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Confused

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Hello, I am seeking some tips on how to approach my mother to tell her how I feel and how I think I may possibly have depression? I am afraid that she will dismiss my feelings, and ultimately feel uncomfortable at the thought of telling her. I want t... View more

Hello, I am seeking some tips on how to approach my mother to tell her how I feel and how I think I may possibly have depression? I am afraid that she will dismiss my feelings, and ultimately feel uncomfortable at the thought of telling her. I want to seek professional help to enable me to understand and cope with my feelings and to know whether what I am feeling is 'normal' (lack of a better word) or is due an underlying issue. My father has depression, which has worsened severely since my parents broke up (I am in grade 11, they split in grade 5). He does not know that I know that, and only told me he had depression several months ago. I have a fractured relationship with him (his words, not mine) and we have never really openly discussed feelings so I definitely don't feel comfortable discussing it with him. It is only recently that I have felt these symptoms worsen (app. past 3 months). I have been moving houses, and am still in the process of finding a new house to live in. The process is unbelievably frustrating and has made my overall mental health worsen severely. My productivity levels have stunted immensely over the past few months, and I feel so unmotivated. The best way I can describe how I feel is empty. I feel void of emotions a lot of the time, and will go through these periods a few times a week (lasting 1-3 hours) where I feel extremely tired (even though I may have received adequate sleep that night) and like i'm just existing, like the world is operating around me but i'm frozen in time or in slow motion. In addition to this, I experience lots of anger and frustration, and the smallest things may set me off. I've lost enjoyment in lots of activities, and struggle to focus. I discussed them with my closest friends, one of which said she experienced the same feelings as well as point out that they are symptoms of depression. I have considered it momentarily before, but never seriously until now. I don't want to label it and self-diagnose or even suggest that I may have it as I feel like people will respond by thinking I am an attention seeker. This is also why I also struggle to voice my concerns to my parents, the last time I did so to my mother (about trouble concentrating in school and exhibiting ADHD symptoms) she dismissed my worries, and told me that it was because I spend "too much time on my computer" or other similar reasons. Sorry for the rambling, if there is anything you would like to know do not hesitate to ask. Thanks

Free Depression support services?

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Is there any free depression support services kinda like Alcoholics Anonymous or something similar? Been going through tough times for a while and the medicine the gp gives just ruins my sex drive making me even more depressed and lonely, so i though... View more

Is there any free depression support services kinda like Alcoholics Anonymous or something similar? Been going through tough times for a while and the medicine the gp gives just ruins my sex drive making me even more depressed and lonely, so i thought the next best thing would be something like this. I'd rather not open up to the people around me because in the past they have screwed me in the back and used what i told them against me. So I'd rather meet with a group of like minded people who can maybe help me and themselves by supporting one another. Thank you

Doesn’t change

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Hi, I’ve never really done this but it’s currently nearly 1:30am and I can’t sleep. I’ve had trouble sleeping quiet a lot recently. I’m done. Today was so hard I haven’t been the same since some things that happened in school and that was nearly 2 ye... View more

Hi, I’ve never really done this but it’s currently nearly 1:30am and I can’t sleep. I’ve had trouble sleeping quiet a lot recently. I’m done. Today was so hard I haven’t been the same since some things that happened in school and that was nearly 2 years ago. I never got closure on anything that happened and to be completely honest I never really recovered. Everyday it just gets harder. I can’t stop thinking about all the things I’ve done wrong in my life. I hate work, my boss just finds every reason to bring my day down and honestly wish I could quit but I can’t due to uni and other expenses. Everyone is so happy these days all my friends are getting into relationships while I’m sitting here wondering what the heck is wrong with me. They all can’t hang out a lot anymore due to there relationships and are constantly cancelling plans last minute. I don’t know what to do. I never really got over the thing in high school because In a way every where I turn someone that was involved is there or something else to remind me. Honestly I know it probably sounds pathetic but if I’m being completely honest what happened sent me to the darkest places I had never been before. I lost a lot of things because of what happened I lost friends, I lost myself and I lost control. I was a student who didn’t mind going to school but in the end I hated going to school and was too scared to even look at the people that where involved. What happened followed me from high school to graduation to work and even university. I’m currently 18 and really probably shouldn’t be feeling so down. I don’t find anything enjoyable any more, I’m to scared to talk to friends in case they judge and last time I spoke to family about it my dad lost it. My family really hasn’t been the same since my nan died in 2017. We where all really close with her and although we where expecting it, it is still hard to deal with. How and when will things get better because it never really changes. I’m done living like this.

