Couldn't cope with new job

[gloria10]

Hi all,

So, just having a bit of a down day at the moment. I'd started a new job recenty but I started to realise that I couldn't understand my role. Even though I was asking questions and advice for ways to improve it just didn't make sense and that's not like me. It didn't help that the training wasn't great and the staff weren't helpful but I had to walk away from the job.

I guess I feel like a failure and that I should have tried even more, even though deep down I think I know the job wasn't a suitable fit.

Also, when I make a choice to leave something I keep punishing myself and going over what I should have done for ages, which I know isn't helpful.

I guess I just needed to rant but any advice is appreciated too. Anxiety sucks!

[Blue_Jane]

Hi Gloria

Thanks for sharing. I agree, anxiety can suck! However it sounds like you know yourself quite well and that you know this role wasn't for you.

Trying something is an achievement in itself. You gave it a go and it wasn't for you.

What do you think is the right role for you? There is no such thing as the perfect job, friend, partner etc, but knowing what want certainly helps.

Blue Jane

[gloria10]

Thanks Blue Jane. I feel a bit better writing how I feel. I know I wasn't sure about the job but I did give it a go even with the anxiety. I also tried to learn more to understand it but was told I was being too slow, which I was really surprised by.

I have an idea what I'd like to do. I think part time is more suitable than full time for me and I'd like somewhere close to home. I think that would help me manage added stress. I am also considering study to help boost my confidence.

[MickeyM]

Hi Gloria10

Please don't give yourself a hard time about your decision that leave your new job. I've been on both sides-stuck at a job I hated for far too long, and, offered a job to someone only to have them leave after a couple of weeks.

You're absolutely right, it has to be the right fit.

It might be worthwhile seeing a recruitment agency to have a chat. I saw one a few years back, and she was fantastic. Really clarified my skills and helped give me some direction. Something else to consider is temping. It keeps your skills up to date plus gives you a chance to work in different places.

Let us know how you get on

Mickey

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[Shas]

Hi gloria10,

You're not alone, I went through the same thing about a year ago. I thought the job I went for was suitable for me, but in the end it wasn't. Just like you, I found it hard to grasp the content, I did struggle in the position and once I left I felt like a failure.

Don't hold onto that feeling. You tried your best and you realised the job wasn't for you, many people have experienced it. I like to think this will lead you into the right job, since you've learnt that job did not align with you. And that's perfectly okay.

Hope this helps.