dear Jodie, hello and nice to be able to talk to you.
To be honest it's quite a difficult situation you are both in at the moment.
Can I just say is how can you stop him from talking to other women in the way he is, secretly on his phone, because not only do you have to control this with him, but then how are you going to stop the girls from contacting him, and even if he gets another sim card, he can still contact them, so it's a vicious circle.
Good on him for taking anger management classes, but you can never cure anybody in half a dozens classes, because later on down the track he will just go back to the way he was, which makes it a very precarious situation for you.
Love can take on so many different meanings in life and can then overshadow what is really happening.
You have also had an affair and remember when I said that he can't be cured in just a few sessions, then what you have done will upset him, so now I worry for your safety.
Whether he drinks alcohol and you haven't mentioned this, so I suppose I'm guessing, but however if he does then you are at more risk.
You can still love him even if you're not with him, and 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander', however if you my closest friend, I would try and dissuade you, sorry. L Geoff. x
