will leave you in the hands of our lovely community members who will be here on your thread soon.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better.


Regards 
 
Sophie M

[Learn to Fly]

Hi Evie-mae,

Welcome to the forums. It’s great you have decided to reach out here.

It is really good of you to think about talking to your parents. This is very thoughtful of you as I am sure they would like to know what’s been happening with you, and support you with getting proper help. 
How would you feel about starting up a conversation with “there is something I would like to tell you”.

Keeping things simple might be also helpful. Telling things as they are, as you feel them.

Not sure if your parents are usually good listeners? Even though in good faith but  they might want to interrupt you with some questions. Again, if this is going to make things easier for you, you can always add something like “I want to tell you something and you might have some questions but please wait until I am finished as telling you all this is pretty difficult for me”.
You might not need this suggestion, you will judge best. 
The most important thing is that you realise something is not right, you want to talk to your parents, and you want to get help. This is a great big step forward already as some wouldn’t even go this far. 
Once you talk to your parents a visit to your GP would be a good one, too. They can help you with the mental health assessment and further directions.

Take care there, you have made the right choice of asking for help. 

[quirkywords]

Evie mae

Sophie and learn to fly have given you helpful suggestions. i too welcome the you to the forum. You have insight into your thoughts and can see you are overwhelmed .

i would cut and paste what you have written and use it tell  your parents. I agree keep it simple and only keep what you feel comfortable in telling your parents. They love you and will want to help. 
I wonder how long you have felt like this. Is it fir a week or 2 or for a longer time?

Has something changed in your life recently.?

You write well and are brave to be honest. Many read your 

Post will be helped by your words as they won’t feel so alone. 

feel free to post here and let us know how things are going.?

[smallwolf]

hi and welcome.

Sorry to read about the experiences you have had when you tried telling someone about how you were feeling. It's not very nice. I was wondering if there was a counsellor at your school you could talk to? It would also be good to be able to tell your parents. I like the bit from "Learn to fly" asking your parents to hear you out. Even at my age I still do that with some people. You could also look at Kids Helpline (https://kidshelpline.com.au/) for advice. Remember you are special and deserve support and happiness.

[jaz28]

Hi Evie-mae,

I am sorry you are going through this, it must be really hard for you. It is confusing and difficult when you are going through these feelings and mental states. The first step in seeking help is recognising that you may need it and that you have reached this place. The second step is to reach out to someone for help. You are young, so it does make sense to start with your parents. Friends and teachers can only do so much. Yes, you should tell your parents, and I know it can be hard to worry them. But they are there to support you and guide you through the early stages of your life. You will not be bothering them. I would sit them down and tell them what you have been feeling for a while and that you would like them to help you take it further and see a doctor. You could even sit with them to make the appointment with your GP or call your school to book in with your counsellor (if you have one). Your doctor will be able to refer you to the appropriate mental health services. You will have an amazing life and I promise you there is light at the end of the tunnel after all of this. 

Stay strong and I hope you find a way to reach out,

Jaz xx