So flat.My depression has taken over

[Bluekimba]

Hi there i have suffered depression most of my life.Im on medication but i dont think its helping much now.Im so flat and tired all the time.I think negative all the time.I cant pick myself up.I have 3 kids and im struggling.Most of the time i feel alone and the only person i can talk to is the voice in my head.Most days i wish i was dead but i keep going for my kids.Please help what can i do to change my way of thinking and give me motervation.kimba..

[white knight]

Hi kimba, welcome

With the information you have provided, and the you have diagnosed depression, you might need to lean on your kids just a little bit.

By that I mean at certsin times they should be called on to do extra chores. Gradually they will learn that sometimes mummy isnt well and she needs more help.

Dont feel guilt over this, kids have a good life and no household is free of being unique in their problems.

Also visit your GP. I'm on mood stabilisers for bipolar 2 and a year ago I got GP approval to raise my dose, I got worse so loweted it and bingo...never looked back. Your meds might need tweeking.

Motivation is a tough transformation. Below are some threads that might help. But it will have to come from within you. A never give up mentality is priceless and I know that.

Google these

Topic: depression and the timing of motivation- beyondblue

Topic: 30 minutes can change your life- beyondblue

Topic: motivation, search and rescue it- beyondblue

Topic: the best praise you'll ever get- beyondblue

Topic: focus and never ever give up- beyondblue

Topic: switching mindsets- beyondblue

Topic: clear the road I'm on my way- beyondblue

Thankyou for coming on bb forums. I'm sure you are a great mum.

Tony WK

[Zeal]

Hi Kimba,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear that you are so swamped by negative thoughts and exhaustion. Based on your post, it sounds like you might be a single Mum. I could be way off the mark though, so please correct me if this is the case.

As Tony said, going to your GP is wise. In addition, do you have close people in your life (whether family or friends) who could be a source of emotional support? It would be great if you had someone you can trust who can come and help you out, either at home or by taking your kids on an outing. Any help would be beneficial.

Please save helpline numbers in your phone so that you can make a call when you are in immediate need of support. Beyondblue is on 1300 22 4636, and Lifeline is on 13 11 14. These services run 24/7.

This online resource on depression is very informative:

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=37

It would be great to hear back from you!

Best wishes,

Zeal

[geoff]

hello Kimba, I feel as though a lot has changed for you over a short period, although I know that you have had depression for a long time, but circumstances may have increased at the moment and by continually talking to yourself is only going to make the situation worse, we both know this, so we have to be sure that you can get the help you need.
If you are pretending to behave as though there is nothing wrong with you, so that the kids won't have to worry, then this can only go on for a certain amount of time, because eventually you are going to break down, then your situation will unfortunately become much worse, and we don't want this to happen, nor do you and especially your kids.
Your medication may need to reviewed, and I say this to be a.s.a.p, because if you don't then these days which you don't want are going to continue on.
If you are a single mum then ask your doctor about the 'mental health plan' which would entitle you to 10 free visits to see a psychologist, not many sessions but it may spark something inside you which could then stop you thinking negative thoughts to yourself, because these are what are troubling you.
We don't know what they are, and you certainly don't have to say, because that's entirely up to you whether or not you want to tell us, however any motivation will not come until any of these thoughts are controlled. Geoff.

[Bluekimba]

Thank you i will have a read when the kids are in bed.

[Bluekimba]

Hi thank you.I am married but he has worked away from home fore 2 month.I ask my family for help but everyone works long hours so the answers usually no.

[Bluekimba]

thank you i think i do need to change my medication but im on a very high dose.I know if i slowly reduce them to change them i know it wont be good.

[Kazzl]

Hi Bluekimba - I just wanted to comment on your last post hun. You are absolutely right about changing medications requiring a reduction and withdrawal period, and no it's not fun to go through. In fact it can be hell, I've done it twice.

BUT - once you're through and a new medication kicks in things can be so very much better. Personally I think it is worth going through the short-term hell for the chance to get back to a better place long-term. Have a good think about it and maybe talk with your doctor so you're fully I formed of what to expect if you do it.

If you do decide to change, make some plans for support. I know that's hard with kids and with your husband working away, but it is essential. You could even talk with your doctor about going into hospital for a while so you're safe. I know quite a few people who have done that when withdrawing. I should have done that first time around, but I didn't know you could. Second time around I had a solid wall of support around me and it wasn't so bad.

Whatever you decide, know that you will get through this. Support is available. If you want you could call our helpline on 1300 22 4636.

Best wishes

Kaz