Being excluded

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I am friends with a person and recently he made friends with another person and he started to try and get me to piss off, my friend started noticing and was a bit suspect, a bit later he started including me and I was nice and I thought i eventually ... View more

I am friends with a person and recently he made friends with another person and he started to try and get me to piss off, my friend started noticing and was a bit suspect, a bit later he started including me and I was nice and I thought i eventually was making progress and he was starting to see me as more of a friend. A bit later he started to go back to excluding and getting my friend to hang out 24/7 but yet never asked me to go with them, now my original friend decided to start excluding me, I seemed to be the last choice in the group and yet I was acting perfectly normal and was being nice and trying my best to make them seem appreciated and included... but they decided to choose everyone else over me and not care. I’ve been trying to make friends with him like asking him to play some video games or socialise in someway possible but he wouldn’t and it’s like he just doesn’t like me at all and I don’t know why, the problem is that my best friend made friends with others and a person decided to try his absolute best to get rid of me for no reason. Now my best friend has decided to include him and exclude me and now I don’t know what to do anymore.

It's my birthday today and Im having an emotional breakdown

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Hi all, so as the title says– its my 24th birthday today and here I am feeling extremely depressed, have been crying since last night.. I have been going through alot for the past month ( post abortion depression, family problems and relationship ) a... View more

Hi all, so as the title says– its my 24th birthday today and here I am feeling extremely depressed, have been crying since last night.. I have been going through alot for the past month ( post abortion depression, family problems and relationship ) and in all honesty, I feel so emotionally burnt out. Im sick of people and how im being treated. My family being so passive aggressive towards me hurts me so much and i try my hardest to ignore it. Im starting to hate them because I know deep down they are one of the main reason why I chose to terminate my pregnancy even though I didn't want to.. My current boyfriend who (somehow) cares constantly makes me feel so alone. I dont understand anymore. Ive been feeling depressed and miserable for the past 6 years and to be very honest all I want is to disappear. I keep praying to God that my life should be given to somehow who deserves MORE to live than me who's always constantly miserable. Im tired of being me. Im tired of my BPD. Having the constant uncontrollable anxiety and fear of being abandoned and neglected. Im tired of living.. Every day reminds me of how much life sucks for me. And today is such a reminder of how alone I am. How people dont really care because they have their own lives to think about. I feel shit for feeling so desperate to be happy on this day. Now here I am in my bedroom crying, could barely breathe and feeling so hopeless about everything.

Procrastination but worse.

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Hey, figured I'd post here since I just need some advice on this problem. So, in highschool I was your typical procrastinator. Just before a deadline, I got that sense of panic which would push me to work hard and finish an assignment. Only over time... View more

