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fear of people/talking?

Stormgrl101
Community Member

Hello

I have always been a shy quiet (anxious) person, even as a child. IN high school I started struggling with depression although I did not understand what it was at the time. As I got older I hoped things would change but I dont know what else to do. 
Had a family dinner last night and I became painfully aware of how silent I am. With family, friends, strangers, I just don't have anything to say, apart from "hello". I feel disconnected from the world, unsure of how I am meant to live. Its depressing seeing people around me living their lives, having a job/career, getting married, having kids etc. I dont feel like there is a place in this world for a person like me. 

I guess the point of writing this is to see if there is someone who can give me some sort of hope, see if anyone has overcome something like this. I don't know. I feel strange.

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Elly_H
Community Member

Hi Stormgirl,

 I totally relate to you about being the 'quiet' or 'shy' one. I am notorious for sitting through most social gatherings (even family ones) silently and without contributing much to conversations at all. Do you find that you prefer to write most of your feelings down? Just because you don't have much to say verbally doesn't mean you don't have an opinion.

I recently read a book which I highly recommend to anyone that feels the way that we do. It's called 'Quiet' by Susan Cain. The book has changed my whole life, and I have a new found appreciation for my 'silence'. Seriously, I never recommend books, but this book is just incredible. You'll find yourself saying out loud "oh my god that is so me!" while you read it. It also gives you great perspective and insight into the lives of a variety of people who behave the way that we do.

Cheers,

Elly