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Mixed-state, anxiety, and being motivated.

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Hi all, I was diagnosed with mixed-stated depression anxiety a few months ago, meaning I have symptoms of mania and depression at the same time or rapidly interchanging. On top of/included in this is severe anxiety and panic attacks. I feel like I ca... View more

Hi all, I was diagnosed with mixed-stated depression anxiety a few months ago, meaning I have symptoms of mania and depression at the same time or rapidly interchanging. On top of/included in this is severe anxiety and panic attacks. I feel like I can't do anything, all I think about are my ex-boyfriend who really wronged me, I focus on how they are moving on with their lives and I lost what I put so much effort into (our relationship/their families and I was denied any benefit or love in return. I get very stressed and worked up, extremely emotional and angry, causing migraines. I've also moved across the country, and basically had my whole life turned upside down. The current medications I'm on are definitely not as good as what I used to be on, so I feel this has exacerbated the situation, but I can't attend my GP for another few weeks. I'm having trouble staying motivated. I am so depressed I can't be bothered to/come up with things to do and when I do (or even if I don't) I get so agitated and anxious about it. I've started to associate these feelings with the people I'm with when they happen and thus am becoming scared to hang out with these people. I want my old life back and can't make myself move on, and I don't see any point in all this if I'm going to be so miserable all the time. I'm exhausted of it - it feels like I'm living in a horror movie where I just watch everybody else move on and that's all there is to do. Even last night at New Year Eve was awful, knowing where my ex-boyfriends were and how much pain they have caused me and how terrible 2015 was to me. I lost a lot. Even though I am only 18 it feels like my life is on a fast track to nowhere - I'm terrified of getting older and my brain is so muddled I can't think straight about the future. All my friends are becoming irritated by me and saying that they can't help and it's all in my mindset etc. and that i'll have to change my own situation. But I need people to help me because I don't know what to do. Has anybody gotten themselves out of a situation like this? Is moving cities a viable option, to start afresh? Or would I just alienate myself more? What helped you break out of feeling like you are stuck in a horrible place. Thanks in advance.

Can't live my life because I am continuously anxious

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Hello everyone (: I will make this brief as I can so I don't bore you too much. Basically I have had mild anxiety attacks for a few years just at random maybe once a month, but for the past few months it has been a daily struggle. No matter where I g... View more

Hello everyone (: I will make this brief as I can so I don't bore you too much. Basically I have had mild anxiety attacks for a few years just at random maybe once a month, but for the past few months it has been a daily struggle. No matter where I go what I do, I get panic attacks and can't think straight, it makes me not want to go out or go to work because I constantly worry about passing out because of the physical effects of my anxiety. I have also lost quiet a few friends this year, and feel very alone. I am 20 years old, I'm very slim and I know I'm not ugly so it's not a confidence issue. I'm not sure if it's my anxiety that's pushing people away, but I just can't make close friends, I feel like girls are just all mean and jealous (I have dealt with that growing up). I'm just so lost and sad, I honestly don't know what to do I just want a whole new life please someone help me all I want to do is sit in my apartment thank you xxx

Friendless, worried and scared to go back to school

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Hi all, First of all, I just want to say a big thank you to everyone for welcoming me into this forum. Any help is greatly appreciated, thank you for your time. Anyway, I'm a 16 year old girl. Due to a recent mistake of mine, I've lost my last two fr... View more

Hi all, First of all, I just want to say a big thank you to everyone for welcoming me into this forum. Any help is greatly appreciated, thank you for your time. Anyway, I'm a 16 year old girl. Due to a recent mistake of mine, I've lost my last two friends. At first I was devastated, but now three days have passed and although I'm no where near feeling okay again, I'm healing. I'm just so worried about going back to school, though. I'm starting year 11 in February and I'm so nervous because I now have no one to sit with in classes and during recess and lunch. I know that may sound petty, but it's a big deal for me because I have mild social anxiety and I take judgement harshly. I'm not good at dealing with judgemental people, and my school is full of them. People online keep telling me to find new friends, but the trouble is that everyone in my year already has their friends. I get so intimidated by everyone and I'm not good at talking to new people. I'm so scared that I'll be the only one with no one left, and that people will look down on me because my what seemed so stable friendship group of three has broken down and I'm the one left alone. I'm not ready for all the questions, for the looks of surprise and having to explain what happened. It's not that I need these two people in my life - I've realised that they were toxic friendships - but I need someone. I can't go through upper school on my own. I'm too fragile. I just don't know what to do anymore Thank you again for any suggestions.

