What do I do ?

[JJF]

Hey I'm 22 and the past 6 or so years I have been finding myself getting no enjoyment from anything up until now

I have reached a point where I cannot do anything without getting frustrated or unfocused and my social life is a complete zero.

I recently quit my job because I couldn't handle people and the job it self, I even find it hard to talk to family members and relatives about anything in general..

I can't get a good night sleep at all and I eat pretty healthy so wouldn't that help me but no it doesn't..

I also feel lonely all the time, can't ever see myself with a partner again..

Just writing this is frustrating me because I'm complaining to complete strangers and I feel my words have no importance 

to me or anyone.. what do I do ( p.s) already went to doctor they just said to have anti depressants I refuse.

[HA1]

Hello JJF - and welcome to the BB forum.

You are not talking to strangers on this forum - many of the members have gone through the same feelings that you are experiencing.  Your words are important to us, so speak freely and ask questions, no-one will judge you.  I for example, tend to vent my issues on this forum - because those that read the posts understand what I/you are going through.  Just to get things off my chest feels better, as does knowing that someone is listening.  So, with that introduction, well done on taking the first step in sharing your issues with others here on BB, that in itself can be a difficult step.  

You say that you have been to see the GP and was prescribed AD - I assume that you were diagnosed with depression/anxiety. What you have described of yourself sounds very much like what I went through.  I am now on anti-depressants and after a settling-in period they are starting to work. Like you I was not happy about taking them, but they are important in helping you.  I'll be blunt and suggest that you should think carefully about rejecting them.  Have you been to see a Psychologist?  If not that might also help - just to talk things through.  They will be able to steer you other things you can do to overcome the way you are feeling.  On the top left hand corner of this page you will see the tab 'Get Support' click on that and you will see that you can search for BB endorsed health professionals that understand what we are going through. Take a look. Also explore the resources available on the BB web site, as well as the discussions on this forum. That in itself is quite healing.

I would very much hope that you will continue to post and, if you are up to it, maybe tell a little bit more about yourself.

Take care

K

[white knight]

Hi JJF,

I agree with AOK on all of his post.

I'm wondering why you refused AD's?  Humans arent perfect and the stigma surrounding these medications is ridiculous, unfounded and in the stone age.

There are many of us here on Beyond Blue that have run the journey of AD's and found peace. I personally will never go off them and in my case mood stabilisers.

You seem, due to the last 6 years, lack stimulation. Hobbies, sport, interests or one specific interest. Can you elaborate?  Is there something you are good at?  Emersing yourself into a passion can help you.

you can read the many threads here on this forum for guidance also.

Please keep in touch.  Take care

[geoff]

dear JJF, please don't be frightened because the people here on this site maybe complete strangers, but only in sight, but certainly not in spirit, because all of us have been to hell and back, once if they are lucky, but normally several times, and there are a lot of people who are still in depression but reply to those that are asking for help, so it's an open forum where we all join in to help each other.

At the moment you are suffering badly, and it's virtually impossible to believe that anyone alone can overcome their problems by themselves, and if they believe that they have, then there would be plenty of concerns which have been overlooked, because these are the real problems which are causing the problem.

So I hope that you haven't been persuaded to not get back to us, because there is an enormous amount of people wanting to help you. Geoff.

[Neil_1]

Hi there JJF

Also here’s another warm welcome to you to Beyond Blue.

You’ve received some really awesome responses and each one has provided some really useful advice.

One thing I would like to reiterate and write about is the doctor that you went and saw.  It may have been a whole lot more than what you described below, but I know that there are many doctors out there that do respond to mental health issues in a very off-hand and ‘get out of my office as soon as possible’ attitude.  Your encounter sounded like that – “here take these tablets and you should get better”.  Or something like that.

If you can perhaps set yourself up for an appointment with one of the GP’s that Beyond Blue have on this site (see AOK’s response for where to search for these GP’s).  the thing with these guys is that they’re all fully trained in being able to deal with mental health issues.

And like Geoff mentioned – we cannot deal with depression solely by ourselves – we need many other support mechanisms out there – perhaps personal friends or family (but can be a bit tricky, as they simply don’t know how or what depression is), GP’s, psyches, anti-depressants, exercise, eating healthy, drinking lots of water (keeping body and mind hydrated is something that isn’t spoken a lot about, but is critically important).  And a lot of other things.

I do hope you can get back to us.

Neil

[JJF]

Trying to make things better makes it worse nothing gets anywhere you only end up a step backwards and I don't know what to say to any of the reply I feel too frustrated 

[JJF]

Because I refuse to take anti depressants because in my head I  if feel only worse knowing my life has depend on a pill just to be happy.

[Amelbourneboy]

Hi JJF,

I was the same for so many months. I had so much termination to NOT take a pill i possibly could have swam the english chanel had i used the same energy.

Im now on an AD and its not anything like my mind had told me to be. I dont see it as something that controls me, or with out it i wont function. Its also not a drug of dependance, its one to help me, be me.

No one can make you take them, its a choice and a control you have. If i had my time again i would have started them straight away, i feel like i lost so much good time in fighting something.

Let me know your thoughts. 🙂

[JJF]

I've got Ad's at home but I won't take them I don't like the idea of them that's my fault and i'll live with it I suppose

[geoff]

dear JJF, it's not so much as we have to rely on a pill to keep us going, unfortunately this is a misunderstanding of what antidepressants do for us, what they do is correct the lost serotonins that are lacking in our mind, it's no different than taking a pill for a headache, well we rely on these to help us stop the constant pain in our head, or perhaps another part of the body.

Taking antidepressants should not be considered as a 'happy pill' because they have no effect like what drinking alcohol has to us, there is no effect as this, all they do is to correct the lost feeling of being sensible and to be able to rationalise our thoughts and indeed take away the negative thoughts that someone with depression always has, so please think of them as such. Geoff.