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New member lonely in battle in a busy world

My_Kids_Make_Me_Smile
Community Member

Hi All.

Before creating my own intro thread read through a few introductions and straight away realised the amount of support that exists and made me want to get posting straight away to be apart of the community and share in the benefits. Depression has been part of my life for a long time now and at the stage of my life where finding myself more and more on my own in the battle with next to no support for what limited friends and family i have. The part I struggle with most is being able to confidently say i have no one in my life that tries to be there for me when they must all be it hard to understand for them see what i go through. I have always done lots for everyone if i can help someone and the more and more I see that this is not returned the harder it is to want to continue to be there for others when i am so alone in my battles.

Looking forward to meeting new people with similar situations and being part of something that I help will help myself and others.

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi my kids, welcome

Lige is teally difficult under normal circumstances. Its even tougher when you are a giver and others fo the taking.

Over the years I've fine tuned my attitude to people to include a number of measures. ..I've decided that I dislike some types of people. Under that umbrella is toxic people, demanding, manipulative, violent, abusive and selfish people. Some people might have such traits and not be so bad, then I tolerate them but keep my distance.

This protection is essential for sensitive people and sensitivity is often associated with those that have mental illness

So, selecting friends has never been more important in terms of being careful. Summing them up in how they contribute toward your friendship is important. But we shouldnt seek equality of effort just a pleasant amount.

If you google these threads it might put it more clearly and includes strategies. Use google. Even if you just read the first page of each thread

Topic: fortress of survival- beyondblue

Topic: the labyrinth of friendships- beyondblue

Topic: the weighing scale effect on friendships- beyondblue

Topic: smoke and mirrors- its not real- beyondblue

Topic: they just wont understand why?- beyondblue

Tony WK

molokai
Community Member

Hi My Kids,

Less than 24 hours ago I thought I had no one.

I've found BB and heaps of people right here 24/7 on call just for me!

And then you give back and the multiplier effect kicks in.

i think you can now say out loud that you now have stacks of people who will be there for you and that they are able to see what you are going through.

Sunny side up!

cheers!

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello My Kids, sometimes when we don't feel as though anyone cares about how we are feeling is the time to start associating ourselves with people who have been in the same position and situation as you are now in.
People on this site have been through their own time of being in depression, whether it's weeks, months or years, normally the latter, so they can relate to what you are saying.
Get used to talking with us before you start trying to find friends outside of this site, but only if that suits you, and I say this because once you know that you have some backing it will give you more confidence and make you realise who is actually going to help you away from this site. Geoff.

Hi WK,

Thank you for the thoughts on how important the type of people and friends i have around me can be. I am definitely in the stage of my life that this does make lots of sense. Thanks for the topic helps it is on my to do list!

Hi Molokai,

Thanks for the reassurance. It has been open opening to the affect it can have. Thanks for commenting as its appreciated

Hi Geoff,

Your words are very true and hit home to my situation right now. Throughout my life people have come and gone however in the past few years i have really noticed the impact of people that just dont understand and haven't been or are in similar situations and therefore end up at the point where I find myself not knowing who i can turn to. I am excited to become part of this site and relating to others and I value your help before finding friends outside of the forum. Thanks again Geoff