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Hi my name is Carla and im in year 9, i’ve recently started at a new school an hour away from my home, and its safe to say im struggling. i have no motivation whatsoever to go to school, i hate waking up and hate seeing everyone to do with this school. there is a lot of drama revolved around me here and i just want to get away from it. i have fake friends too, and its hard to cope with all the work since i used to be one of the top in my class but now im droppin. im wondering if i should move to the school that is closer to my house. my old friends are there now, the school used to be considered feral but it has improved a lot since then. i want to be near my house, my old friends and not have to wake up so early. the school im at now is considered really good but i don’t understand the hype. i dont know what is the right decision to make, what if i leave and continue to have no genuine friends? what is the right decision??
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Hi Carla,
Power of suggestion is a curious thing...
At school, I always got good grades - simply because it was what I always achieved. My motivation for school was perpetuated purely by these parameters. Maybe I had good teachers, or maybe their method only ensured good grades...
It wasn't until I started Uni that I realised my limitations - no one had ever taught me how to learn, to challenge me to provide considered opinion, to foster a passion for learning. What an omission - a deception in some sense; to take the path of least resistance is missing the point of education.
I know of others like you who suddenly felt like 'small fish in a big pond' and it is hard to accept this at first, but you are a work in progress having only just begun the transformation.
Look ahead to your senior years before you decide which path to take.
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Carla,
Thank you so much for reaching out, and welcome to the forums. I've been in your position, and my sister has also been in your position, and both of us had vastly different responses. I'd like to share both with you to hopefully help you when you're considering your options.
I'm sorry to hear that you've lost your motivation for school. It's difficult to be in that position where you're over school, but still have to go so regularly. It gets repetitive and you can lose your motivation, then it feels like such a chore. It's unfortunately a pretty universal experience too, particularly around your age. That doesn't make it any less of a struggle, though.
Have you talked to your parents about this? Do you feel as if they'd understand and support where you're coming from?
In terms of struggling with the workload and lack of motivation, I combatted this by implementing schedules and calendars into my life, and I developed a homework schedule that would push me to get work done. To me, the motivation to make the schedules came from my will to procrastinate, and then they ended up being super helpful.
I'd note down a time frame (for instance, 4pm - 5pm) and exactly what I wanted to achieve within that time frame (for instance, 50 words of an English essay). If you keep in mind what is realistic and achievable for you, you may find that you start exceeding this very quickly and you can inadvertently get more done. Removing all distractions also helps. There are apps that you can download that can stop you from using your phone during study sessions if you find that to be an issue, and I'd also encourage you to find a quiet place where you can study in peace.
I ended up staying at my school for the remainder of high school, as I had a few friends who I wanted to keep in regular contact with, and I didn't feel as if changing schools would've been beneficial for me even though I'd considered it. My sister on the other hand decided moving schools worked better for her, as many of her struggles at school were social. She ended up finding friendships quickly at her new school, which also gave her a renewed sense of motivation for studying. Both of us dealt with school-related struggles since then, but neither of us regretted our respective decisions.
I would say that it entirely depends on why you want to leave, and what you believe the new school will offer you. If it helps, there are ways to still keep in contact with your friends if you move, and there are also ways to make your experience at your current school better if you choose to stay. Perhaps a trial shift at a new school may help, if you're thinking about it.
I hope this gives you some greater insight to inform your decision, and I wish you the best of luck. Of course, we're here if you have any more questions or anything more to say, and there are many of us on the forums who have been in your position and will be happy to support you.
All the best, SB