Hey, figured I'd post here since I just need some advice on this problem. So, in highschool I was your typical procrastinator. Just before a deadline, I got that sense of panic which would push me to work hard and finish an assignment. Only over time that really started to dim. That panic I felt at the deadline became less and less of a deal because every time without fail, I would get it done, so I started pushing things off later and later. And every time I would feel even less stress. So much that even if I failed one or two things, it really wasn't a big deal to me. Then Yr 12 rolled around and I was just ignoring semester-long assignments left and right, even if they were part of classes that were important/that I enjoyed, because the deadline wasn't a big deal to me anymore. I didn't care anymore. Not as a pessimistic attitude thing, the stress just stopped registering, so I felt no need to do it. This habit became natural to the point where if I saw that something huge was due, I knew that I would just fail it anyway, so I gave up before I even started. It wasn't even procrastination at that point I just straight up didn't do it. Which is a problem for me right now. Because now even if I desperately want to do something, I just can't do it. And if I need to do something I don't necessarily want to do, the stakes are even worse. And because if I get (or got) paid occasionally to do Things for people, and I don't do them by the deadline, then it kind of becomes an even bigger problem. Not even the law can stop me at this point. It's like my panic button is broken. I need advice on how to stop giving up before I even start. Anyway, reason I was motivated to post this is because there's this project Im doing due in about 5 hours and it's not done, and physically can't be finished in the next five hours. I'm pretty much doomed and it sucks since I really wanted to do this project since its something I'm personally interested in, and I cleared my whole schedule for this past week to complete it, and I made a schedule for it, and I was productive for about a day and then - bam. Flat out avoidance. Total apathy despite this literally being an opportunity I've waited for all year. I stopped feeling anything. Help would be appreciated.

The society pressure of always having to go out and drink when you're 22

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Hi all, newbie here. Wanted to see if I wasn't alone in not wanting to go out and drink with my friends. For the past couple months I've been doing the best I can to avoid social outings, but only with a particular group of people. I don't have many ... View more

Hi all, newbie here. Wanted to see if I wasn't alone in not wanting to go out and drink with my friends. For the past couple months I've been doing the best I can to avoid social outings, but only with a particular group of people. I don't have many friends and I love these people as if they were my family, my family away from home I call them. I just don't want to go out and drink with them, I've realised its become very bad for my mental health, I'm beyond happy doing anything else with them, just not to go out and drink or party you might say. I just don't know how to tell them. I adore their friendship, I just don't know how or know why I don't want to go out and have a "good night" cause "we're only young once" with them. Please tell me I'm not the only one? I just don't want to feel alone anymore. Also, I don't suffer from social anxiety or anything so I'm just not sure. I know this sounds like such a little thing and that I should just go talk to them. But I've been struggling with this for months now and not sure who else to talk to. So I thought might as well give this a go, as this is the first time I've actually said (well wrote) this out loud. If anyone is reading this and is thinking the same, even if they just don't want to go out and drink and rather stay in every weekend at the age of 21/22 please know that you're not alone. I also hope this thread can help someone else see that they're not the only one.

controlling physical anxiety

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Hello! I've just joined the forums because I thought that I'd like to share with and get advice from others in here. I'd never even considered that I had anxiety until like a year ago, and it was strange to see a fancy medical term slapped onto what ... View more

Hello! I've just joined the forums because I thought that I'd like to share with and get advice from others in here. I'd never even considered that I had anxiety until like a year ago, and it was strange to see a fancy medical term slapped onto what just was my daily internal conflict and worries. Up to now I've noticed a pattern for my anxiety- it usually manifests when people focus their attention on me. It's not actually very severe, because I can cope normally in everyday situations. Sometimes even, I think that I'm not nervous for something, but it turns out that I was probably subconsciously nervous, so I ended up shaking or smth like that and surprising myself. I found that I've experienced two cases of my face muscles twitching uncontrollably- I've searched this up and it's not due to any medical condition, because it only arises when I'm talking individually to people I don't know well. What has confused me is that my face muscles hasn't done that for everyone I've talked to individually either- I cope fine when just talking to a stranger or classmate. I'm thinking that maybe I get subconsciously nervous when a figure of authority is confronting me, or when I'm trying to confront them. Usually it happens when I smile, my cheek muscles and muscles under my eye start to twitch and I can't stop it. Then I freak out on the inside trying to stop them and they probably walk away wondering what was happening to me ;). Does anyone know how to control this? I've also experienced my voice shaking when I'm doing things like announcements at my school assembly. What's also strange is that the first time I did it, it went completely fine. Then the second and third times, my voice started to shake. After that I investigated a little more and tried to keep my breathing under control as I was probably not taking enough air into my lungs, and I think it's gotten better. I hate that feeling when I'm about to do public speaking and I get that heart-thumping, anxious feeling, and regardless of taking deep breaths, I feel even more nervous. I've managed when actually doing the speaking- usually totally nervous when I start, and then after maybe a break I'm completely relaxed. Does anyone have tips on how to deal with this spurt of anxiety for the beginning? I'd also ask how to stop thinking about it so much because that's how my anxiety manifests but it's a bit difficult to answer. Thanks!

