Young people

career stress. please weigh in.

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Hey guys. so I'm in year 10 this year so we have to chose subject for years 11 and 12 aswell as start to think about what we want to do with our selves after school. quite surising to me that alot of the kids in my class have really clear plans of wh... View more

Hey guys. so I'm in year 10 this year so we have to chose subject for years 11 and 12 aswell as start to think about what we want to do with our selves after school. quite surising to me that alot of the kids in my class have really clear plans of what they are doing next or at the least what they want to be, but I have no idea on what I want to do. this isnt much of a problem for me cause i usually just wing things anyway but im not sure i should be taking the same tactic with something like this. Im very lucky and i go to a private school which does mean there is ceratin expectaions for me to do something decent and not end up working a 9 to 5 retail job. I'd love to hear your thoughts whether your going through this now or youve already finished school. have a good day.

Wassup?

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So i kinda need advice and whatnot on what im doing and what to do about it? Randomly, out of the blue i begin acting strange. how so? well I begin saying weird jokes, laughing histerically at nothing, making up storys about house hold items for peop... View more

So i kinda need advice and whatnot on what im doing and what to do about it? Randomly, out of the blue i begin acting strange. how so? well I begin saying weird jokes, laughing histerically at nothing, making up storys about house hold items for people, etc. but today i had it way worse than normal for some reason- i dont know why but it might be emotionally related as today my friends decided to dump me for good, dunno if thats it but i suspect it might be. I was chilling with my brother playing Animal Crossing New Leaf and without warning i began doing my weird stuff again but it was worse and lasted longer this time. despite knowing the word i want to say i would instictivly say the first few syllables over and over before saying the full word, i dont know if it would be called stuttering or not. i put my fingers to my brother's knee cap's skin and began moving it around, making illegible sounds. at some point i used both his knee caps and began to make them communitate. admittedly what they where saying didnt make much sense to me but for some reason i didnt want to stop finding all of this really fun. i would wrap my legs around my arm and crawl around, try to bite my 3ds screen, in the middle of doing these things i would randomly pause and rethink. i would think to myself "what am i doing?" but immediately go back to doing my thing. is this normal? its been going on for awhile but it was pretty intense tonight and idkk..

feelings towards others

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Hi all, Lately I've just been getting very easily irritated by others, to the point where I cat stand to be around people anymore. This is extremely frustrating, as I am still in school and spent my entire day with other people. I've never had this b... View more

Hi all, Lately I've just been getting very easily irritated by others, to the point where I cat stand to be around people anymore. This is extremely frustrating, as I am still in school and spent my entire day with other people. I've never had this before. all of a sudden I just had this overwhelming feeling of utter annoyance and the complete desire to just isolate myself. If anyone had any advice on what this is, it would be greatly greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Heartbreak, toxic friendships and feeling alone at 23.

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Does anybody else get tired of hearing “ you’re so young! You should be living the best years of your life!” Or is it just me? I’ve just turned 23 and all I do is sleep and go to work. None of this was by choice, my brain sometimes becomes too unbear... View more

Does anybody else get tired of hearing “ you’re so young! You should be living the best years of your life!” Or is it just me? I’ve just turned 23 and all I do is sleep and go to work. None of this was by choice, my brain sometimes becomes too unbearable that all I want to do is sleep and cry. I used to think it was just hormones but I’ve been like this since I was 15 & nothing has gotten better, only worse. I recently got rid of toxic friendships thinking that it would help but it’s only made me feel more alone. My ex best friend always used to talk about her boyfriend and never used to ask how I am. She’d talk about me behind my back and never really made me feel worthless. She’s the type where it’s okay for her to forget my birthday but if I ever did that to her I’d know about it. So I dumped her. I’ve tried socialising and making new friends but that just ends with disappointment. I’ve found it hard to make any decent friends the older you get. People always say “ you’re just looking in the wrong places” but these days I seem to be losing hope, thinking that maybe there’s no good people left. Girls my age always ditch me and choose their boyfriends over me and guys my age only want sex and don’t even try to be friends with you. I sometimes think maybe if I found a boyfriend I’d feel happier? Boys aren’t everything I know but I thought maybe if I try? Well I did and all I ended up with was heartbreak. I consider myself to be intelligent when analysing men’s behaviour, they’re all generally wanting one thing anyway however I ended up being fooled by a man who I thought loved me. He was my first love and I lost my virginity to him. We took it slow and you know people always say “make him wait & he’ll value you more”. So I did. 5 months later I decide to have sex for the first and only time, ever. Losing my virginity was a big thing for me, I obviously wanted it to be with someone special and I thought he was. Turns out he was leading me on for 5 months as a ruse to take my virginity and then move on to the next poor girl. I felt so stupid!!! So yeah, I’ve proven the whole “make him wait” tactic a little bullshit, everyone has a motive. So naturally I’ve decided boyfriends probably aren’t the answer to my loneliness. My next plan was to maybe adopt an animal? But I’ve concluded I’m too financially and mentally unstable to care for one properly. I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I guess I just want someone to listen to me for a change.

