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Hi, so I have an amazing long distance boyfriend that I have met 2 times already, and we have been together for more than a year. The problem is that I have a problem with lying.. And I have talked to someone and tried to stop (I have gotten better), but every once in a while something comes out without me thinking, and then my boyfriend freaks out and doesn't trust me, because of all the lies I have told him. None of them have been about big things, just small white lies, but in the past recent months, he has started to become depressed because of them. At times he has told me that I don't appreciate/love him enough (I thought I do/say many loving things to him and about what he does for me, I tell him sweet things every day and whenever he does something romantic is makes me so happy) or I can't stop lying. He tells me "if you really loved me you would stop lying and treat me better", and I am trying to be better because I truly love him with all of my heart, but it is hard. Because of all of these things he has become depressed and it sucks because we are long distance and I am not there to help him through it. The most recent thing that pushed him past the edge was because I wouldn't facetime him in the car with a girl on my dance team and her parents in the car with me (they drove me home after a football game we performed at). It made me uncomfortable to call him, when I'm not that good friends with the girl, plus her parents were there. Because I wouldn't call him, he thinks that I'm embarrassed of him, which is not the case at all, but I believe that is the depression talking. Anyways, do any of you guys have any tips for me on how I can help my boyfriend deal with the depression, being so far away? I want him to know that I am there for him, but he is pushing me away and I don't want that to happen, especially since we are long distance and I am not able to watch him and make sure he is okay.
By the way, I am 15 and he is 16, he is too young to be going through this and I really want to be able to help him, because he won't tell his mom, because he knows if he tells her it is because of me, she will make him break up with me. He doesn't want that to happen because he loves me, but is always getting hurt by the things I do. Is there any tips on how I can act better to be able to show him my love?
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dear WishingLove, hello and nice for you to be on this forum.
Young love how I wish that I had a chance of being in love at your age, actually I was in love with many girls but was always a chicken and never followed through with it, way too scared.
In a relationship there are two people and in this occasion it's you and your boyfriend, but what love means and definitely involves is trust, well this also should be in any relationship, but as time progresses this starts to fade away, but with you, it's two young lovers who are in love, on cloud 9 as they say, they worship everything their partner says and does, that's what true love is, but if however lies start to appear then their trust for you begins to fade away, because to stay in love, they worship and agree with whatever can be agreed on, but now they question whatever you say.
This is a major breakdown in young love, because he expects that you tell him the whole truth, as you do with him, there are no secrets or white lies, because white lies at your age will only lead onto major lies or cover-ups later on in life.
You have to find the strength to tell him what you are covering up, because a white lie now will only lead onto other major truths that you haven't told him, it becomes so complicated, one lie to cover up another white lie, so it gets very messy.
When someone meets another person it's so exciting and the trill of being with another person who loves me, there is nothing more exhilarating than this, you dress well, wear make up and plan time alone or a special occasion to go to, everything that you can possibly do to please him, and it goes both ways.
True love is so hard to find, short time affection is easy to find, but for anybody who wants love and understanding it's the best relationship to keep. Geoff.
