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I feel like I'm being completely shut out by my friends

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In high school my friend group didn't really like me, and I don't know why. They were mean and hardly ever invited me to hang out and such. I struggled a lot with mental health issues in high school so it really hit my self-esteem badly. I'm now 22 y... View more

In high school my friend group didn't really like me, and I don't know why. They were mean and hardly ever invited me to hang out and such. I struggled a lot with mental health issues in high school so it really hit my self-esteem badly. I'm now 22 years old. I thought I had a new friendship group and I didn't have to worry about pathetic high school drama anymore. I have a university degree and I'm currently in the middle of my second one, so I figured I'd involve myself around more mature people. And my friendship group has been good for the past 3-4 years, however, over the past month I've noticed it's changed a bit. It started when I fell out of a close friendship with a girl I had known since around year 9. Lately she has been very self-absorbed and doesn't really bring much to our friendship anymore so we have slowly been drifting away. It hurts, absolutely, but she was very toxic. Still, I don't hate her or anything and if she was with us when hanging out with our other friends I wouldn't care at all. My other friends seem to be a lot closer with her now, and all of a sudden they've been going out doing things together that we all would usually do. I feel as though the friend I've drifted away from is almost like the 'ring leader'. I hate putting it like that, but it's almost like if she doesn't like someone or doesn't like doing something then all her friends can't like that person or can't do that thing. I had plans to have dinner and see a movie with one of the other girls the other week but she said she was sick and couldn't go anymore (she told me this the night before our plans), and yet the next day she was out in town with the other friends going to lunch and hanging out. One of them was even sending me snapchats of them all hanging out?? I sent one of the girls a message asking if I have done anything wrong and now she's just ignoring me because she's been active on every other platform apart from facebook. I've come to realise that when we did all hang out, I'd only be invited if I organised something. I just feel really lonely, like I'm almost 23 years old and going through this stupid high school stuff again. I'm not good at making friends, and I really have no one now apart from my boyfriend. I've been friends with one of the other girls for 2 years, the other 5 years, and I feel like they really just don't even care about me or our friendship. I'm finding this is taking a toll on my mental health.

Unsure about the future

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Hi, I feel like I'm a complete mess right now and have no direction of where to go in the future. I'm currently 18 years old and graduated High School last year, however, I do not currently attend Uni - due to reasons I will discuss later. Most days,... View more

Hi, I feel like I'm a complete mess right now and have no direction of where to go in the future. I'm currently 18 years old and graduated High School last year, however, I do not currently attend Uni - due to reasons I will discuss later. Most days, I'm sat around at home doing basically nothing, staring at a phone or computer screen all day. I work 4-5 days a week however and have a steady income, as well as occasionally going out with friends or family maybe once or twice a week. Apart from this, I feel as if I have no social life due to not attending Uni the year after graduating High School. High School was a huge mess for me. I really wanted to succeed in life and my studies, but nowadays I feel so clueless and indecisive of what I want to do. I'd say I was genuinely a smart person and still am, however, I never used this to my full advantage. From years 7-10, I was pretty much scoring A's all around, up until mid-year 11. I was suffering from a loss of a family member who had really influenced me a lot throughout my life and was always there for me. From then on, I struggled a lot with grief and everything just skyrocketed down. I started failing all my classes and although each and everyone one of my teachers were deeply worried about how I was going, I myself chose not to open up to any of them. This led to me basically failing all throughout year 11 and 12, which is considered to be the most important schooling years. Mid-year 12, I started seeing my school guidance counsellor, but obviously it was too late for this and although they were of great help, it practically got me nowhere. I was heavily lacking in motivation and confidence, leading to what I'd classify as a very low ATAR score. Each and every one of my preferences required a somewhat high score - I wanted to succeed into scientific/medical field in my younger years. As of now, I live with my father and my older brother. Both of them think that I've started Uni and attend regularly (don't have time to check up on me due to their own lives, work, etc.), but all I do is just lay at home and work. I feel like my life is just going to keep repeating itself regularly. I'm planning to start mid-year but I feel as if I still have little to no motivation and confidence in myself to pursue into a course and actually do well. I'm scared to tell both my father and brother as I don't want to disappoint them even more, although they know how much stress I was going through in the last few years.

What does everyone ACTUALLY do to cope with stress?

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I've personally wondered this a lot as not many people like to show their vulnerable side. I've read so many articles and heard professionals advise on methods to cope with stress, but heard so little on what do people around my age range actually do... View more

I've personally wondered this a lot as not many people like to show their vulnerable side. I've read so many articles and heard professionals advise on methods to cope with stress, but heard so little on what do people around my age range actually do to alleviate stress. So I really want to get a real and honest insight from my fellow young peers: What and how do you actually cope or relieve stress? Do you guys exercise, endlessly scroll through social media, or perhaps have a particular hobby you do to cope with stress? (For me if I'm brutally honest, I endlessly watch youtube videos online or write down all my thoughts on paper)

Aware of my breathing all the time!!

