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I can't make friends, what's wrong with me?

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I don't really know what to do anymore. i used to have a lot of friends in highschool, a massive group of girl and guy friends, it was great, I was out every weekend and always doing stuff. Then one day it just changed, I started to get picked on, la... View more

I don't really know what to do anymore. i used to have a lot of friends in highschool, a massive group of girl and guy friends, it was great, I was out every weekend and always doing stuff. Then one day it just changed, I started to get picked on, laughed at and left out. Fast forward 3 years and I don't have any friends. I've tried so hard but people just don't like me or don't include me. I've tried traveling on my own, joining sport teams, joined uni clubs and groups and gone on camps. I meet a lot of people, but no that wants to stick around. People don't like me. My parents have always brushed it off as a 'phase' or 'jealousy' but Im so tired of crying, and feeling alone and always wondering what's wrong with me. Why can't i make friends? I'm nice, I've always gone out of my way for people. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I don't want to feel so alone anymore, I hate it.

Life is really hard sometimes.

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It's been a while since I last posted. By nature, I find it hard to share my feelings and thoughts outside of counselling. I'm honestly feeling that I've made some big mistakes in the past. I've just finished my Uni degree recently and I've been look... View more

It's been a while since I last posted. By nature, I find it hard to share my feelings and thoughts outside of counselling. I'm honestly feeling that I've made some big mistakes in the past. I've just finished my Uni degree recently and I've been looking for any work. Nothing at all is happening, in 8 months, I've had two interviews and countless rejections. I should have gotten even part time work while I was studying. Now I'm over qualified for simple stuff and I don't have enough experience for my degree field of work. I want to be able to provide more income at home so that we won't be so broke all the time. I feel like I can't do anything right at the moment. I'm feeling like I've screwed up. I want to feel like I'm doing something that matters too. The worst part is, I am now realising that all the hard work I'm putting in means nothing. Because no matter how hard I'm trying, it's not going to get me anywhere because no-one realises or notices. Gonna have to keep trying and hope I get lucky. Maybe. Someday. I just wanted to vent a bit. Things just suck.

I feel sad and it seems like there's no way out

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Hi all I'm supposed to go to sleep soon, but I feel sad. I have been feeling sad almost everyday now. I see a psychologist though but, I don't really have anyone to talk to when things get tough. I grew up really poor and I have been living in a dysf... View more

Hi all I'm supposed to go to sleep soon, but I feel sad. I have been feeling sad almost everyday now. I see a psychologist though but, I don't really have anyone to talk to when things get tough. I grew up really poor and I have been living in a dysfunctional home for all of my life. I study full time at uni and I can't afford to move out. My mum calls me a demon and makes me feel terrible about myself. My mum is never there for me and watches the tv. She never lifts me up, she tells all of her friends and relatives that I'm weak and she tells me that I am weak and that I can't do her job. My psychologist made me realise that I have been abused for all of my life. But I am just so confused because everyone always pushes me to my mum. And my view of the world is complex, I don't have anyone but myself. Since my mum and dad spilt, my mum tells me she doesn't make enough money to support me so I get money from the government to survive. It's tough. I currently do occupational therapy and it has made me realise how wrong I am for OT. I've had sleepless nights. When I study, I need a blanket wrapped around me. I feel like I am not smart enough. I don't even have my car license because when I first started driving, I drove with my mum and I got into a car accident. Feels like other people come from good families and have enough money to survive. I have this pressure to be at uni or to have a job because I know in 5 or 10 years time, my mum will probably no longer work and I might not have a roof or even food to eat. My mum makes me so ill. I used to see mental health services, but it always seemed like I was the problem. When I had my mental breakdown and got a manic episode, she made me seem like I was the problem. I was the problematic daughter. But she never let me into her life. Whenever I said that I was tired or sad, she would say "you think you're the only one who's sad" I am getting really sick. I can feel it because I cannot seem to accept the people in my life who care for me. I am worried about them leaving me when they graduate from uni and I am still poor. I feel like people use that victim mentality against you. I also feel like people use things against me a lot. Feels like I have to be normal, but I am dying on the inside.

