I hate everything

[guest165]

I'm 16 years old and going through high school.. I've lost all motivation to do anything! I hate school, I hag everyone and everything and I hate thinking of the future! it's very odd for me to be like this because I'm a generally happy, enthusiastic girl but I seriously hate everything. I'm stressing and struggling and school and I hate it because all I want is a good future and I'm scared if I don't go well on my HSC! I don't won't to work in an office, get married and have kids I just .. hate conformity .. I don't know I just ugh please tell me if you've experienced stuff like this and can someone please give me advice 😞

[HA1]

Dear Lauren

I dont think it is uncommon for young people to go through a stage where they question everything in life.  Heaven knows, I was young once, and I did.  However, what is not clear to me is whether this is a new development or whether it is something that has been creeping up on you?  Also, are there any issues around your life that might be contributing to these negative thoughts?  Regarding schooling, it is quite natural to worry about your future and the all important HSC results.  I have children who have gone through exactly what you are feeling.  

Tell us a little bit more about yourself.

Love to hear back from you.

K

[white knight]

Hi Lauren Grace, welcome here

Conformity...good word. I know how you feel even though I'm 59yo.

I cant stand conventional living. In fact over the years I've moved from a house in the city to further away from the city and further again. Now we live in a town of 200.

Also I had a choice of car clubs. One had a conventional committee and were rather, shall we say, bossy and the other had no committee just an organiser for drives. I went the latter. I hate being bossed.

But like many things in life we people, some with mental restrictions, are prone to extreme behaviour and feelings. Some have extreme sensitivity like me, some extreme sadness, some extreme anger. Many jails are full of extreme illnesses like ADHD. So you have an extreme response to conformity. Like all extreme responses however the middle road is often the answer to the condition.

Middle road? Well is means being reasonable and that means some tolerance for convention to blend into society rather than for example- reject it. I rejected society once. Saddled up my stuff on a motorbike and headed for the mountains. I lasted a week. I was not realistic. I was reactional. Hence the answer for me was to live in the mountains in a conventional house away from the city and lots of people. You need to find the answer for you

As you wrestle finding the answer continue on with your current course i.e school. Don't be afraid of altering your direction especially if you feel desperately unhappy. Those that place pressure on you are doing what they believe is right for you but only you know your limits. You can always return to education later on in your life if that is what you want.

Life is grand. But you need to chase it, follow what makes you happy, hobbies, career, interests, touring around...and ultimately doing all this with someone special, a partner or friends.

My first wife did tell me one thing that always stuck with me. "Tony you'll never be happy until you find a closed flower and watch it bloom fully". Maharaji said "A sunset takes two hours to set...how many people have seen a sunset from start to finish? Most say they have yet they haven't".  (Google Maharaji sunset youtube)

So yes conformity has its negatives. But there is a reason for everything. I hate the laws of the road but without them there would be chaos.

Tony WK