I don't feel like I fit in anymore

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So, I've been feeling this way for a while but have kind of just pushed the thoughts away and told myself it is not the end of the world. I feel like I don't really have my place, I don't really fit in in any specific friendship group. Everyone has t... View more

So, I've been feeling this way for a while but have kind of just pushed the thoughts away and told myself it is not the end of the world. I feel like I don't really have my place, I don't really fit in in any specific friendship group. Everyone has their special clique who they are really close with but then I feel like I'm almost on the exterior just watching as everyone else exists. I'm not saying I don't have any friends, what I'm saying is that out of those friends I don't really know where I 'belong' or where I fit, as I'm friends with many different types of people. Maybe that's just me being selfish, because I'm sure there's people out there who would kill to have a friend or two but I just don't know, I can't comprehend what I am feeling. My best friend who I can 100% say always has my back and we will always be close and I trust, she went away on holiday with a group of friends who prior to that holiday I would consider not all that close and if I weren't away at the time myself I would have gone on the trip with them. Anyway, since their trip they are all super, super close and they hang out really frequently and because I didn't go on that trip with them I'm kind of just left in the dust. Sure she makes an effort to invite me to hang out with them occasionally but I don't feel welcome or wanted. I'm almost just some chick who tagged along and no one really knows. Its such a sucky feeling and I'm sure if I spoke to her about it shed make more of an effort. But even then do I really want to surround myself with these people who are always moody and drug crazed? I don't know if I could ever get truly close with them, because of that barrier in that I don't know if I can truly be myself around them because I'm just not interested in what they are anymore. Then there's the group I'm friends with who are the complete opposite, we have a fun time together and Im always invited to hangout with them but there's just not that emotional connection that I have with other friends. Everything feels so surface level, almost like a facade like am I really friends with these people or do I just hangout with them because I have no one else. Of course there's those friends you will always be friends with you can go without seeing them for months and when you see them its like nothings changed, but again i'm not going to see them daily they are just one face in the crowd I guess I'm just trying to voice my opinions but has anyone else experienced this feeling?

Health Anxiety My Story / Whats yours??

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Hi.. So I have been suffering with Health Anxiety now for the past six years.. I don't think I have ever felt more alone suffering with this disease.. everyone either assumes your nuts.. or your a hypochondriac.. (which I am sure they categorize as t... View more

Hi.. So I have been suffering with Health Anxiety now for the past six years.. I don't think I have ever felt more alone suffering with this disease.. everyone either assumes your nuts.. or your a hypochondriac.. (which I am sure they categorize as the same thing right?) No one understands the debilitating feeling of being awake at 2 in the morning pacing down your hallway wondering if you should go to the hospital or not. I used to feel so alone .. I recently however started writing about my journey and what happened to me personally. Even the act of writing for no one other that myself has been reliving. I am very very very new to the blogasphere but reading other peoples stories has been so comforting to me. I am not alone. I am not the only one who thinks that the worst is just around the corner, waiting to catch you when you least expect it. I would love to hear other peoples stories or share my own more in depth. I just feel I wish six years ago I had been ballsy enough to join a forum.. to say something. Anyway.. i look forward to hearing from you guys

Can't concentrate

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Hi all, I'm in school and in year 11, The work was easy at the start of the term but now its harder and I know that it can be but I cant seem to concentrate, I don't know why. All I do now is sit at my desk trying to think and staring at the paper, I... View more

Hi all, I'm in school and in year 11, The work was easy at the start of the term but now its harder and I know that it can be but I cant seem to concentrate, I don't know why. All I do now is sit at my desk trying to think and staring at the paper, I've asked the teachers for help but I don't take their answers that help.

