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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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I don’t know what to do

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Hey, So im just gonna get straight to the point (it’s not really straight to the point) I’m talking to my ex we dated like a year ago and then we broke up cause she wasn’t ready but then she started seeing another guy like a month later and she’s on and off with him and she’s on and off with me. Like she plays games online with him only because she wants to learn as he has experience but she doesn’t want to be with him because he is like 22 and she is 16. And she also doesn’t want to distance her self from him as she is scared of what he will do (which I believe is an excuse for her to stay with him or vice verca) anyways me and her starting talking again and I really like talking to her and being around her because she just makes me happy but I just don’t like how she has to keep talking to her ex that’s a bit annoying cause I get jealous easily and i tend to overthink and assume a lot too so my thoughts are driving me crazy. and then my friends oh gosh my friends I don’t really think they are there for me like the group just feels fake and like I don’t think they really want me there and I just feel left out a lot and it hurts I’ve talked to them about this but it’s happening again. I don’t think they are the right group but they are so judgemental and I don’t wanna leave them cause I do care about them it’s just that I want them to understand me but I don’t really think they seem to care much about my feelings like for example if I went and sat and hanged out with another group they would all be distant towards me and it’d just make me feel excluded and lonely gosh I just feel like I have no support so I came here looking for answers with someone who has experienced something similar

I want to join a group, have tried, but I get so overwhelmed at all these new people I don't know at all.

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I moved schools at the start of this year, and all year I have struggled with making friends. I have made a few(around 3-4) but none of them are in one group, and so I've had to choose which social circle I want to join. I am particularly good friends with one person, and she has a group that at first seemed nice, and I have numerous times sat with them, yet failed to make any connections. I don't speak in the group conversations, and several members intimidate me, as I feel as if they are very judgy. Several times I have just got up and left because I was so overwhelmed, and I hate it. I hate not being able to just relax, and join in, and make myself known. The friend I have in the group says I need to speak up more, and that going off will not help(which I agree with), but I have such low self-esteem that I can't join in out of fear. Does anyone know what I should do? Is this a lost cause, and should I try elsewhere, or should I continue to keep trying, despite not feeling great? I dont know what to do; I still have an entire year left of school, and I don't want my final year to be filled with the same stress and anxiety of this one. I have friends outside of this school, from sports and my old school, and it has become so bad at my new place that I feel moving back might be one of the best options, for myself, and my overall wellbeing.

career stress. please weigh in.

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Hey guys. so I'm in year 10 this year so we have to chose subject for years 11 and 12 aswell as start to think about what we want to do with our selves after school. quite surising to me that alot of the kids in my class have really clear plans of what they are doing next or at the least what they want to be, but I have no idea on what I want to do. this isnt much of a problem for me cause i usually just wing things anyway but im not sure i should be taking the same tactic with something like this. Im very lucky and i go to a private school which does mean there is ceratin expectaions for me to do something decent and not end up working a 9 to 5 retail job. I'd love to hear your thoughts whether your going through this now or youve already finished school. have a good day.

Wassup?

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So i kinda need advice and whatnot on what im doing and what to do about it? Randomly, out of the blue i begin acting strange. how so? well I begin saying weird jokes, laughing histerically at nothing, making up storys about house hold items for people, etc. but today i had it way worse than normal for some reason- i dont know why but it might be emotionally related as today my friends decided to dump me for good, dunno if thats it but i suspect it might be. I was chilling with my brother playing Animal Crossing New Leaf and without warning i began doing my weird stuff again but it was worse and lasted longer this time. despite knowing the word i want to say i would instictivly say the first few syllables over and over before saying the full word, i dont know if it would be called stuttering or not. i put my fingers to my brother's knee cap's skin and began moving it around, making illegible sounds. at some point i used both his knee caps and began to make them communitate. admittedly what they where saying didnt make much sense to me but for some reason i didnt want to stop finding all of this really fun. i would wrap my legs around my arm and crawl around, try to bite my 3ds screen, in the middle of doing these things i would randomly pause and rethink. i would think to myself "what am i doing?" but immediately go back to doing my thing. is this normal? its been going on for awhile but it was pretty intense tonight and idkk..

feelings towards others

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Hi all, Lately I've just been getting very easily irritated by others, to the point where I cat stand to be around people anymore. This is extremely frustrating, as I am still in school and spent my entire day with other people. I've never had this before. all of a sudden I just had this overwhelming feeling of utter annoyance and the complete desire to just isolate myself. If anyone had any advice on what this is, it would be greatly greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Heartbreak, toxic friendships and feeling alone at 23.

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Does anybody else get tired of hearing “ you’re so young! You should be living the best years of your life!” Or is it just me? I’ve just turned 23 and all I do is sleep and go to work. None of this was by choice, my brain sometimes becomes too unbearable that all I want to do is sleep and cry. I used to think it was just hormones but I’ve been like this since I was 15 & nothing has gotten better, only worse. I recently got rid of toxic friendships thinking that it would help but it’s only made me feel more alone. My ex best friend always used to talk about her boyfriend and never used to ask how I am. She’d talk about me behind my back and never really made me feel worthless. She’s the type where it’s okay for her to forget my birthday but if I ever did that to her I’d know about it. So I dumped her. I’ve tried socialising and making new friends but that just ends with disappointment. I’ve found it hard to make any decent friends the older you get. People always say “ you’re just looking in the wrong places” but these days I seem to be losing hope, thinking that maybe there’s no good people left. Girls my age always ditch me and choose their boyfriends over me and guys my age only want sex and don’t even try to be friends with you. I sometimes think maybe if I found a boyfriend I’d feel happier? Boys aren’t everything I know but I thought maybe if I try? Well I did and all I ended up with was heartbreak. I consider myself to be intelligent when analysing men’s behaviour, they’re all generally wanting one thing anyway however I ended up being fooled by a man who I thought loved me. He was my first love and I lost my virginity to him. We took it slow and you know people always say “make him wait & he’ll value you more”. So I did. 5 months later I decide to have sex for the first and only time, ever. Losing my virginity was a big thing for me, I obviously wanted it to be with someone special and I thought he was. Turns out he was leading me on for 5 months as a ruse to take my virginity and then move on to the next poor girl. I felt so stupid!!! So yeah, I’ve proven the whole “make him wait” tactic a little bullshit, everyone has a motive. So naturally I’ve decided boyfriends probably aren’t the answer to my loneliness. My next plan was to maybe adopt an animal? But I’ve concluded I’m too financially and mentally unstable to care for one properly. I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I guess I just want someone to listen to me for a change.