I don’t fit in

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I know this isn’t particularly important but I don’t fit in at school. Everyone has Instagram and Snapchat, the latest iPhone, AirPods and unlimited trips to the canteen (all paid for by parents) I am 13 almost 14 and I can’t have Instagram and my al... View more

I know this isn’t particularly important but I don’t fit in at school. Everyone has Instagram and Snapchat, the latest iPhone, AirPods and unlimited trips to the canteen (all paid for by parents) I am 13 almost 14 and I can’t have Instagram and my almost 16 year old sister still can’t have Snapchat yet. I still have a glitchy iPhone 6, no AirPods, no canteen trips allowed and not a whole lot of pocket money. I feel really left out and my parents get mad when I try to talk to them about it

I feel so horribly sad all the time because i regret moving schools.

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So this year i thought it would be a cool idea to move schools! get a fresh start a change ya know? i now realise how terrible of an idea that was. i’ve been going to my new school now for about a week and i feel so depressed and sad all the time. i ... View more

So this year i thought it would be a cool idea to move schools! get a fresh start a change ya know? i now realise how terrible of an idea that was. i’ve been going to my new school now for about a week and i feel so depressed and sad all the time. i have two people that i actually talk to and sit with, but i feel like the rest of the people in the group don’t want me sitting there. i’m so shy and anxious and introverted i feel like i can barely speak majority of the time. I dont really have any other friends there.my anxiety has also been skyrocketing. I guess the main thing i’m sad about is i miss my friends so much. they had there flaws, but at least i could honestly talk to some of them about anything, i felt truly comfortable around them, i laughed around them alot and its so hard for me to get close to people for some reason. but right when i build these great friendships, i decide to leave. and now i haven’t seen them for 7 weeks and i don’t think they really care that much. I miss knowing everybody in my grade. I miss being able to talk freely without my heart racing constantly from anxiety. I miss laughing with my friends and making jokes with them and now all i can think about is how much fun i would be having if i was in classes with them. I regret moving so much. i’m so stupid and now ive lost something ill never get back. my old life basically. Its so hard for me to walk into school everyday and be surrounded by a bunch of strangers. I really feel so alone now, i don’t want to burden my old friends with my problems, and they obviously don’t care much (which is okay). I really have nobody to talk to, i come home so drained and exhausted everyday and the only place i feel slightly secure is in my bedroom by myself. Its been taking a toll on my mental state, my ex-therapist about 2-3 months ago diagnosed me with anxiety and clinical depression and now this is making everything worse also moving back to my old school just isnt something i can do.

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Doesn’t change

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Being excluded

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It's my birthday today and Im having an emotional breakdown

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Procrastination but worse.

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The society pressure of always having to go out and drink when you're 22

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controlling physical anxiety

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I don’t fit in

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I feel so horribly sad all the time because i regret moving schools.

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Confused

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Free Depression support services?

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Doesn’t change

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Being excluded

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It's my birthday today and Im having an emotional breakdown

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Procrastination but worse.

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The society pressure of always having to go out and drink when you're 22

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controlling physical anxiety

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I don’t fit in

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I feel so horribly sad all the time because i regret moving schools.

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