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New here - never felt like this!

Positivepeony
Community Member
Well where do I begin? I'm a new first time mum with a husband who constantly works away, to the point he wasn't even here for the birth. I also work full time from home whilst looking after our baby and I literally do everything on my own - I haven't slept more than 2 hours a night in 10 months now. I'm distressed and drowning. Then to top it all off, I've recently found out that while he was away for work while I was giving birth to our child, he was having an affair with a coworker that I believe still would be continuing if I hadn't found out. We live in a state where I have no family or friends and I just don't know where or who to turn to. I feel myself sinking deeper and deeper, the only thing that keeps me going is my child. I just don't even know where to start, my life has completely fallen apart and I just don't have the time or energy to even sort out how I am feeling.
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Peppermintbach
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi Positivepeony,

You sound so understandably hurt, lonely, & overwhelmed. I feel for you...you’ve pretty much been raising your newborn all by yourself with minimal support from anyone...I can’t even imagine how stressful, draining & lonely that must be...no one to share the load or cheer you on...

I feel saddened your husband wasn’t there to support you during childbirth. I feel that must have been so hard...and his affair to top it off....I’m so, so sorry...

Can I ask how have you been holding up since your opening post?

I think you’re very brave to share some of your story here...

Kindness and care,

Pepper

hob2
Community Member

my children, no all children, have magical powers i believe

Let that help U somehow on that difficult time.