I'm so jealous and angry all the time!

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Hi, I'm 17 years old and been dealing with depression for the past year or so. The one specific problem I have with this depression is an extreme jelousy of my best friend and an extreme anger and resentment towards my parents. My friend gets a lot o... View more

Hi, I'm 17 years old and been dealing with depression for the past year or so. The one specific problem I have with this depression is an extreme jelousy of my best friend and an extreme anger and resentment towards my parents. My friend gets a lot of things...a car, a trip to America (he's already been twice), a new dog, a great atar (92) and his family is so much closer in general. I want his life but I know I won't have it and it makes me so sad. I'm so angry at my parents because all I want to do is learn to drive but they continually give me false hope. my dad is emotionally and can be physically abusive at times and he's greedy. My friends think that it's weird that my parents don't pay for anything of mine when I work hard to pay for my necessities at 17. My parents took me to therapy at a psychologist and a psychiatrist...nothing has worked. They say they can't afford to pay for my counselling sessions so they're not gonna bother with them anymore, I'm angry at them for being so selfish and everyday I have terrible feelings of hatred towards them and I lash out them through saying terrible things about them and myself. Also I haven't mentioned in gay, I have a girlfriend and the stress of telling her I'm not interested is hurting me as well, my mum knows and the best friend I'm jealous of but no one else, I hate this world as I feel everything is against me and wants me to not succeed, I went well in my atar (88) but I still feel inadequate compared to my best friend, it's always been like this and the problem is he's so likeable and nice it's hard to be jealous of someone like that. I've been to every type of therapy and counselling you could think of and been on many different medications but nothing has worked...words don't really help the low self esteem I have they just reinforce the insecurities I already had. I talk to the psychology and psychiatrists but they don't listen to my problems with my parents, I believe the problem isn't all my problem but some of which is my dads as well. I don't want to move out and I can't afford to do so. I don't know what to do, all i want is to have what my friend has but I know it's impossible and I don't think I'll ever be happy ever because of it...nothing has worked and all I see is more negativity and greater depreciation in myself and the relationships around me, someone please help me!!!

Outcast needing an ear

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Hello, I've been outcast from my family after doing what I thought was the right thing; my parents split up after years of emotional abuse from my father and him cheating, I tried to stay on the fence but I knew my father was a bad man and eventually... View more

Hello, I've been outcast from my family after doing what I thought was the right thing; my parents split up after years of emotional abuse from my father and him cheating, I tried to stay on the fence but I knew my father was a bad man and eventually the facts taught me to hate him (illegal activities, cheating, emotional bullying). I moved away from everything I knew to help my deeply depressed mother (she has had alot of loss in her life, cutoff from her family, and been an slave for so long) because I knew if I werent there she wouldnt be around for much longer. We moved three hours away, and she seemed to be more independent, but once her bestfriend died in a car accident, she needed support for that and my father was all she'd known and found his way back into her life. She lied to me about her contact with him and one night after work she messaged me to let me know he was at our house staying over, I reacted badly and it became a shouting battle between my mum and i, then he entered my room and became physical so I grabbed some things and left, she had chosen him. Police were involved but they never gave me the avo like they said they would. Many times through the years she would come and go, promising she would never go back. But after years of trying and failing to get her back on her feet, she has ran back to my father. Apparently they're not dating but I know this is just a lie she tells herself to not feel so pathetic, she is still a slave, she takes him to the doctors, visits old "friends" with him, and i'm sure she would do his housework and errands although she refuses to tell me her weaknesses. She constantly lies to me about her going ons. She attempts to contact me occasionally, but I've honestly just given up. I would love to have a heathly relationship with her but I know all I say or do gets delivered back to him. It all makes me so mad thinking about it, and sad that she chooses him over me. I thought that parents are meant to love their children unconditionally, and I feel pathetic that I'm so easily forgotten.

need some help with social anxiety

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i need some tips for how to deal with social anxiety. its really hard for me to talk to people outside my friendship group and it took me forever to open up to them like i have. i can't talk to strangers that well and i feel like I'm going to faint e... View more

i need some tips for how to deal with social anxiety. its really hard for me to talk to people outside my friendship group and it took me forever to open up to them like i have. i can't talk to strangers that well and i feel like I'm going to faint every time i do. it gets to the point where i don't want to leave the house. i would really like some help

Lost with anxiety

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Hey, so I've had anxiety for as long as I can remember. Sometimes it's manageable, and sometimes it gets out of control. It seemed to have gone away mostly for about 2 years, but now it's back and I'm really lost. At the moment, it's quite severe and... View more

Hey, so I've had anxiety for as long as I can remember. Sometimes it's manageable, and sometimes it gets out of control. It seemed to have gone away mostly for about 2 years, but now it's back and I'm really lost. At the moment, it's quite severe and I really don't know what I can do about it. I don't have any coping methods or anything that are working right now, so suggestions of things I might be able to look into would be really helpful.