stress and choosing between two things that are really important to me

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so basically i'm a very spiritual person who has this one religious teacher who is coming to Australia next year. this is quite rare and only happens every 2-3 years. they're staying for 4 weeks in town but there are two problems: - the time i want t... View more

so basically i'm a very spiritual person who has this one religious teacher who is coming to Australia next year. this is quite rare and only happens every 2-3 years. they're staying for 4 weeks in town but there are two problems: - the time i want to go is overlapping by a week with schooltime (during the last week of school) and my family thinks i won't be able to handle it because i'd get too stressed, etc. - on the 2-week holidays the day after I'd come back from these teachings, we're going to Japan to see my grandparents but i'm worried it's going to be way too much for me to handle. mainly because my dad doesn't want to take off a day from our holiday for me to re-pack and recuperate once i come back. so i suggested doing it the holidays after that, except he thinks my grandparents are getting 'old,' which is a politically correct term for 'really unhealthy and frail,' and he doesn't want to risk it. of course i don't either and this adds an entirely new level of stress and pain to my situation. i'm so sad because i know they probably don't have a long time left, so i should visit them ASAP, except how am i when i need to go to these teachings, but don't even have a day to repack and everything? i hate travelling and it's going to be awful for me if i have to come back from a flight one day, then leave on another in the next, without having any time to pack or do anything. i know that sounds like a weak reason for getting so stressed out but honestly i hate, hate planes and flying. absolutely can't stand it. it's a 9-hour flight to Japan and that in itself is really hard for me. when i fly i always have to take heavy medication to calm me down. so yes, it's going to be almost impossible for me, let alone the fact that i would have just finished doing truckloads of schoolwork. and that's the other thing. my school is Christian. i'm Buddhist. if i take a week off school for religious reasons, they probably won't give me an extension. no, i'm SURE they won't give me an extension because it's a private school and they don't allow these things. i've heard that once my friend took a week off school for a holiday and the school gave them so much crap for it. it's so hard for me because i know this religious teacher is also quite old and who knows, he may never come back to Australia before he dies. i have no idea. so basically i'm choosing between two sets of people that i both love so much. freaking out over here.

Me and my problems

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Hi. I am just a kid and I know this is an adult website but I don't care. Please help me none of my friends like me. I just saw one of them who shall not named to protect thier privacy (even they wouldnt for me) and he told me to shut up because he w... View more

Hi. I am just a kid and I know this is an adult website but I don't care. Please help me none of my friends like me. I just saw one of them who shall not named to protect thier privacy (even they wouldnt for me) and he told me to shut up because he was watching youtube. I am ten years old, have a super high I Q rating and am in the gifted and talented program at my school. Another is really fickle. One minute shes giving you money to buy cookies from the canteen the next all she does is step on my feet and complain about my tie. its part of the uniform at my school and she was wearing one just like mine! Please tell me how to make new friends and how to get rid of my old ones. The only friend who has stayed true to me is one who isnt currently at my school yet (he will be in two years). We're practicly brothers. Yes please exuse some of my spelling typing and holding back tears is hard. Should I bring this up with my BFF/Brother from another mother? Uncertainty is a big part of it too. I just don't know what to do.

