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[Jade12]

It seems like lately every task, no matter how small has been tiring and impossible. I have been having frequent headaches and panic attacks. These can be triggered off by anything from waiting for a test to period pains. I recently broke up with my boyfriend I'd had for 1 year. I understand that it was destined to happen, it was not a healthy relationship. The loneliness is becoming overwhelming, I am doing by best to cope with these feelings.   

[AGrace]

Hi Love,

It sounds like, despite the relationship ending, this might have been the best thing for you at the time, and I'm sorry for your loss. It also sounds like it's left you feeling a little isolated and lonely, which is completely understandable.

Headaches and panic attacks aren't much fun, and I know you mentioned you are doing your best to cope, but I was wondering if you have spoken with a GP about this? It might be a good next step. It might also be an idea to consider seeing a Psychologist/Counsellor just to get some extra support and to talk through some of your challenges and experiences.

When you say you feel lonely, is it just on an intimate level? Do you have a supportive group of friends and family around you? Have you been able to talk with anyone else about how you are feeling? Often we think we can brave it through these things by ourselves, but they say "A problem shared, is a problem halved" so having someone to help you get through can be beneficial.

In terms of the loneliness, often when a relationship ends it can take a little while for us to find our feet and work out some hobbies or interests that we can pursue without that person in our lives anymore. Have you considered joining a social group, or a local community group, a sporting club, or something that can engage you in socialising with some like minded people again?

You might also like to have a look at the threads:

SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING ANXIETY under the anxiety section or

SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION under the depression section to see if there are some useful strategies that you can use in the interim.

AGrace

[Jade12]

I am on meds, I do see a gp. I feel lonely because I have no one to talk to. I mean every therapist I go to is, well it hurts because they consistently check their watches or will be checking their phone while I am trying to explain stuff.  

[Jade12]

I am content having no friends at school, I have a few friends I sit with on the bus none of which go to my school. I am smart, tall, whatever but what people don't see is the person behind that. Often I am criticized for appearing stuck up when if fact I am quite the opposite. I am extremely shy however it's not the crowds that scare me, because I managed to get the debating award making me the best debater in the north but it's the small talk the conversations and what happens behind your back. I am yet to find a friend who is honest, trust worthy and with decent morals. Everyone seems so predatory in the quest to climb to the top and get dux that they are scared of me and treat me badly since I am a threat. I am involved in a lot of extra curricular activities so that keeps me busy along with my miniature pony. I guess I am feeling shock, because initially I thought my boyfriend was innocent, kind and caring, it is only now that I realise what he was doing and how he abused my innocence. I mean you don't expect a twiggy, little guy that lives in an upper class town to be the type of guy that would manipulate you so he could have sex with you. You would expect it to be a guy in a hot rodded car with tatoos who lives in a slum. I guess that's just what shocked me. I mean if he looked scary then at least I would have had the confidence and support to tell him where to go. I am fine now and I hope never to go back with him, I just didn't expect it, and the more I look into it the more I see and how there were particular things he said and when you look into them, he did not have my interests in mind.  

[Jade12]

Sorry if I am being a nuisance, I just need someone or something to fill that gap so I am not tempted to go back to him. When we were going out, my depression surfaced quite badly. I became almost anorexic after he continually told me ate too much. My hair began falling out rapidly, possibly from the stress. He would just sit there and stare at me, like there was something wrong with me. He'd comment on my looks if I had mud. I used to dress up nicely to please him, but the most I would get would be you look nice today. After I had spent ages picking out clothes and even my mum made a fuss that I was dressed up. I am feeling slightly better now.