Lost

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Hi, im 23, have a great family, just graduated uni and am in a 7 year relationship. but I'm miserable. i have passions. I love my family. But I have no purpose, I have no drive. Things I previously loved, I no longer care for. Exercise, being with fr... View more

Hi, im 23, have a great family, just graduated uni and am in a 7 year relationship. but I'm miserable. i have passions. I love my family. But I have no purpose, I have no drive. Things I previously loved, I no longer care for. Exercise, being with friends, leaving the house. I've become a hermit, in my room most days all days, eating myself to death. To scared to meet new people, constantly disappointing friends and family as I'm to scared to make plans let alone keep them. I'm hopeless. I'm lazy. I'm always tired, overwhelmed and can not seem to understand how everyone else lives life and makes it. i still live at home, while I've graduated I've never had a good long job. I have no idea how to pay bills. Yes I may be privelliege in this sense, and I should be incredible grateful. But I just am so lost. i don't even want to change. Yet I hate the way I am living my life. It makes no sense. Sometimes the though of everything ending seems so relieving. Yet I could never inflict this pain on my family whom I love. im to scared to tell anyone or ask for help. I have done this in the past an only received judgement and went to a psychologist who did absolutely nothing but make me feel like I was an idiot. And made others (family) treat me differently. i don't want to be viewed as mentally ill, because you a treated so differently in society. And having that on record is bad for job prospects. not like I am even thinking about the future atm i have to get past the now plus I always feel like I put on an extremely fake happy facade, sometimes it doesn't feel fake, until once again I am alone. Then once again I realise how fake it is. Because honestly, I'm not happy. But being alone is so relieving. I think I have social anxiety. I never look, dress or equate to standards which I believe I should. I recently burnt my face in an accident, have gained weight, have a skin condition, and it all just makes me feel incredible insecure. I know our body's do not define us, and that they do not equate self worth. But me knowing that doesn't mean others treat me like those things don't matter. you can change your mind, but others minds and how they view me is not changed. i don't know, I just wanted to put this out there

My Story

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My name is Adriana, I suffer from ptsd after an abusive past, and Was also bullied at school. I am now a disability and mental health support worker, I am here to listen to anyone going through a tough time, and tell them it is not your fault for all... View more

My name is Adriana, I suffer from ptsd after an abusive past, and Was also bullied at school. I am now a disability and mental health support worker, I am here to listen to anyone going through a tough time, and tell them it is not your fault for all the things going wrong, sometimes life can be a bit tricky

Not good enough to get support?

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Hey guys, I'm new on here and don't really know what I'm doing, so I'll just get straight into it. I've had signs of anxiety since preschool age. Over the past couple months, it's gotten really bad again. To the point where I've had really bad nausea... View more

Hey guys, I'm new on here and don't really know what I'm doing, so I'll just get straight into it. I've had signs of anxiety since preschool age. Over the past couple months, it's gotten really bad again. To the point where I've had really bad nausea, dizziness, muscle twitching, difficulty breathing, etc. This time, I think I might need to see someone about it, but I don't feel valid enough. I feel like maybe my situation isn't serious enough; or other people have it so much worse, so I don't deserve to get help. I'm 15, so often I feel like I'm not old enough to have any valid problems. I know that's not true, but I've heard it from family members and other people, so sometimes it seems true. My mum is really supportive, but there's a lot of things she doesn't understand. She talks about "exposure therapy" (making me get a job and forcing me into triggering situations). But she only says that because she thinks that's what will help. I know she'd be happy to help me get support from a psychiatrist or someone, but I'm scared the rest of my family won't accept it. Especially 2 of my siblings, who have constantly made fun of me whenever I've said something as simple as "I'm having a bad day," because they don't believe that I could have any problems, being only 15. In my family, my mum is the only person I've talked to about having anxiety. The rest of my family have no idea. I just really don't know where to go from here.

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