Constant crying/teariness

[Dairymilk88]

The past six months or so, I have noticed a big increase in my crying or teariness. I used to be the kind of person who barely let things upset them. Now I am constantly on the verge of tears if I get overwhelmed with something, and cry in privacy most days of the week... sometimes multiple times a day.

I just don't feel like myself lately. I have just entered into a new relationship (he is nothing but brilliant and supportive) and started working full time in the last 12 months after graduating uni (also having doubts about my chosen career)

I've never felt like this before. Needing some guidance on what this could be or what to do next.

[Guest_989]

Do you feel insecure in this relationship?

[Dairymilk88]

I try to tell myself no, but if I'm honest with myself I would probably have to say that I am.

I have never been in a serious relationship before this. And if I'm honest again, these feelings probably heightened when I started dating him.

[Guest_989]

It's okay to feel insecure, everyone has their own insecurities.

The trick is too acknowledge them, and let them go as just a thought.

Try not to ruminate too much on it, he's with you because he wants to be. Don't let it build up into a emotional reaction

[Blue_Jane]

Hi Dairymilk

Congrats on finishing uni, the new job and the new relationship. When things are really good or if they are really bad, anxiety can play a big role. It is the same chemical reaction from your body. You are going through a lot of change and it is normal to be questioning a few things, just don't do it too much. You need to make time to be happy for what you have achieved and the fun you are having.

A career is not what it used to be - these days we can have two or three or more career changes. And many jobs over those careers. Use this job to figure out what you enjoy eg solving problems, managing stakeholder relationships and remind yourself that these are transferable skills that you can take into any future role or career change.

With your relationship, if he makes you happy then that is great! You mention that he is supportive, then again that is really positive. Azbox makes some great points above.

About four years ago I moved back to Sydney, moved in with a flatmate, started a new job, starting dating a new boyfriend (now my husband) and it was all too much and I was very overwhelmed. Even though they were all positive events. My anxiety kicked up so many gears and it took me another 2.5 years to get it to a manageable level, which is where I am happily today.

Good on you for reaching out, keen to hear how you are tracking.

Blue Jane

[Blue_Jane]

Oh and I realised that I didn't really respond to your point around guidance. You could be feeling nerves or starting to get some anxiety. Your GP is the best person to speak to about that. In the meantime, take time to exercise by yourself so that you get some processing time, eat fresh and non packaged foods and practice some deep breathing exercises (there are so many, Google a few until you find one that works for you). I use the breathing exercises when I start to feel overwhelmed and it usually calms me down.