Car crash

[amara_star]

Last week my dad died, he was in a car crash... I'm having a really hard time. I feel like I'm always on the verge of tears and school is the hardest thing because i always cry in classes. Im having a really hard time and can't concentrate on anything...

[james1]

Hi Amara,

Oh I never know what to say because nothing seems to really seem right. I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and your family and friends, and I hope you can take this time to grieve for your dad.

I have always found funerals to be...nice isn't the right word, but I find them to be peaceful. It's good to be able to celebrate a person's life and see just how many people they touched in life. I think that's what I would want as well.

Anyway, if you need anything, don't forget you can always speak to us about anything including just how your day has been. And there's also the BeyondBlue support line where you can just have a chat to someone on the phone and hear a friendly voice. There is a link below called Grief and Loss which is a nice little page to read.

If you ever want to speak, your messages will come up in my "My Threads" list and I would love to chat to you.

All the best

James

[Touille]

Hi Amara star,

I'm very sorry for your loss, it's terrible. I think you need to see a counsellor to explain your grieve or GP. You should have a little break from school, your heart is broken losing your father. Death is our worst enemy and you need help to cope.

I can't handle death, I lost my sister and uncle, both were young.

Pour your feelings out here, I feel for you.

Try and think of the nice memories, you and your father had. As a Christian, I believe God knows our pain and the bible promises that he will remove all mankind's problems in the future, including death.

I hope my message helps you.

Hugs,

Touille

[Guest_322]

Hi Amara,

I am so sorry for your loss. Grief is excrutiating. It's a really intense kind of pain.

My grandma passed away 5 years ago, and even though she was not a very nice person, the grief was still enormous (still sort of is but less so).

When she passed away, I cried almost everyday for a long time. So even though I'm guessing your relationship with your dad was very different to the one that I had with my grandma, grief is grief is grief. What I'm trying to say is I can empathise.

It's painful. It's awful. Grief is horrible. My 2 cents worth is do it your way: there's no right or wrong way to say goodbye to someone who has passed especially someone like your father who was probably an incredible man.

Again, I'm so sorry but as James and Touille have suggested, it might help you to call BB, see a counsellor and/or GP. You shouldn't have to do this alone.

Let the tears fall. Cry, laugh at memories, scream...do it your way...

Dottie x