I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom but I’ve only got myself to blame

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I’ve never had a place where I could talk completely openly and anonymously. I’m scared even now that people will work out who I am, I don’t open up to people usually and I like to keep my problems my problems. I don’t even talk about half of these t... View more

I’ve never had a place where I could talk completely openly and anonymously. I’m scared even now that people will work out who I am, I don’t open up to people usually and I like to keep my problems my problems. I don’t even talk about half of these things with my partner. I have tried but I don’t think he really understands as he is from what I would call a perfect childhood and family. To be brief my early days growing up my dad was abusive and in and out of jail and my mum spent a lot of time in hospital with severe PTSD. We spent a lot of my childhood running from one womens asylum to another running away. I then (with my little brother) spent a lot of my childhood and teenage hood in and out of child and family services when dad decided he wanted to until he would go back to jail. Me and my little brother had severe separation anxiety when we were young as a result. Mum never really worked or couldn’t hold a job because of her PTSD so growing up we lived well below the poverty line. We relied on the Salvos to bring us food a lot of the time. Fast forward to early teenage hood and I was one of 2 girls chosen each year to attend a private girls school free of charge due to family circumstances. This was both a blessing and a curse. It was hard to fit in and I learnt there to pretend I was someone I was not. I saw the lives they lived and the families they came from and became so envious. I also however developed and was diagnosed with Trichotilimania, depression, anxiety disorder and Hyper Vigilance during this time. As soon as I started working at age 14 and 9 months I had to help support my family and with whatever money I had left I would spend on clothes and anything that could make me fit in. This is where my money problems began. I never saved. All I wanted to do was fit in with everyone else. My mum didn’t even have a car so I disassociated myself with her and created myself a new identity with my friends and anyone I met. Fast forward to today and I have put myself in so much debt. I don’t know how to overcome it. Sometimes I wonder why my boyfriend even loves me, he could do so much better. Im holding him back. He is perfect with money has had 3 houses by age 27 (he is older). I don’t know how to get myself out of it but most of all treat my spending addiction. I don’t ever talk about this out of fear of judgement. I recently got prescribed a benzodiazepine because my breathing is so out of control from anxiety due to this. I don’t know what to do.

Everything Angers Me

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Not to sound like your typical angsty, testosterone-filled ball of suppressed teenage emotion, but everything angers me. I didn't think it'd be appropriate for me to add onto a different forum and I'm hoping that this forum gives me as much insight o... View more

Not to sound like your typical angsty, testosterone-filled ball of suppressed teenage emotion, but everything angers me. I didn't think it'd be appropriate for me to add onto a different forum and I'm hoping that this forum gives me as much insight on why I'm angry. I understand that my thought processes are a bit off thanks to my underdeveloped frontal lobe but I'm being 100% honest. Somehow, it was so easy for me to change from this person so crippled by despair that daily necessities became null into a person debilitated by anger. Anything can, and probably will piss me off. Something as small as 2 minutes of my time wasted feels like the biggest inconvenience of my life. Anyone slightly attacking me or disagreeing with me does peeve me, but nowadays I get more and more annoyed for the smallest reasons. For example, anyone touchy with me or more comfortable with me than they should make me angry. Now my thought process is, (and as irrational as it may sound), "they're comfortable with me but I'm not comfortable with them, who gave them the right?" So usually I tell the person off. "Don't touch me please." And they still continue to do it, everyone in my friend group says stuff like "They're just a touchy person." And it makes me feel like I'm in the wrong when clearly he's just not respecting my boundaries. That was just one of many examples that I do not feel are relevant telling, all I know is that I reach a boiling point of anger daily and I don't know how to release any of it. There is no underlying stress (other than the fact that I have homework to catch up on, which doesn't stress me a lot of the time), so I don't know what's wrong with me. I want to go to a therapist about this but I'm not familiar or comfortable with the whole opening up thing. As far as I know, my family doesn't know much about me, only the surface stuff like "he's sarcastic all the time," and it'd be weird if they ask why I need to see a therapist. My sister already sees a psychologist and my parents are blowing a lot of money on her. Once again, my problems do not exist to anyone except me, because of my sister.

