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anxiety is destroying my relationship :'(

Simone1994
Community Member
My boyfriend and I have been together for one year and three months. We have been through our fair share of ups and downs and we've always come out stronger. Hes been so supportive of my severe anxiety and depression. I over think every single detail of our relationship and i constantly worry that were not right for each other and that were going to break up. He is the love of my life and i want to be wth him forever. But the other day we had an argument over something so stupid and i over reacted and walked out when i shouldnt have. When i left, in my head it was like we broke up but we didnt. It has been five days since it happened and ever since then i have felt weird. I love him so much but for some reason i cant feel it like i used to. I want things to go back to the way they were and i want to feel the same again. I feel like ive lost him and that i cant get it back. Im worried i have destroyed everything by being stupid and leaving when i shouldnt have. I regret it so much and have hated myself every day since. Please give me advice. I have no idea how to fix this or what to do. I desperately want to fix this. I do not want to leave him. I feel like i have let my anxiety and my head go too far and get in the way of how i really feel and i just want it to go back to normal. I am currently on anti depressants. Please help me 
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JessF
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Well I suppose the first thing is that you have been together for over a year and you say he's been very supportive, and you've been through your ups and downs. So I'm guessing that thiings like this may have happened before, and everything has ended up ok, despite you feeling like its the end of the world (thats what anxiety does to us sadly)?  Have you spoken to him since the argument?  If not then that would be the first thing I'd do.

sos54
Community Member

Hi Simone

I hope things have already worked out for you but I think the most important thing is communication. In any relationship I believe you must be able to talk to each other and be honest about how you are feeling. Sometimes just using the words 'I feel like' or 'when i do this I feel' like or 'when you do this I feel like' can help start a conversation. You are very lucky to have someone that you say has been very supportive. Only the 2 of you know if you should stay together but please take the step to try and have a conversation and be honest about your feelings and ask him to be as well. Life can be confusing and you may not even know your own thoughts but if you can talk easily your relationship will be stronger for it. If you are on anti depressants take care and if you feel you are not sorting it out talk to your Dr about it as well.