I don't feel like I fit in anymore

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So, I've been feeling this way for a while but have kind of just pushed the thoughts away and told myself it is not the end of the world. I feel like I don't really have my place, I don't really fit in in any specific friendship group. Everyone has their special clique who they are really close with but then I feel like I'm almost on the exterior just watching as everyone else exists. I'm not saying I don't have any friends, what I'm saying is that out of those friends I don't really know where I 'belong' or where I fit, as I'm friends with many different types of people. Maybe that's just me being selfish, because I'm sure there's people out there who would kill to have a friend or two but I just don't know, I can't comprehend what I am feeling. My best friend who I can 100% say always has my back and we will always be close and I trust, she went away on holiday with a group of friends who prior to that holiday I would consider not all that close and if I weren't away at the time myself I would have gone on the trip with them. Anyway, since their trip they are all super, super close and they hang out really frequently and because I didn't go on that trip with them I'm kind of just left in the dust. Sure she makes an effort to invite me to hang out with them occasionally but I don't feel welcome or wanted. I'm almost just some chick who tagged along and no one really knows. Its such a sucky feeling and I'm sure if I spoke to her about it shed make more of an effort. But even then do I really want to surround myself with these people who are always moody and drug crazed? I don't know if I could ever get truly close with them, because of that barrier in that I don't know if I can truly be myself around them because I'm just not interested in what they are anymore. Then there's the group I'm friends with who are the complete opposite, we have a fun time together and Im always invited to hangout with them but there's just not that emotional connection that I have with other friends. Everything feels so surface level, almost like a facade like am I really friends with these people or do I just hangout with them because I have no one else. Of course there's those friends you will always be friends with you can go without seeing them for months and when you see them its like nothings changed, but again i'm not going to see them daily they are just one face in the crowd I guess I'm just trying to voice my opinions but has anyone else experienced this feeling?

Health Anxiety My Story / Whats yours??

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Hi.. So I have been suffering with Health Anxiety now for the past six years.. I don't think I have ever felt more alone suffering with this disease.. everyone either assumes your nuts.. or your a hypochondriac.. (which I am sure they categorize as the same thing right?) No one understands the debilitating feeling of being awake at 2 in the morning pacing down your hallway wondering if you should go to the hospital or not. I used to feel so alone .. I recently however started writing about my journey and what happened to me personally. Even the act of writing for no one other that myself has been reliving. I am very very very new to the blogasphere but reading other peoples stories has been so comforting to me. I am not alone. I am not the only one who thinks that the worst is just around the corner, waiting to catch you when you least expect it. I would love to hear other peoples stories or share my own more in depth. I just feel I wish six years ago I had been ballsy enough to join a forum.. to say something. Anyway.. i look forward to hearing from you guys

Can't concentrate

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Hi all, I'm in school and in year 11, The work was easy at the start of the term but now its harder and I know that it can be but I cant seem to concentrate, I don't know why. All I do now is sit at my desk trying to think and staring at the paper, I... View more

should i go back to my old school

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hi, im daisy and i've just started a school in australia at the start of term 3. i came from somewhere in asia and the reason for the move here is because my parents had lived in asia for over 20 years, and they decided it was time to move back. i was born and raised in asia, so this is a massive change for me. the first few weeks at school here were really, really rough. almost every night i was in tears thinking about my old school and how i should never have left. i have a friendship group here, but i really miss my old friends. also, the academics at my old school were amazing. it was the best school in the country and wouldve set me up really really well for the future. the sport here is a lot better than my old school though, and the lifestyle of living in australia is everything ive ever dreamt of (the beaches, the people, the shops, the city etc), but having been here 6 weeks now, im still convinced that its not the right place for me. i have the choice to go back to my old school (in asia), but theres a time pressure on my decision, becuase they're starting theyre GCSE (british system exam) course this term, and i cant miss too much of it or there'd be too much catch up work and id be way too stressed. as well as the time pressure, it affects my family, because if im really not happy here and decide i want to go back, it means my family cant move here, which they have been wanting to do for a while now. so, im not sure whether or not i should go back, and my mind is just cluttered with confusion and ive never felt more lost, and i dont feel at home anywhere. anybody got any advice on what i should do??

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I want to join a group, have tried, but I get so overwhelmed at all these new people I don't know at all. replies: 1

career stress. please weigh in. replies: 3

Wassup? replies: 2

feelings towards others replies: 6

Heartbreak, toxic friendships and feeling alone at 23. replies: 2

I don't feel like I fit in anymore replies: 3

Health Anxiety My Story / Whats yours?? replies: 2

Can't concentrate replies: 2

should i go back to my old school replies: 1