The only way i could write about this was in song

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I need some help please reply, here you go: not long ago if u would like to know, i got a stress fracture in my foot, crutches hurt like hell each step i wanted to scream and yell. everyday i wanted to quit, but that wasn’t even the worst bit. most d... View more

I need some help please reply, here you go: not long ago if u would like to know, i got a stress fracture in my foot, crutches hurt like hell each step i wanted to scream and yell. everyday i wanted to quit, but that wasn’t even the worst bit. most days at lunch you would leave me alone, the best part of the day is when i went home. i spent 7 months of that damn sideline. once i was back there wasn’t any pain but i had to learn how to use my foot again. i worked so hard to get to where i wanted, for a while i felt like i was haunted, like no one wanted to be around me, like you locked the door and threw away the key. what was stopping me from ending it all? i just needed something small, i had something to look forward to, something that got me away from you, i achieved my goal. it was the best week of my life, a week away from all of the strife. i had finally got over all the shit, i had shoved it deep down in a pit. but as you know life isn’t fair i had done my knee just at the point when i felt like i was free. i don’t expect you to know what’s going on, just all my hopes of playing finals had gone, what i needed were some friends and that’s all, just something to distract me from going to ball but then u cut me out, i’ve been feeling shit for a while but i still go that mile to make myself smile i do it for you guys the ones who i thought were a friend but i guess u put those days to a end everything that you do all the shit you put me through i put that behind me but eventually i crack maybe when u stab me in the back i spent a whole day alone but u wouldn’t of known we had a plan all it takes is a phone, i never wanted to fight, i was on the edge and had a bad day so what did want me to say then u have a couple shit days too, and oh shit it didn’t have a clue. it’s only because you made a scene, but i couldn’t done it too i was keen once you are sad everyone comes your way, i am so sorry she feels like that hey? i feel that way too like people aren’t letting you be you i feel shit most of the time but what’s that going to gain just use ur brain, i know you probably are still in pain, but what about me that’s right you forgot i only takes one little thought, i always do that for you, but i just get pushed to the back of the queue, made me fell like i’m useless like i’m the one who is a dofus but even then u don’t even care u don’t even acknowledge that i’m even there u ignore the fact that u done something wrong and i’m the one who has to act strong

This is why I exclude myself from people

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So..my friend lives with me..(don’t think I can call her that because she never hangs out with me..anymore) i wanted to do something funny but whenever I’m around she’s either being in a bad mood or slightly Annoyed then I feel stupid for doing somet... View more

So..my friend lives with me..(don’t think I can call her that because she never hangs out with me..anymore) i wanted to do something funny but whenever I’m around she’s either being in a bad mood or slightly Annoyed then I feel stupid for doing something that was meant to be funny and it gets ruined by a mood, this happens with people at school as well, I always sit alone now..I’m starting to think people don’t really like me..

How do I start to trsut peope

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I am 15 and I moved from China to Melbourne at the age of 12. School went generally well for me, but my achievements don't seem to meet my family's standard. I was really upset for that at first, then I was surprised when I found out how people can g... View more

I am 15 and I moved from China to Melbourne at the age of 12. School went generally well for me, but my achievements don't seem to meet my family's standard. I was really upset for that at first, then I was surprised when I found out how people can get so much support when they're feeling bad or need help, but soon I find I have trouble trusting my teachers or psychologist and just can't say what I want to tell them because I am so scared of being judged. Most time I just pretend to be fine when I'm not, and just let things pile up inside me. I don't feel like opening up to my family for the same reason. I do have close friends, but I moved to another school last so we're apart, plus I'm afraid of being trouble for her and I don't want her to worry about me. I feel so helpless, I know people like my teachers can help me but I just can't trust anyone. What can I do to help myself start trsuting?

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Life is really hard sometimes.

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stress and choosing between two things that are really important to me

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I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom but I’ve only got myself to blame

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Everything Angers Me

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The only way i could write about this was in song

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This is why I exclude myself from people

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I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom but I’ve only got myself to blame

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Everything Angers Me

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The only way i could write about this was in song

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This is why I exclude myself from people

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