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It all started when I was 16. It was the first time I tryed smoking which was one cigar! I'm 19 now and have not done any type of smoking since. I really worried about the time I had that cigar and panicked it would hurt my fitness. I thought about i... View more

It all started when I was 16. It was the first time I tryed smoking which was one cigar! I'm 19 now and have not done any type of smoking since. I really worried about the time I had that cigar and panicked it would hurt my fitness. I thought about it so much I became aware of my breathing. Now it feels like I'm alwAys out of breath because that's all I concentrate on now. My breathing! I can't help it! Any tips for it???? Any medication suggestions or meditation tips?? Or anything?? I just want to break this cycle

Uni to much CANT COPE

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Hi I have never really talked to anyone a lot about the worries on my mind as I was worried about my problem being dumb. I am in uni, and I am failing 3 of my subjects this semester. Many stuff has happened, but I am working three jobs while looking ... View more

Hi I have never really talked to anyone a lot about the worries on my mind as I was worried about my problem being dumb. I am in uni, and I am failing 3 of my subjects this semester. Many stuff has happened, but I am working three jobs while looking after my grandmother on top of travelling an hour most days to go to uni and then driving back home to work. I feel like I have no time for anything anymore, and I have lost interest in everything I love doing. I have no motivation, and I feel stressed and anxious all the time and feel the feeling of failure that won't disappear. I just don't know what to do to stop these constant feeling. I want to disappear and not be here anymore and not feel so stressed and anxious all the time. I know my issue is dumb and quite a small issue but to me at the moment. What I just wrote probably won't make any sense, but I need to get it out, and I want to find a way to manage.

Everything is just so overwhelming

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Just a small vent here. I am feeling so lost at the moment. I don't even know which topic to talk about because there's just too many seperate things causing me stress and anxiety right now. I can talk about one thing: I have often been getting into ... View more

Just a small vent here. I am feeling so lost at the moment. I don't even know which topic to talk about because there's just too many seperate things causing me stress and anxiety right now. I can talk about one thing: I have often been getting into these awful moods where I can't even explain why I'm sad and angry and frustrated, I just am. And I just kind of sit around staring at nothing or resting my head in my knees and just existing. The slightest inconvenience causes me to cry. I could drop a pencil and suddenly I'm bawling my eyes out and all my problems snowball into a big angry heap. But the whole thing only lasts about day to a week and then I'm fine again. I'm in a mood like this right now and I honestly don't even have the energy to keep explaining anything else. I don't have the energy for anything. It just feels like there's a thousand wasps in my head clouding my thoughts and making me feel so horrible. The only thing I feel like doing is getting in my car and driving until I run out of fuel. I feel bad because my mum is sort of trying to help me but I am so irritable and fatigued that I don't want anything to do with anyone. The annoying part is I know this will only last a short time and then I'll be back to "normal" again but right now it just the worst feeling in the world.

Same Job for 7 Years Causing Burnout, Depression and Overwhelming Stress (I'm a 25 year old male)

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Hi, Quick disclaimer, I'm not actively going to make any rash decisions based on a forum post but I will listen to what others have to say and make my own decisions. I'm 25 years old and have been in the same job since leaving high school at 18. So f... View more

Hi, Quick disclaimer, I'm not actively going to make any rash decisions based on a forum post but I will listen to what others have to say and make my own decisions. I'm 25 years old and have been in the same job since leaving high school at 18. So for a bit over 7 years now I've been working in fast food. I was quickly given the chance to become a manager after only a year or 2 so I've been a manager there for about 6 years. My problem is that I have hated it since day one. I don't agree with the company, I don't like the bosses, the environment isn't right for me. I took the job because it was my first job and I wanted to start making money and I accepted becoming a manager because it was easy to get qualified for and my pay went up. Seven years later, the pressure and depression of working in a job I hate are causing me real problems. Not only am I fatigued and burned out from the grind but I am having problems with anxiety and depression. I'm an introvert so I naturally just don't like being social that much but I have to be when at work. I started physically shaking horribly the other day, totally out of control, when I was dealing with a customer complaint. The customer was not even that bad yet it was like my body was going to explode. Aside from that, when I'm not working I am always having nightmares of work and I am also always thinking of work and how much I hate it. I sometimes have good days on my days off when I keep myself distracted but it always ends with me dreading work the next day because my workplace has taken over my life. Anyway I went and saw the doctor about a week ago and he prescribed me something, which is supposed to help me feel more in control during stressful times. Do I quit my job? I don't have another lined up but I have been searching and will continue searing for new opportunities. If I quit, I have emergency savings to last a couple months and I have my fiance' that will help pay the bills. We are capable of living on one income but I don't really want to put that pressure on my partner for a long period of time. If I don't quit, I will continue working a job that has so many flaws that I can't fit them in this post, (one example is because of my position I'm not allowed to have sick days), and I will continue to live life the way I have been for so long. The last couple of years have been worse than ever. Has anyone else been in the same boat as me? Thanks for reading.

