Anxiety hitting again

[JacintaMarie]

Hi again, my next thread, I went to sleep but now at 2:44am my anxiety has arrived again, I did something at work wrong and I hate myself for doing the wrong thing, I've lost perspective so I don't know if it's important or will fix itself.

I wish I would stop, I tell my brain to calm down but it doesn't. One of my triggers is making a mistake at work, of stuffing up, of not slowing down.

I am annoyed at myself for doing it and hate that I seem to keep on doing it.

Thank you for letting me get this out,

[Guest9337]

ok.

What could a good person do?

[JacintaMarie]

Hi dng

A good person would be tolerant, they wouldn't complain about them, they would be compassionate about their problem, empathize, would let them rant & not say anything.

[Guest9337]

Hi JM

I love your response, can we set some boundaries with it please? Report post me if u need to.

Tolerant. Should we be tolerant of being abused? How long should a person be tolerant of some behaviour?

For example, I am highly intolerant of people doing any violence to children, and I make no apology about that!

Is my intolerance an example of me being not-good?

[JacintaMarie]

Hi dng

No, your okay. Your right, a good person wouldn't be tolerant to anyone who is violent against anyone or animals. You need to protect people but do it in a non violent way, otherwise we're just the same.

Today I got frustrated again by people at work, at home I ranted, then I felt bad & asked the universe to forgive me, then I did talk to someone, & they also said its okay to be frustrated, even me.

A good person does good things, & helps

I apologize if I said anything offensive.

[Guest9337]

Ahimsa to JacintaMarie, how's the evening progressing?

You are a good person just by knowing what a good person is! Imperfection is fine, mistakes happen and are temporary.

It's like being err, constipated. Do we wait, letting the waste build up until it is too painful to pass? Or do we seek out a way to move and flush before it all becomes a hospital trip?

Let the waste go at regular intervals in a safe and clean place, and enjoy the rest of your day.

I've not read anything of yours that was even remotely offensive, good safe n clean place right here. Rant on please.

love dng.

[JacintaMarie]

Hi dng

Thanks for that, I had another afternoon talking about work, my mind is being negetive.

Without trying to sound like a victim, which I don't want to do & I hate if I am, I am lonely at work, though I'm surrounded by people, though I'm learning to just speak when spoken too, I seem to always say the opposite opinion & then they get angry. I try not to take it personally, but I don't appreciate getting people's ire, to be someone's stress bag, then I think I'm naive that you can have a different view & be respectful and to be asked in a nice way. I've been told there's no point in telling them to change their tone because they don't have an issue with how they speak, that again I'm taking it personally. I don't know how people with thick skins do it, to ignore people's words & tones.

Big rant I know, & my hormones have something to do it, & I don't realize it, each time it happens.

Everyone else can deal with people's diverse personalities at work & I still can't! Lol. My way of dealing with it is just to have annual leave & keep away as much as I can.

[Guest9337]

Evning JM!

Avoidance of stress is reasonable. Isolation in company sux. Opinions about many things need not be shared at work, end those conversations that are off task politely. Naivety is fine, there is a sweet innocence to it, respectful and nice. Maybe = I don't know enough about this/that, please I'm focusing on working.

Indeed sometimes there is no point, they need a bigger stick/boss than you. Thick skins develop armour by noticing what really hurts and reflecting it or ignoring it or overpowering it or reframing it.

I am sad your hormones don't do what u want them to do! lol. Can totally understand.

Back in the 90's I was a child care worker at my local ymca. A girl on her very first day had arrived by my dads car as he was volunteering for troubled kids organisation. Anyways all cool for a few hours and then I see the girl sitting on the bench crying.

"What's up?" I ask. "Those boys are saying bad things about me." She replied.

"How do those boys know those things about you? Do you know them?" I asked gently.

"No, they don't know me. I just got here." she said tearfully.

"Well right then childname, so they don't know you which means what they said is wrong!"

"uh"

"Well because they don't know you truly, you don't have to respect what they say about you!" I said matter factly.

She dried her eyes and I imagine felt a little better in that moment, and many moments ahead when others said bad things to her.

[JacintaMarie]

Hi dng

That's a good tip, not to say opinions at work, there's no point, things get too heated.

Though sometimes I wish people would listen (I don't mean the horrible things of course)

Also too, I don't think I listen, or I don't speak properly, like an idiot, though I am told this is my perspective, so its hard to know if its my brain projecting that or if the others are just talking s.h.i.t to me, I don't know anymore. At work, my colleagues seem to always get the aholes all the time or people who are being mean, plus too, one publisher seems to be a ahole, I don't know why they are still in business to be honest, plus the saga of the heater not being warm enough, I fortunately don't have that problem, I think they're just grumpy people. I feel bad because they're suffering & I'm not being compassionate enough, though I'm tired of their constant complaining.

[JacintaMarie]

Hi

Just want to vent again, at work, I need to be quiet as I seem to say the wrong thing, people get angry at what I say & I'm so stupid I don't know what I'm saying wrong. One particular person, I need to avoid, I always do the wrong thing, or say the wrong thing, I did talk to her but she turned it around & blamed me, I need to leave work, they all hate me, but where can I go. A place where I don't annoy anyone.

Though, that person is who she is, she can't change.

Plus too, the world is so bad & I don't know how to fix it, poor refugees, escsping from their countries & the homeless, what can I do, to fix it, to help all the bad in the world, to get the world back on track!

The corona will go away, we have to hold on & wait & it will go!

[Guest9337]

G'day JacintaMarie.

I too need to vent sometimes... but sometimes that just doesn't do enough, I then need to take action to release that which isn't released with venting. So yeh, I see the peoples doings that are harmful and I aim the biggest bow I can find at something very small...

I aim to implement one incremental improvement - just one thing that is beneficial, or reduces harm. Small or big, just something I can actually do that makes me feel released i.e. anti-venting.