should i go back to my old school

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hi, im daisy and i've just started a school in australia at the start of term 3. i came from somewhere in asia and the reason for the move here is because my parents had lived in asia for over 20 years, and they decided it was time to move back. i wa... View more

hi, im daisy and i've just started a school in australia at the start of term 3. i came from somewhere in asia and the reason for the move here is because my parents had lived in asia for over 20 years, and they decided it was time to move back. i was born and raised in asia, so this is a massive change for me. the first few weeks at school here were really, really rough. almost every night i was in tears thinking about my old school and how i should never have left. i have a friendship group here, but i really miss my old friends. also, the academics at my old school were amazing. it was the best school in the country and wouldve set me up really really well for the future. the sport here is a lot better than my old school though, and the lifestyle of living in australia is everything ive ever dreamt of (the beaches, the people, the shops, the city etc), but having been here 6 weeks now, im still convinced that its not the right place for me. i have the choice to go back to my old school (in asia), but theres a time pressure on my decision, becuase they're starting theyre GCSE (british system exam) course this term, and i cant miss too much of it or there'd be too much catch up work and id be way too stressed. as well as the time pressure, it affects my family, because if im really not happy here and decide i want to go back, it means my family cant move here, which they have been wanting to do for a while now. so, im not sure whether or not i should go back, and my mind is just cluttered with confusion and ive never felt more lost, and i dont feel at home anywhere. anybody got any advice on what i should do??

Losing Friends

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just making this post because i’m not sure if what i’m feeling is temporary or something somewhat serious. it started 2 years ago when i left high school in year 10 to work, the next year things were fine between me and my friends but i still found i... View more

just making this post because i’m not sure if what i’m feeling is temporary or something somewhat serious. it started 2 years ago when i left high school in year 10 to work, the next year things were fine between me and my friends but i still found it so hard to cope with the changes. this year has been completely different, i got a boyfriend at the start of the year who i have known for almost two years & he has been the only one that’s really been there for me. i understand my friends are busy with school but they never make an effort to see me anymore, maybe it’s because i’ve become somewhat different to them now as i have a different attitude towards most things compared to them & i now smoke weed at least once a week and other drugs every now and then. i personally don’t think it’s entirely an issue or that it’s a bad thing because it’s just something i use to have a good time w my partner, which is things my friends have never experienced & why i probably feel so different to them. & out of anger and being overwhelmed about feeling so lonely, i left my group chat with all of my group in it because i was over them all talking about school. i never had anything to add to the conversation and when i did i never got a response & i never got a message asking why i left the group chat. i have also been very upset with most things in my life more than usual; i have no idea what i want to do with my life, i don’t have a close relationship with anyone in my family, i’m scared losing my friends and partner and i’m scared of failing in life. recently all these things have been on my mind and it constantly bringing me down, if my boyfriend is busy it makes me feel even more lonely as i have no one else to talk to, seeing my friends at parties that i wasn’t invited to makes me feel even worse about myself as well as seeing them succeed in school while i do nothing with myself makes me feel so upset & im not sure how to get out of this rut i’m in. so yeah that’s basically it, i just kind of want to know what else to do & why i’m feeling the way i do & yeah

What is wrong with me?

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Hi everyone This is my first time posting and I guess, first time trying to get some help I haven't been to a doctor to get help yet so I can't accurately describe/label what is wrong with me I can feel myself falling into a really dark place and the... View more

Hi everyone This is my first time posting and I guess, first time trying to get some help I haven't been to a doctor to get help yet so I can't accurately describe/label what is wrong with me I can feel myself falling into a really dark place and there is nothing causing it. Last week, and again tonight, I started crying and I can't control it. Once the crying stops I can't breathe and I can't get my heart to beat at a normal pace I am afraid to go to a doctor because they usually just say have a nurofen and get some rest i am about to turn 23, I am in my last semester of uni and I don't know what I'll do when i graduate currently I am laying in bed and i feel like I'm floating, I also feel like I am being horrible to everyone I know because I am upset within myself but I don't know what to do about it I don't know what is wrong with me, I want to see a psychologist so badly but I just looked one up and it is $160 an hour and I can't afford it can anybody help point me in the right direction? I know I need help but I am so afraid to start

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