Little bit lonely

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Hi, So I’m struggling a little bit at the moment. I have moved from my small hometown for Uni and it’s been quite a struggle. I find myself going through really fun times (getting outside and making friends) then hitting rough patches where I can bar... View more

Hi, So I’m struggling a little bit at the moment. I have moved from my small hometown for Uni and it’s been quite a struggle. I find myself going through really fun times (getting outside and making friends) then hitting rough patches where I can barely leave my apartment. I can’t seem to shake this constant cycle and sometimes I just feel so alone. The thing is I went through similar things at my hometown and I’m just sick of dealing with this stuff on my own. I don’t really know who to talk to as I have reached out to friends but they just don’t understand and my family freaks out when I start mentioning how I’m going through rough patches. I don’t have that many friends around me anymore which also doesn’t help but I just don’t know what to do. I can be so happy some days then another day something so simple can just make me go into a breakdown (I cried for 30mins the other day because someone left a note on my car telling me to park better). I also find that I have become more distant emotionally to other people as well and don’t like vocalising my problems. Just would like some advice please

Tough times

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I have my exams coming up and I am so stressed, I nearly failed my recent Psychology SAC and am struggling. I have to prepare for my exams and worried I will fail, I also have an exam for university and I don't think I'm ready for it. My sibling has ... View more

I have my exams coming up and I am so stressed, I nearly failed my recent Psychology SAC and am struggling. I have to prepare for my exams and worried I will fail, I also have an exam for university and I don't think I'm ready for it. My sibling has been a bit moody lately and tends to be in a bad mood. I am scared for myself for I need to pass all my exams and I don't feel comfortable with myself. I have been a little bit down lately. I feel pathetic for complaining about myself and know I their are people who are suffering worse then but I am stuck in my own little bubble. I feel so annoyed with myself for not being better, I wish I was a better person then who I really am. I feel I will be judged or laughed at if I talk about what is bothering me. I haven't been reading lately, I used to read so much. I don't know if it's because I am on my phone a lot or because of school and working. I miss the days when I didn't work and have to worry about exams and SACS.

Depression/Anxiety 23 y/o uni student

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Hello all, I'm 23 years old and a university student in his final year. I've been studying my degree ever since 2017 and was expected to graduate in 2019 as the degree is only 3 years. Unfortunately my mental health has spiralled out of control over ... View more

Hello all, I'm 23 years old and a university student in his final year. I've been studying my degree ever since 2017 and was expected to graduate in 2019 as the degree is only 3 years. Unfortunately my mental health has spiralled out of control over the years and therefore i am still unfortunately studying. I do have pretty consistent anxiety and have had periods of depression. When i'm in heavy periods of stress with my study my mental health tends to take a toll. I have failed so many courses, i've withdrawn from alot of courses, i've retaken courses i've failed and passed, i'm so close to the end of the year to graduate that i can't believe it. I can't believe i've made it this far with all the mental health problems i've had going on. I take an SNRI medication to mostly help my anxiety. I have a problem with binge drinking when i'm stressed or preload hard before i socialise. To me my anxiety and general mental health is like an on and off switch, it comes and goes, it stays consistent for a while or it's almost non existent for a while too. I don't know why it's come to this with my mental health and why i've developed this over the last couple years or so but the fact i've made it this far with my studies is saying something. I have been struggling alot throughout my degree though and i'm surprised i still make it to a new semester. I'm also unemployed, i live alone in Brisbane (which has its ups and downs), i tend to overeat or not eat at all, i wake up feeling tired even if i get 7-8 hours, i lose motivation on my studies, i don't exercise, i'm on centrelink (which makes me sad as i feel like a bludger), i don't have much of a social life because of my anxiety but my family understands my issues. My options are to stay in Brisbane to work casually until i find a full time job with my degree as i near graduation or go back home as my lease runs out next month where i have a supporting family & i will also work. I plan to save up money and move back to Brisbane where I believe this time i spend back home will allow me to focus on my last semester online, work on my mental health and also physical health. Essentially being back home for a few months to recuperate might be better for my sanity but i'm still unsure.

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