Hi Bookgirl
Coping about pending/actual war?
You can talk to yourself a bit, really. I tell myself a lot of things even out loud (first sign of insanity they say lol) but fact is, we humans have had wars from year dot, so it isnt going to stop.
Your fears are valid however. A short story. I once saw a video of a professor Dr Gray of Sydney addressing parents of ADHD children- "where does ADHD come from? well, as cavemen we worried so much about our family being attacked or our food stolen that we were like canaries always trying to be ultra alert, that led to ADHD as we know it but only in some people and mainly men".
So fear, worry, alertness to conflict, develops more in some than others. This is why you wonder how others like your hubby dont worry. Your worry is no different than worry itself on othe rtopics, except yours is specific. The word "war" can make our hair on our necks stand up, it's seriously a horrific topic to think about. But you appear not to have it in perspective.
In 1987 I fought a local council I worked for on a topic of mini corruption. They favoured a local state politician. So I was required to learn how to stop catastrophising issues. In the end I lost my job over a few dollars of fines. Sure, I'm proud I fought the employer and their mates but in the end that stance took away my ability to feed my family. I'm not saying I would not do the same thing again, I would just carry out my stance differently and hold nil respect for those top cats.
TonyWK
