In constant pain and fear

[Alone_wolf]

I am going through a really difficult time at the moment because of financial pressures and the pressure and negative remarks from family members has done quiet a number on my health am I am really concerned that I am loosing weight rapidly was 110kgs now somewhere between 80-90kgs I haven't been able to eat properly for sometime and to make the weight loss worse is the waking up every morning sometimes as early as 4:30-5 am just to be sick and I feel cold all the time I have to wear so many layers I feel rediculous . Everytime I talk on the phone to my mum and start discussing with her what she suggest would help but I wand up a ready mess before my mum can give advice I hang up as I am ashamed that I have helped soo many people in the past but I cannot help myself. 

I have many emotional and traumatic experiences that I am still struggling to come to grasps with. 

As a 23 year old male I have seen things and witnessed events that keep playing out through my mind  everyday and finding it is getting harder by the day 

I was just wondering if anyone can help me understand what's happening why I'm so cold all the time. Why does everything have to stuff up for me all the time help



 

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[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Alone wolf,

Welcome to BB and thanks for reaching out.

It sounds like there's a fair bit of stuff that's going on for you that's causing you a lot of stress at the moment.  I know that stress can be quite detrimental to our health; and definitely explains things like feeling cold, loss of appetite, weight-loss and any other things you might be experiencing.

It sounds like you are trying to talk to your mum which is really good and I'm glad you are trying to reach out.  I really think that the best way to start to feel better is to talk more about what's going on for you.  

It's okay if you feel like a 'mess', and it's okay if feel like you've helped other people in the past but can't help yourself.  I'm not sure what you are going through but I know that stress and mental health is kind of like an oxygen mask in an aeroplane: we have to put oxygen on ourselves before we can help others.  

It doesn't make you any less of a person and it doesn't mean that you're not worthy or that you can't help others; in fact it's the opposite.  It makes you stronger.

So reach out 🙂 Make a call or post again if you like.  But know that it can get better.

Take care,

[Narniakid]

Hey Alone wolf, welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing with us.

I am sorry to hear you're not going too well. The physical symptoms of weight-loss, feeling cold and a loss of appetite are all symptoms of depression and anxiety, and I urge you to visit your GP for a professional diagnosis and a referral to a specialist psychologist or therapist. It sounds like you've been feeling this way for quite a long time without seeking enough or any help, so some talk therapy is really vital to your recovery.

You've done a great job coming on here and sharing with us, perhaps try ringing the phone service for some advice? If you're feeling extremely low and in danger, please call the hotline! You can absolutely get through this, but you need a little help along the way! We are here to support you through it all, but please have a look for some local psychology services and visit your GP, because it's affecting your physical health as well as your mental!

Stay strong and keep in touch, it gets better but it's up to you!

Crystal

[Alone_wolf]

I am trying to be strong and I think I have my mums support now and I know she also suffers from anxiety/depression so I now feel as tho if anything happens to her I would never forgive myself for putting more added stress on her how do I help her as well she is an extremly stubborn lady. 

 i have seen my gp today and he has started me on some antidepressants so hopefully they will help me to feel better