I've given up and have no idea how to get back up.

[the_one_1]

I told a girl who is a friend of mine about the girl I like and to find out who she likes. She got back to me today telling me she likes someone else. I'm really upset and was confident that she liked me back (having a gut feeling she likes me). She has been showing me signs, and even today after her friend told me she liked someone else, I feel like I'm getting signs she likes me back. I had previously asked out a girl who had lied about wanting to go out with me (about 3 months ago), the girl I like found out I had asked out a girl from the news passing around my school, but she doesn't know she lied. 

Today the girl I like now has been showing me signs of liking me even though I found out from her friend that she likes someone else. The signs are below...

She has looked/stared at me a little throughout the day

I was talking about a school project she had done and after I said something she laughed and said lol.( I didn't say anything funny)

I showed my friend my school photo and he showed it to the girl I like and she said "Awwwwwwww [Nickname her and her friend came up with]. (As she said the nickname, she stretched the length of the name).

My friend told the girl I like to take the photo home and put it on her wall. The girl I like replied saying "Its [my name]'s, He should have it"

She has given me many other signs previously but these are the signs she has shown today after her friend told me she likes someone else. I'm not sure what to do. Please Help?

[The_Real_David_Charles]

Dear the one,

It's OK.  You can only control yourself.   Must be disappointing having these crushes crushed.  But that's life.

Most relationships go with the gut.   The moment you know you like someone,  The desire to spend time with someone.  The pleasure of their company.  The thinking about each other all the time.  The sheer bombardment of emotions.  It's all from the gut.  Some might say soul mates.

You can always meet someone else, get yourself back up, etc.   To give up now after a few threads on BB detailing love's anguish would be like only ordering the Medium Quarter Pounder with Fries and Sprite from MacDonalds but not hanging around to take the order and savour it's fresh, juicy taste.  Mmmmm.

You are only touching the surface.   What till your wife buys a size 8 dress (when she is a size 10) and asks nonchalently "Does my arse look big in this ?".   You might have to widen your expectations of life, my friend.  Happyness is sometimes just fitting in, being in the moment without dying of frustration and confusion.

Adios, David.

PS  Ever read the classics ?  Lots of relationship pointers in those.  Or even Woman's Day, Cosmopolitan - whatever your mum buys.  Even the Sydney Morning Herald has a Problems Page.

[vip]

Hu the one you still have followed my advice and gone to that girl directly!!! Why do you keep getting a third party involved here ? You dont even know if this friend of yours who is going back and forth with all the messages is lying.Stop reading the signs and just do it!!!  Yes or No thats all you want from this scenario. If its yes great if its no then move on like the saying goes there are plenty of fish in the sea. She is teasing you 100% with this watch out for your feelings and well being. Write back to us all and let us know if you mustered up the courage and did things yourself. Hopefully you do and i will congratulate you next post instead of lecturing i really sound like your mum here and i really dont want too. Goodluck and all the best with this.

[Saska]

Hi The_one_1

Just be yourself. Don't put any pressure on her to date you as this will just scare her away. Continue being her friend.

 Good luck I hope it works out for you.